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About me
I was a feminine boy who never fit in, and the constant bullying and pressure to be more masculine left me feeling broken. I found an online community that convinced me all my problems were because I was born male and that transitioning was the answer. I socially transitioned, hoping for a fresh start, but my deep-seated depression and anxiety never went away. I eventually realized I wasn't in the wrong body; I was just trying to escape a society that punishes boys for being different. Now I've detransitioned and am learning to accept myself as a male with a unique personality, free from that harmful ideology.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I never fit in as a boy. I was a naturally feminine kid, and that caused me nothing but trouble. My parents were always on my case, telling me the things I liked weren't for boys and trying to get me to act more masculine. At school, it was even worse; I was bullied constantly for just being myself. By the time I was a teenager, I felt completely broken and out of place. I had a lot of trauma and very low self-esteem.
I started spending a lot of time online, and that's where I found the trans community. It felt like a lifeline. The idea was presented that all my problems—the bullying, the feeling of being wrong—would disappear if I had just been born a girl. It was like being offered salvation. I became convinced that I was defective as a male and that transitioning was the only way to fix myself. Looking back, it felt very much like being recruited into a cult. Everyone in the community reinforced the idea that this was my true path, and any doubts I had were shut down by others telling me to stay strong.
I socially transitioned in my late teens. It gave me a sense of belonging I'd never had before. But the underlying issues—the depression, the anxiety, the feeling that my body was wrong—didn't go away. I started to realize that I hadn't solved anything; I had just put a new label on my pain. The problem wasn't that I was born in the wrong body; the problem was that society is rotten and punishes people, especially boys, for not being stereotypes. There's nothing wrong with having a unique personality. The wrongness is in a world that can't accept it.
I never took hormones or had any surgeries. I'm grateful for that now. I eventually detransitioned because I understood that I was trying to escape from myself rather than learning to accept who I am. The whole experience was based on an ideology that you have to accept on faith—the idea that you can change your sex by identifying differently. But on a unbiased level, I was just a unique individual trying to survive in a flawed society. I don't regret exploring transition because it led me to this understanding, but I deeply regret buying into the ideology that encouraged me to see my natural self as defective.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Childhood | Felt like a feminine boy, faced constant correction from parents and bullying from peers. Developed significant trauma and low self-esteem. |
| Mid-teens | Found and became heavily involved in online trans communities. Began to believe I was transgender. |
| 18 | Socially transitioned, believing it was the solution to my lifelong discomfort. |
| 21 | Began to question the ideology, realizing my problems were societal, not inherent to my sex. |
| 22 | Detransitioned. Came to accept myself as a male with a feminine personality. |
Top Comments by /u/-Arh-:
You will be surprised how devoted people can be to the idea. They are convinced it is good for them, therefore they are good no matter how badly it affects them.
Think of it like someone joining a religious cult. The cult regularly takes big chunk of money from members, even gets them to sign their houses away and puts them through all sorts of other inconveniences and difficulties in life. But members are still happy, they are part of the community, they finally found a place they belong to. And when you doubts begin to creep in, your members reassure you that it's all good and that you need to stay strong on your righteous path.
Increased social media presence means that there is increased exposure to all sorts of ideas.
And trans movement in particular has infiltrated science for many decades now. There is a perceived legitimacy to it. It's not the first time something unethical becomes trendy by infiltrating science.
Examples that come to mind:
- Helmut Kentler
- Lobotomy
- John Money
John Money in fact can be attributed as progenitor for current movement, since he is the one who came up with the idea of gender as identity, separate from sex. And he drove two children to suicide with his gender experiments.
Calling it an IDEA is spot on.
You have to accept that it is possible to change your sex on ideological level. You have to accept that you can identify as opposite sex or whatever else on ideological level.
On unbiased level you are just an individual that happened to have a very unique personality, which negatively affects you due to being inside a flawed society.
These ideologues pray on such people and offer "salvation", which encourages you instead of accepting yourself to recognize yourself as defective and resort to trying to artificially change yourself.
Oh, for sure. The ideology penetrates anywhere it can. It employs every tactic a religion would. But the key difference is that because it's de facto not a religion, it can getaway with things religions can't. Separation of church and state happened, but separation of trans ideology and state did not and may never will.
I firmly believe that the root of the problem is society.
Lets say a given boy is naturally feminine. Growing up he has behavior and interests that are stereotypically associated with opposite sex. Parents keep depriving him from something because "it's not for boys". Parents keep trying to correct his behavior, so he acts "like a boy". Then he gets subjected to bullying and mockery by peers for the way he is. An idea that he wouldn't have any of his problems, had he been born to opposite sex, is very easy to arrive to. By the time such boy grows up, he will have as many traumas as medals on a ww2 veteran's suit. Such individual is a primary target demography for the trans movement.
There is nothing wrong with such people. It's the society that is rotten and needs to change.