You're in the right. It is best if they talk to a doctor and get a proper prescription over just listening to randos. If not done right, it can cause problems for them if they take dosages too high too fast. (Not including other medical issues that come with it taking it)

It seems the kid is doing this without permission or parental consent too.. which is more concerning.

Reddit, however.. is kinda culty in many subreddits.

I am blunt and don't shy away from using actual wording to be honest. I go so far as citing research papers if I need to, medications and other uses for them like sterilizing sex offenders. What the surgeries look like and what it does to someones life and the medications or things like "opening the wound daily/few times a week" and how painful that is. It makes people really mad because they are like "research says" and I'm like which document and these documents state otherwise.. The difference between 15 years ago and now with how gender clinics popped up, social contaigen and why are we including all these people with different issues all1st under an umbrella and wrongfully mistreating their problems. Like adhd and gender issues etc. The EU closed these clinics for these reasons and we haven't because we have too many activists that dont listen to data.

And I go even further to ask them how much they know about how data for various research was collected, number of participants, and point out where the researchers deviated from proper research methods and why it's bad to do that. Even to go so far as the bad things Money did to push the ideology and what he did to the boys.

There is no good way to discuss these things because eventually you have to just come out and say what is actually going on. If you try to use nice words and avoid stating exactly what is happening, you deviate too far from reality and fall into a trap of being too vague. Which is what they do to push their ideas further. By being vague.

No. I don't believe you're becoming transhobic. You're just becoming more aware of the lifestyle and ideology of those around you and seeing how they are behaving toward others, their kids. You arent sure its the right way to behave or raise a kid. You are afraid yourself of how they will treat you. These are all valid concerns.

I will say do not feel upset too much for losing friends it's tough, but it's part of growing. They come and go but what matters most is your mental health and not stepping on eggshells as i call it, it just leads to more resentment. If they don't accept you even if you change then they aren't really friends.

As for your relationship it's up to you if you want to continue to support their decision, or talk to them about it. Contrary to popular belief you dont have to be supportive in everything your partner does. It's not a small change, it's a big one that effects them, you and everyone else in their life. It's okay to discuss grievances. How it goes is up to how you word it and their ability to understand. At the end of the day is it something you can live with till the day you die? If they change their mind and if there are medical problems is it able to be afforded? If not taking steps to ensure the ability to either pay for medication or for any other medical issues that come up may be a good idea.

Social pressure has done a lot to damage and push people to these beliefs I feel, and like you said people who are suceptible, tend to fall for it to feel included.

Being Trans used to be about gender dysphoria, now it seems to have moved really far from that due to simplifying a problem that is complex.

For centuries gender and sex were the same. Pronouns were associated with their sex and not their "gender". Only recently post ww2 with the push of "gender ideology" has this truly changed and why it is so confusing. Because some have bent and changed definitions to be vague and based on "feelings" rather than objective truth.

If anyone can be a man or a woman then they become nothing than the social constructs we as a society make up. Men like these colors and behave in this manner. Women do these things, dress in these clothes, act in this manner. You can become one or the other as gender is fluid and this further confuses people. Overall, the ideas weren't meant to leave the think tank institutions, but it did due to activists who did some unethical things to make it a reality.

Yes, is completely erodes or deletes in some cases the idea of feminine men, tomboys, and masculine women, and it masks and tries to erase the roles both sexes actually have as a species and their roles in society if one is equal to the other. As people then confuse the two sexes under umbrella terms for their gender roles.

So yes you're right in you're assumption. It only further enforces gender roles but also at the same time, masks and attempts to erase the importance of both sexes.

I was dysphoric, I was drawn towards feminine things, but it was more of I wanted to have the things women did and be exactly like them. So your kinda close with your other assumption of being drawn towards masculinity and femininity. It does go a little deeper in the feeling/urge side of things.

But even so contrary to what the new deluded definition of woman has become and what some here may say. I'll always support the definition that has been around for centuries. A woman is an adult female human. And a female is per biology definition an individual whose reproductive system is designed to make ova. (Definitions are very similar to this but may not be exact)

As for what I view myself as, well I'm a guy cause I am a biological male. Outside that I don't care about how others classify things. The only people constructing how a guy should behave are the people pushing the ideology. I know men who get their nails done and ones that go hunting. Doesn't make them any less of a man, it's just what they like to do or how they prefer to look.

I just ignored them. They left my life, so they vetted themselves out, improving mine by no longer taking time i can spend with other friends. I had dysphoria, realized the same thing before i even started to transition. And the same kind of people have behaved the same way to me.

Currently, most of my friends aren't on that side of the political aisle, which behave in that manner. They don't give me any trouble and have been quite welcoming. The right people will enter your life over time to be friends with. Depending on your hobbies, it may be harder or easier.

However, if you have to lie about who you are and your experiences to "friends" and manage a facade so they stay.. I wouldn't really call them friends. As far as family, can't help with that tbh.

Lying seems to be a very common thing from activists. I heard that too from misinformed friends, but when I looked at the actual research and medicines I saw otherwise. They didn't believe me till I showed them the actual medicine websites.. then they tried to justify it anyways 🙄

Historically speaking, teenage boys are the majority of ones who have gender dysphoria by over 90%. (I won't bring up euphoria much here).

