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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic.
There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a fake account. The comments show:
- Personal, consistent experience: The user shares specific, emotionally resonant details about their own detransition (e.g., fear of permanence, relief at stopping T shots, "microdosing" accidentally).
- Nuanced perspective: Their views are complex, balancing personal regret with support for bodily autonomy for others, which is common in the community.
- Natural conversational tone: The language is varied, includes humor, empathy, and casual interjections ("lmao," "😅"), which is difficult for bots to replicate consistently.
The passion and strong opinions are consistent with a genuine detransitioner or desister.
About me
I started questioning my gender as an adult after a lifetime of feeling uncomfortable in my female body, which was tied to low self-esteem and anxiety. I was influenced by online communities and began taking testosterone at 22, but the medical process felt rushed and I wasn't properly informed. I never felt right on hormones and was terrified by the permanence of the changes, so stopping them at 23 was a huge relief. I realized I wasn't a failed man, but a woman who needed to find comfort in herself. Now, I'm learning to be okay with who I am, and while I believe transition can be right for others, it wasn't the path for me.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was really young, but I didn't start thinking about it in terms of being trans until I was an adult. I was born female, and for a long time, I just felt uncomfortable. I hated my breasts and felt a deep sense of wrongness with my body, especially during and after puberty. I think a lot of that was tied up in low self-esteem and depression. I also struggled with anxiety.
I started to explore my gender online and was influenced by what I saw. It felt like an escape from how I was feeling. I eventually came to believe I was a trans man and decided to start a medical transition. I was around 22 years old when I started testosterone. I went to the clinic seeking it out, and they gave it to me. Looking back, I don't feel like the medical professionals did a great job of explaining the possible adverse effects or the permanence of some changes. They never even showed me how to properly do the injections. I ended up microdosing for about nine months because I was doing it wrong and also because I hated giving myself the shots so much that I'd constantly miss them.
During that time on testosterone, I never felt fully comfortable. I started to look like a boyish girl or a girlish boy, but it never felt right. The idea of the changes being permanent started to scare me more and more. The moment I decided to stop taking testosterone was a huge relief. It felt like a massive weight was lifted off my shoulders. I was probably 23 when I stopped.
I realized that transitioning wasn't the right path for me. It wasn't that I failed at being a man; it was just that being a man wasn't who I am. I needed to figure out how to be comfortable as me, a woman, before anything else. My trans friends were actually incredibly supportive of my decision to detransition. They congratulated me on figuring myself out.
I don't regret exploring my gender, because it led me to where I am now. But I do have complicated feelings about my time on testosterone. I knew what I was consenting to on a basic level, but I don't think I was in a fully healthy place to make that decision, and I wish the medical side had been more thorough. I don't think the doctors owe me an apology for giving me what I asked for, but I do think they were negligent for not properly informing me.
Now, I'm learning to be okay with who I am. My thoughts on gender are that it's a personal journey for everyone. Just because medical transition wasn't right for me doesn't mean it's wrong for someone else. Bodily autonomy is important for everyone.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 22 | Started testosterone HRT. |
| 23 | Stopped testosterone after approximately 9 months. Realized I was not a trans man and began to detransition. |
Top Comments by /u/5150nly:
If she truly loves you, it won’t be an issue. If it’s an issue, that’s a blessing in disguise — rather find out now than down the line.
Of course, all this also depends on whether or not she is attracted to women. If the answer is no, the answer to the question is an automatic no as well.
I think it just depends on how their body responds to HRT. Most of the trans guys I know are completely passable; you’d never know. I think with trans women it’s a bit harder if you start at a later time. Testosterone is one hell of a drug, regardless of whether or not you naturally make a bunch, or have to supplement.
I mean… you’re told upfront what you’re consenting to when you decide to start a medical transition. No, they don’t owe you an apology. Is it unfortunate? Yeah. But that’s not a choice they made for you; they didn’t chain you down and force you to give your informed consent. That’s a weird question she asked you, though. Even towards real trans people that question rubs me the wrong way. You don’t “identify,” you just are.
Your feelings are valid and understandable but unfortunately you’re not owed an apology.
That sounds like a problem for therapy, not a reddit post. Trans people, like everyone else, are aiming to be the best they can be, in a body they feel comfortable in. Aren’t we all (especially us women)? It’s not that you failed, it’s just that transitioning didn’t end up being the path for you. There is no way to fail. You are you before anything else. That’s something you can never fail at. The physical stuff will settle into place when it needs to. Stop thinking of trans men as people who “succeeded” and you as someone who “failed,” — we all have our own transitions in life, theirs just happened to be physical in a very dramatic way. You’ll be okay :) hang in there.
Feeling so so seen in this comment 🥺 the permanence made me so afraid — and it felt like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders the very moment I decided never to do my T shot again. (For the gender clarity, and for the fact that I never have to do one of those god-forsaken fucking shots into my stomach again. godspeed to true trans men but CANNOT BE ME)
That’s fair lmao I was constantly missing my shots because I hated doing them so much 😭😭 and they never showed me How to administer the T so I was unknowingly microdosing for like nine months 😵💫😵💫 so I looked more like a boyish girl or a girlish boy by the time I quit
None of my trans friends give a shit. They all supported my decision to detransition and are still supportive today — hell, multiple of them congratulated me for figuring it out and starting down a path to becoming my authentic self. I think y’all just need to get better friends
Absolutely, yes. Just because transitioning didn’t end up being the path for us to take, who the hell are we to say it’s wrong for someone else? Bodily autonomy includes everyone, including those who wish to undergo a medical gender transition. It’s their decision. Sometimes, it’s the life or death decision.
I didn’t — and don’t, present tense — feel like you were creeping on me. I didn’t take your comment to mean you were genuinely hitting on or flirting with me, I took it as what it was: a compliment. You were being playful and endearing.
I truly appreciate the willingness to protect young women. I do! The person you’re replying to is correct in saying that we’ve all experienced misogyny. It’s necessary for women to look out for ourselves and each other — but this time seemed to be a bit of an over-correction. 😅 don’t let the bad apples ruin the bunch! It’s not like he catcalled me on the street!
So, just to clarify, not one single medical professional told you what the possible adverse effects of testosterone are? That’s just downright negligence. I’m sorry that they didn’t do even that bare minimum for you. That, yes, absolutely they should apologize for and do better.
However… you knew what testosterone was for. You went to them seeking testosterone HRT. They did what you asked them to do. I still don’t see how an apology is in order for that.