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About me
I started identifying as trans when I was very mentally ill and using drugs, hoping it would fix my life. I was on testosterone for years, but I only felt more isolated and unstable. I realized my discomfort wasn't with being female, but with my own deep-seated mental health issues. Now I'm detransitioning, living in a shelter and rebuilding my life through faith while I wait for proper mental healthcare. I've come to believe I am a woman because I was born female, and I'm learning to just be.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition is messy and tied up with a lot of pain and confusion. I started identifying as trans when I was in a really bad place. I was in and out of the psych ward and I was using meth. I was seriously ill and I think I latched onto the trans identity because I was looking for something, anything, to make me feel better and make sense of my life. I don't think I was thinking clearly at all.
I was on testosterone for about four or five years. During that time, my life didn't really get better; if anything, it got more unstable. I wasn't happy, and I felt like no one really liked me when I was living as trans. It was a very isolated and difficult time.
Looking back, I don't think my problem was ever really about gender. I think I was deeply uncomfortable with myself and with going through female puberty, but that discomfort was part of a bigger picture of mental illness and low self-esteem. I was trying to escape from being me.
I started to detransition after a lot of struggle. It wasn't an easy decision, and I've faced a lot of hypocrisy from some people in the trans community who were all about accepting pronouns until mine changed back. That hurt, but I had to do what was right for me.
Now, I'm trying to rebuild my life. I'm living in a shelter, which is a really tough environment full of nasty gossip, but I'm trying to stay grounded. I've started going back to church, and my faith has become very important to me. It's a test sometimes, especially when people spread lies about me, but it helps me stay centered. I'm also waiting to get proper mental healthcare, which I know I need.
I don't really believe in gender anymore, not as something separate from sex. I think a lot of the language around gender was taken from the intersex community, which isn't right. I believe sex is biological and real, and that's what matters. For me, I am a woman because I was born female. Womanhood isn't about being pretty or fitting a certain look; it's just about being. I tell other detransitioning women that they are gorgeous and that they don't need to worry about how they look to be valid.
I do have some regrets about transitioning. I regret the time I lost and the damage I did to my body with hormones while I was so unwell. I don't think it was the right path for me, and I wish I had dealt with my underlying mental health issues first instead of trying to change my body.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Late Teens/Early 20s | Started identifying as trans and began taking testosterone. |
| ~25 | Was on testosterone for 4-5 years. Life was unstable, with psych ward admissions and meth use. |
| ~29/30 | Made the decision to detransition and stop testosterone. |
| 30 | Living in a shelter, rebuilding my life and reconnecting with my faith as a woman. |
Top Comments by /u/1997RnR_HoF:
It's beyond hypocritical to want everyone to accept your pronouns, but when someone detransitions, you're not gonna accept theirs.
You wanna trash talk me on the internet? In your home? Sure. Outside a shelter I reside in? I'd repent on that one cause the devil's real.
This really depends on the context of the law.
He said gender, not sex. They are not the same thing. If it is gender which is usually used in social construct I fully agree.
If it is sex, relating to biological construct then I fully disagree. Intersex people exist. Most of the language trans individuals co-opted came from the intersex community. AFAB and AMAB come from intersex discussions on surgeries at infancy these people didn't have a choice to. Their movement, one that is grounded in biology, is about being able to have autonomy over their medical condition.
Trans people have essentially set intersex people back 50 years if this law relates to sex. I'm worried that intersex people will lose their bodily autonomy.
Thank you for your advice, and on the last post too. I've started taking better care in my appearance. I wear my wig every day and do my makeup. I've started walking long distances instead of getting a train card.
I just needed to let it out. I've been going to church again and it's really grounding me but it still hurts when people say things that aren't true. I know people have religious trauma and I'm not telling anyone what to think but in my opinion this is a test of my faith.
I'm waiting for mental healthcare and I just need someone to listen
And to be honest, no one liked me when I was trans. I was on meth and in and out of the psych ward. I was seriously ill and had explained that multiple times. I don't owe anyone an apology for being ill. If they want to make me a hot button topic, be my guest.
Some younger some older, but all of us are in the range of 23-30. Now they're saying im a cheap escort because I told them a man from church took me for a decent meal, and it spread around the whole shelter.
It's a nasty place to be in. I'm grateful for a bed and food, but it's really testing my patience. A lot of these people in the system are beyond ungrateful and nasty in gossip, and it's really hard to withstand.
Womanhood isn't about being pretty. Some women are beautiful, some are gorgeous, some are butch... you don't need to be pretty to be a woman. You're gorgeous. You have great eyes and a great smile. Let your hair grow out and keep it out of your face. There's no need to worry or think badly of yourself. I was on testosterone for 4/5 years. Don't worry too much.