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About me
I started medical transition at 13, feeling immense pressure to become male because of my dysphoria and what others expected. I had top surgery and other permanent surgeries as a teenager, which I now deeply regret as the process felt rushed. After stopping testosterone at 25, my body has become feminine again, but I'm left with lasting changes like a deeper voice. I'm now looking into reconstructive surgeries to help my body feel more recognizably female. While I have many regrets, I'm trying to move forward and build a life where I can just be myself.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition is complicated. I started medical transition very young, at 13 years old. I felt a lot of pressure, both from inside myself and from other people, to follow a certain path. I had a lot of dysphoria, especially about going through a female puberty, and I hated the idea of having breasts. I also felt pushed to "fully transition" because that’s what was expected back then. People made me feel weird if I didn't want to do everything.
I started testosterone when I was about to enter high school. I remember not wanting to be the kid who had to deal with having a period, worrying about asking for pads or bleeding through my clothes. Being on T changed my body a lot. I felt warmer all the time and sweated more. Now that I'm off it, I get cold much easier. I took puberty blockers for a while before my surgeries, and they actually helped me feel like my body was my own. I wish I could have held onto that feeling.
I had top surgery when I was 17. Looking back, the process felt rushed, like I was just being pushed through. My original surgeon was not great. Now, at 25, I sometimes think about getting a little fat grafting to my chest so it looks more recognizably female. Since stopping T, a small amount of breast tissue has grown back, which makes me feel more connected to being female, even if it's not much. I've found ways to feel feminine about my flat chest, like wearing certain tops or having my nipples pierced.
I also had a full hysterectomy and bottom surgery. I regret these the most, especially the bottom surgery. My mom had encouraged me to get it done young because she worried I wouldn't have time to recover financially later in life. A partner at the time also made me feel different for hesitating. Now, I feel dysphoric about the changes, but in a mirrored way from before. I'm actively looking into reconstruction surgery, something like a peritoneal vaginoplasty and clitoral reconstruction, similar to procedures for other women who need it. It's hard because there aren't many resources or clear paths for detransitioners like me who want to reverse things.
Stopping testosterone was a huge deal. My body changed back to looking very feminine, and I feel like a girl again. My voice is a big source of discomfort for me every day; it's deeper than it was, and I'm considering voice feminization surgery. People have told me I sound like a butch lesbian or a feminine trans woman, which is something.
I don't think gender is as black and white as I once believed. I felt a lot of anger about expectations and the pressure to choose a label or a bathroom. I've benefited from thinking about gender in a more flexible way. I have regrets about my transition, especially the permanent surgeries. I wish I hadn't felt so much pressure to medically transition to be valid. But I'm trying to move forward, find things to appreciate about my body, and build a life where I can just be me.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started testosterone and medical transition. |
| 17 | Had top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 17-18(?) | Had a hysterectomy and bottom surgery (phalloplasty). |
| 25 (Present) | Detransitioned socially and medically (stopped testosterone). Currently seeking reconstructive surgeries for chest and genitals. |
Top Comments by /u/-meep-morps:
I know exactly what you mean. I had top surgery, bottom and a hysto, and while I'm happy for detrans people that didn't, it's so upsetting wishing I was a person who had less surgery than I do. My singular ovary is carrying a lot of weight 😂 I'm grateful I at least look very fem but damn dude
This hurts to read. I'm sorry. I had top surgery at 17. I'm 25 now. I'm considering a small amount of fat grafting, because I care less about size and more about my chest looking recognizably female. Since stopping T, I've had small amounts of breast tissue grow. You probably will. It's not enough to completely look like breasts without fat grafting, but it helps me mentally that it gets sore when I have hormonal stuff. I also got my nipples pierced, it feels cute and feminine and adds an element I enjoy. I've been working on enjoying my body more, appreciating what I can. I like that when I don't wear padding, it makes my hips look wider in return, and I do like that. I can wear feminine tops without anything underneath that might be too risky for someone with a sizable chest to wear. I can go to raves in little tops and jump around as much as I want. I've slowly been finding things to do/things about it that feel feminine to me. There's subreddits for very flat chested women, I'm not going to recommend looking at them to a minor, but when you're older. But I look at them sometimes to make myself feel better, realizing how many women have pretty much no breasts at all, and people like it. And they're still beautiful. I've seen some really really well done fat grafting if you don't like implants. If you're never looking for surgery again, you'll find ways over time to embrace it. I'm still upset about it, but I'm coping better than I used to
Thank you sm. We really do. I had such a clear path starting medical transition at 13, all the way through every surgery. But then for adults that want to live as their birth sex again, there aren't really resources or paths, and I hate that for us. I know it's something we'll end up building though
I do. I felt another of pressure from people to be normal. Start T young so I could go through puberty at the same stage as boys my age, and develop the same. Have bottom surgery because it felt gross to be a boy with a vagina. My mom told me I should before I moved back out, because I wouldn't have time financially to stop work to recover in the future. My partner at the time made me feel different when I was trying to decide. I also had pretty bad dysphoria. Now that I detransitioned I feel like I'm back to where I was before surgery with that situation, just mirrored
Thank you. I wish she hadn't, I know she was just trying to help me though. When I transitioned things were different, people were expected to "fully transition" way more than they are now. So I more so really wish that people hadn't made me feel like I was weird for not doing that. I might get a little bit of fat grafting for my chest. I definitely want to get reconstruction from bottom surgery, I'm working towards it now
...you should look into therapy. This is some very black and white thinking in a world that has endless possibilities. I love feminine men, I think it takes strength, and I admire them. They aren't clowns, they're people. People shouldn't have to be the same to be respected
I've looked through pretty much everything and haven't found someone that has yet. They're out there somewhere but not talking about it online lol. I think I'd need peritoneal vaginoplasty and clitoral reconstruction. I think it'd be more similar to what they do for women that had to have their vaginas removed/constructed and women that have repair for fgm. I've seen it come up a few times too. I'll definitely update when I'm able to talk to my surgeon
There are, I don't know where that statistic is even pulled from. It's not like they survey us 10 years later to ask if we detransitioned or not lmao. Yeah I can't believe the way that things went looking back, the process was wild. It was only about pushing me through. My OG surgeon is a nightmare, but there's other surgeons that did parts of it that I liked much more, they will help me if they can
I had the same experience as you. I detransitioned anyways, I haven't had any surgeries to try to reverse things yet, but even just stopping T had such a huge effect that I just look like a girl, and feel like one too. It's also okay to be a girl with a dick. You don't have to hold yourself to a standard. Just be you. I knoe it's a really hard feeling to deal with. If you wanna talk about it more, you can DM me
I don't see harm in it, and a few positives. Plus, I feel like expecting people to medically transition to count as trans or use the bathroom pushes people to make decisions they otherwise wouldn't, so they won't be ostracized. It happened to me. Some people start and stop testosterone, some people still get their period. I know I started bleeding constantly after a few years. I'd already been on T when I started highschool. Plus I don't think anyone in highschool, let alone a kid with dysphoria wants to have to either ask for a pad or bleed through their clothes