Obviously they're physically different, but they're also socially different. Transwomen and cis women do not have the same behaviors. Trans women were also socialized as male in their formative years and there's really no amount of transitioning that's going to change how that impacts how they interact with the world.

It's very similar to how there's a way in which say Japanese people think about and interact with the world that Americans do not. That doesn't mean people who live in Japan and people who live in America, that means people who are natively Japanese or American(not necessarily ethnically) who were born and raised in those respective countries. An American will always have an American mindset no matter how long they live somewhere else and a Japanese will always have a Japanese mindset no matter where they move to or how long they live there.

The things that happen during your formative years, including how you're taught to view and interact with the world have an immutable effect on the rest of your life and who you are as a person.

As other people have pointed out, growing up as a trans person or a trans lesbian, is not the same as growing up as a lesbian. As far as those two things relate, they will not interact with the subject the same way that the other do because they're two completely separate and non-overlapping experiences.

I'm not going to say that I fully agree with your takes on things or don't find issue with your framing, but you are definitely right in that female lesbians are different from MtF lesbians and should not be expected to treat MtF lesbians as though they're both identical groups. It's wild that this is even a widely spread idea because I've never once seen this kind of sentiment be applied to FtM's and gay males.

And yeah, no one is allowed to express gender in a unique or blurry way. If you're too masculine, you MUST be FtM. Too feminine? MUST be MtF. That's a massive issue right now and has been for almost a decade at this point if not more.

Their comment on 'healthy breasts' just sounds insane. It's flesh. It's pretty objective whether or not flesh is healthy. Scarred flesh is not what you would consider healthy in a general sense. It's only after the scarring heals and it returns to being normal skin that you would call it healthy again. Before then it could either get better or get worse and scar more.

I saw woman when I looked at your face. Didn't realize you were MtF until I actually read the title. The most accurate thing I can say is you give off FtM vibes. I have no idea how that relates to the question you've posed, but that's my honest interpretation of you.

You look far, FAR more than vaguely feminine. When I look at you I just see what the average woman of your age and body type looks like. There's not really much of anything that makes you visually stand out as more masculine when compared to other women.

Transwomen are socially women for the overwhelming majority of situations, but the physical and biological realities of not being cis women means that there are necessarily situations where 'women' does not include transwomen.

That's about it really.

Yeah, that's called having an overly narrow view on gender and gender roles. Those things are stereotypes but they also are forms of gender expression that do exist. That said, they're also the tip of the iceberg when it comes to all the many, many forms of gender expression that exist for both men and women.

It's no one's fault and I wouldn't even say it's because you were misandrist or misogynistic, but because you hadn't seen and experienced all there was to see and experience (and still haven't because no one has). It's the old story about people living in caves. If that's all you see that's all the world is to you. It just sounds like you discovered that there was more to a lot of things than what you used to know and it's 100% valid to learn as you grow and grow as you learn.

a I mean, it's everything really. You have the cheekbones of one of those women you have a very similar eyebrow area structure and yeah your nose is similar as well but only because your overall facial structure is. Like you look like what the Greeks considered the Pinnacle of beauty

People love feminine men in very intimate ways. The problem there and with you're feeling relative to the area around you seems to be that you're not necessarily in a 'good area' I would say. If you're not being accepted and welcomed and feeling seen as a member of your community in general I would also question the attention you received while you were trans.

I am a guy and I will tell you from experience. There's a large amount of men who won't even consider a woman who isn't masculine. Masculine is much more than just looks though. This kind of guy might be slightly more interested in you approaching them though.

If you tend to have an overall more masculine personality. You tend to be more dominant, more aggressive, etc, then you would want to look for submissive guys(who are aware of and happy being submissive guys) because there are LOTS of them who are straight and more dominant women are very few and far between. I don't know if you're into any kink related spaces but those kinds of guys generally gravitate towards there because it's pretty much the only place that caters to the idea of women being more masculine these days.

I couldn't really say too much more directed like that without knowing you personally, but the answer to your initial question: Yes. VERY much so. You just would need to know where to look for them.

EDIT: And that's also the most important takeaway. You're not women, you're a particular type of woman. You don't need men, you need a particular type of man. Quite a few types of guys won't be interested. Some types of guys won't care one way or the other, and some types of guys will be ecstatic.