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About me
I started transitioning in my early twenties because I never fit the traditional male role and thought it was the answer. Taking hormones felt fake and created a terrible dependency, along with constant paranoia about whether I passed as a woman. I was targeted and abused by men who sought me out specifically because I was trans, which was a major factor in my decision to stop. I’ve come to realize I am simply a gender non-conforming male, and that my biological sex doesn’t dictate my interests or how I express myself. I regret the entire process and now believe you can be yourself without ever altering your body.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition started because I never fit into the traditional male role. I always felt more comfortable just doing my own thing and being myself. That initial feeling of discomfort with social expectations is what made me think transitioning was the answer.
I began to identify as trans and started taking synthetic hormones. But as time went on, it all started to feel fake to me. I became acutely aware that my new identity was entirely dependent on these medications and the possibility of surgeries. I developed a constant, endless paranoia about whether or not I "passed" as a woman, and that anxiety became too much to bear. I knew, deep down, that none of it was real in a biological sense. I was born male and that is a fact of my body that cannot be changed.
A huge part of my experience was also the trauma of being abused by several older men who specifically targeted me because I was trans. That period was incredibly difficult and is tied up with my decision to stop.
My thoughts on gender have really solidified through this. I believe gender doesn't exist; there is only biological sex. Gender is just a collection of social expectations and stereotypes. I am male because I was born male. Having long hair or sometimes wearing makeup doesn't change that fundamental reality. My chromosomes are XY. There's nothing in your biology that says you have to like only stereotypically male things or act in a certain masculine way. You can be a gender non-conforming man without altering your body.
I also struggled with internalized homophobia. I'm homosexual, and due to my religious background, I grew up hating myself for it. A part of me was jealous that it's socially acceptable for women to like men and be protected by them, but when I, as a man, wanted that same dynamic with another man, it felt wrong. A lot of my resentment was directed inward, at myself.
I absolutely have regrets about transitioning. I regret the time, the mental energy, and the dependency I developed on pharmaceuticals. I hate pharmaceutical companies and didn't want to give them my money, which was another reason I looked into stopping and sought out herbal alternatives with my doctor. I don't think it's worth it, and I believe you will regret it. You can be yourself without going through all of that.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Early 20s | Began identifying as trans and started taking synthetic hormones. |
| Mid 20s | Experienced abuse from older men who targeted me for being trans. |
| 26 | Stopped taking hormones. Realized it felt fake and was dependent on medication. The paranoia over passing became too much. |
| 26 | Began the process of detransition, accepting myself as a gender non-conforming male. |
Top Comments by /u/3468429:
My personal take is that gender doesn't exist, there is only biological sex. Gender is a collection of social expectations and stereotypes, whereas biological sex is innate. I am male because I was born male, that will never change. I have long hair? Still a guy. Sometimes wear makeup? I have XY chromosomes, so I'm still male. There's nothing about your chromosomes that says you have to like only stereotypically male things or act in a masculine manner. Sorry if I'm rambling it's late where I am but I hope you are doing well and that this helps
I initially started transitioning because I felt uncomfortable with traditional male social roles and I always felt more comfortable doing my own thing.
I stopped because it felt fake. I knew none of it was real and was entirely dependent on synthetic hormones and surgeries. The endless paranoia of worrying about if I passed or not just became too much and I eventually decided to stop. I was also abused by several older men during this time period that specifically went for me cause I was trans.
Don't do it. You can be gender non conforming without having to do all of this stuff to yourself. It's not worth it and you will regret it.
Idk if that's such a good thing. The alternative is turning everyone into these androgynous pod people that slave away for bezosbux and eat bugs. I recognize the value of masculinity and I'd hate to live in a world without it, I just don't want it for me.
Long term use of synthetic hormones can cause cancer, and frankly I hate pharmaceutical companies and I don't want to give them money. I have spoken with my doctor and he said he'd do some research on herbal/natural remedies for me, but I am also going to do my own research so I figured I'd ask here
I feel similar to a degree. I am also a homosexual but due to religious beliefs I basically hate myself for it, and I guess a part of me is jealous that it's okay for women to like men and be protected by men, but when I want it it's wrong. I wouldn't say I hate women though, it's mostly my own resentment of myself that spills out