Then comes those with ADHD, who already have identity problems due to having ADHD. Being convoluted with gender identity theory. To such individuals gender identity theory is an out for how they feel to help them feel like they fit in somewhere. As they don't feel like they fit in anywhere. This became more popular when there was a giant boom in social media becoming more popular and common.

Seeing a huge uptake in girls and women say they are Trans when they don't have gender dysphoria, or euphoria means that they are conflating other body dysmorphia or sexual issues with being Trans. Same with boys/men.

However, to my knowledge they say social contaigen because they have been told by someone, that they can be that other thing. Or they were raised in a manner of hating their own sex. Such as a woman with a little boy trash talking men all the time. Why would that boy want to grow to be a man? He wouldn't. Many kids aren't raised in a manner affirming their sex, many kids are freaked out during puberty as well about their body changing.

Also, there have been trends in things such as DARE(drug program where we teach kids about drugs and tell them things like you can get high from sniffing paint and gas. Then tell them not to do it. ) and when people would inform schools of obesity, or purging, cutting and other topics like this the kids would do it. Girls especially once they learned of the stuff, would actually start doing it. Contrary to schools who didn't participate in those programs whose stats show lower cases of cutting, purging. etc.

Similar how there was a huge influx of people saying they are nonbinary or one of x number of genders, etc, when that became more mainstream .

Women are more social as well, so when they go to communities for anime, movies, books, etc depending on the associations in those groups they may end up starting to believe in or change their beliefs to fit in (Not to mention many groups will ban you if you say the wrong thing these days). They may have people tell them they would make a good x, or ask questions like "are you sure you're not x? You have many traits that match" etc. I've seen people say these kinds of things, although I don't know how often it actually occurs.

This is why many myself included say social contaigen.

Overall, I do agree with you, it's a complex issue where more needs done to properly vet and certify what problems people have, and properly help and inform people of the nuances. To get them the care they need.

However, I also feel that due to how some communities are and friend groups... along with the fact many people don't want to lose friends. I don't think that much can be done till society itself changes, and social influence will always occur.

Women tend to be more social and be more influenced socially by those around them. It's a psychology thing. Such trends can be seen in cutting, split personality disorder, and eating problems. They come and go in waves, and women tend to be influenced by it easier. So by putting it in perception of the internet and gender ideology. The groups they are talking to online and the beliefs of their friends play a large role in it as women are more impressionable and emotion based This does also affect men, but not to the anywhere near same extent to the information I've gathered. Reminds me of DARE and other programs where schools had people come in and talk about it, and kids started cutting or self inducing vomiting, and doing drugs because they now knew how to do it and different reasons for people doing it. While schools that didn't have these programs didn't have anywhere near the same number of problems. . Some things people are better off not being taught especially to kids.

If he is genuinely curious, you may be fine telling him. Depends on the guy and what his view on the topic is. Wouldn't be a terrible idea to tell him if he isn't extremely disgusted by the stuff, or at least a little knowledgeable on the matter.

I told my girl I had gd as a teen, but I'm one of the ~84%ish that grew out of it, and mentioned the various variables that affect people with identity issues adhd, dysmorphia etc.

But if you don't id that way nor plan to again in the future, you'll probably be fine not to mention it if you're not comfortable with it. Could just say you didn't do photos during that time, etc.

If you do tell him, saying basically what you said here. How you improved your environment, no longer talk to people who were as you put it "more culty", and you like where you're at and where you are heading in life with him (if you do wish to marry him I mean) would probably be a decent start and if he has questions he can ask them.

(I'm a male) . I started off with finding out things I actually enjoyed doing and wearing that guys did. Like I really liked suits and Gothic clothing for guys.. and my friends were goths/punk/emo so I wore a suit once in a while, dress clothes and black clothes. Played video games and got a hobby (programming) that I enjoyed. I also fished and hunted with my dad which I enjoyed and other things. Which kept the time passing. .

If you catch yourself thinking about yourself negatively change the topic and once in a while complement yourself, fix your hair (ignore mirrors and dont nitpick, get yourself looking decent enough for public and continue with the next task).. at least with me it was learning to accept myself for what I actually was and accepting that that I would never be a real a real woman. Look similar to one yes. But never be, and eventually accepting that and moving forward with an idea of what kind of guy I wanted to be or life I wanted to have in the future like goals. .

I would suggest waiting till puberty is over before doing meds as there is no such thing as "pausing" puberty, and from many people that have taken those meds. The side effects are really bad and sometimes depending on what happened you'll be on meds till the day you die. (It's one of the things that put me off.) And there isn't enough scientific data, ie this new generation are the test subjects >.> at least from the documents I've read that's my opinion. ....

Lastly try not to get caught up in the LGBT activism. It can be hard especially with friends, but staying away from groups and politics that are very emotional. They can be very supportive but also very vindictive. If you do see something and want to know more, do research on both sides and get an informed opinion on it based on facts and arguments/counter-arguments. Don't live in an echo chamber.

Overall this is a process that takes time, and I hate to say that but it's not something that's instant. It took me several years myself.