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About me
I started transitioning because I hated being a woman, a feeling made worse by my autism and being bullied by other girls. I thought becoming a man was the only escape from the stereotypes and misogyny I saw everywhere. After years on testosterone and having top surgery, I realized I wasn't a man, but a woman running from internalized hatred. I deeply regret the permanent changes to my body and wish I had dealt with my self-esteem issues in therapy instead. Now, I believe the real solution is to break stereotypes, not to change your body to fit them.
My detransition story
My whole journey started because I hated being a woman. I’m autistic, and I think that played a huge part. I never fit in with other girls and was bullied by them relentlessly. I grew up with almost exclusively male friends. I hated the way women were portrayed in media and treated in daily life—like we were meant to be stupid, superficial eye-candy. My transition was an escape from that; it was a way to run from womanhood and everything I thought it meant to be looked down upon and seen as lesser.
I didn't transition because I felt like a man on the inside. I transitioned because I had a deep-seated hate for the social role I was born into. I now see that as a form of internalized misogyny. I was so isolated from other women that I couldn't see a way to be a woman on my own terms.
Looking back, a lot of my discomfort was also tied to puberty. I hated the changes my body was going through and the attention it brought. It felt like my body was betraying me and putting me into a category I despised.
I ended up taking testosterone and got top surgery. I don't want to go into all the details, but it was a huge deal for me at the time. I thought it would fix everything. For a while, I did feel better. I was passing as male and felt like I had finally escaped.
But over time, I started to feel a different kind of discomfort. I began to feel invalidated by a lot of the trans community itself, especially by some male-born people who seemed to covet womanhood like it was a trophy. I saw people online celebrating stereotypes—like getting their period or going on shopping sprees—as if that’s what being a woman is. I even saw one person say they got gender euphoria from being cat-called and harassed. To me, that was absolutely disgusting. They will never know the real fear women live with, like the need to lock your car doors as soon as you get in and check the back seat. For them, it’s a game; for us, it’s our life.
This made me realize that I had been running from something that was deeply complex and personal. I wasn't a man. I was a woman who had been deeply hurt and confused. I decided to detransition.
I have serious regrets about my transition. The medical procedures I underwent have permanently changed my body, and I now have to live with that. I worry about my long-term health and I know I am now infertile. I wish I had dealt with my internalized misogyny and autism-related social struggles through therapy instead of trying to change my body. I think non-affirming therapy that addressed my self-esteem and helped me work through my trauma would have been far more beneficial for me than transitioning was.
My thoughts on gender now are complicated. I have no problem with people who are gender non-conforming. But I feel very strongly that my own transition was a mistake based on escape and a distorted view of what it means to be a woman. I don't think the answer to hating the stereotypes forced upon women is to become a man. The answer is to break the stereotypes.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Hit puberty. Felt intense discomfort with my developing female body and was ruthlessly bullied by other girls. |
| 16 | Began identifying as non-binary, then as a trans man. This was heavily influenced by my online communities. |
| 18 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 21 | Had top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 24 | Began to question my transition after feeling invalidated by trans community rhetoric. |
| 25 | Stopped taking testosterone and began living as a female again. |
Top Comments by /u/2chameleons:
Exactly. I have no problem with drag queens or gender non-conforming men. I just feel very invalidated and uncomfortable with the idea that people who actually have no idea what it’s like to be a woman see it as a coveted thing. And then end up acting like a stereotype in the process.
I’m sorry, but this reply screams that you only see the male perspective of this. I am an autistic female, and I can tell you that I did not de-transition because of some deep loneliness or lack of “kindnesses” once I was out and passing.
My transition was, in the first place, caused by a deep hate of womanhood, in fact. I hated being female, I hated the way that other women treated me (like I was somehow fundamentally different, or worse)… I grew up with almost exclusively male friends because I was ruthlessly bullied by women. I hated the way that women were portrayed in media, film, and the way that women were referred to in my daily life. I hated that women were meant to be stupid, superficial eye-candy.
This comment combined by your spiel about attractiveness makes me think you’re not really seeing the female side of any of this, yet somehow think you’re an authority on the topic of FtM ROGD. I respect and acknowledge your opinion, but I do not agree with it. And typing an entire paragraph about how people supposedly are going to go through or reverse their HRT, surgery, and social transition because of their attractiveness or lack there of… it is very reminiscent of incel ideology. Your value as a human being is not determined by your attractiveness to others, I assure you.
Your friend’s an asshole. If he was refusing to call a trans person by their preferred name and pronouns and scoffing at what they wore to express their gender, he’d be deemed a transphobe. So why is it OK that he gets to do it to you? Consider cutting him off, please. You don’t need people like this in your life.
I couldn’t have said any of this better myself. This is exactly how I feel. I originally transitioned to escape womanhood and my perception of it and what it meant to be a woman. Looked down upon. Stupid. Ditsy. That was internalized misogyny, of course, but growing up as an autistic girl made me isolated from other women.
It hurts to see these people who have absolutely no idea what it feels like to be a woman covet our experience like it’s a trophy. Claiming they get their period once a month and celebrating being emotional or going on shopping sprees like that’s what a woman is. They will never know the fear of a woman, feel the need to lock their car doors as soon as they get in and check the back seat. If they do, they celebrate it, because it means they’ve achieved womanhood. That’s not an exaggeration—I’ve seen a trans woman say she got gender euphoria from being cat called and harassed. That’s absolutely disgusting.
Thank you for your advice and I’ll definitely check out that news site you recommended.
You do have a point, absolutely. It sucks because this issue is, by nature, pretty polarizing. It’s hard to find a middle ground because it feels like lots of trans rhetoric is “you have to agree with me word for word or you’re a piece of shit”. So there’s really no room for productive discussion, I feel like; and a lot of detrans people contribute to the problem with generalizations. You just have both sides who end up hating each other, and pushing each other further towards the other polar ends. The problem is that it’s really hard to tell who is an actual predator and who’s an AGP who has no outright ill intention towards women, apart from maybe a conscious or unconscious sexualized view of us. Sometimes it feels like it’s easier to keep my distance from all of them than fuck around and find out which ones are weird/creepy/predatory/misogynistic and which ones aren’t.
Of course, and I do agree with you. I’m sure there’s a large majority of MTFs who are not creepy. I’m just struggling to maintain that belief when none of my experiences with them have been good, and all have been upsetting or downright disgusting. I don’t want to fall to the rhetoric that all of them are the same or anything, which is why I made this post.