have you looked into voice training or possibly seeing a speech-language pathologist? I don't know much about it to be totally clear, but I noticed it was highly recommended in the comments on a Blaire White video after he interviewed a detrans woman who was disappointed with her "new voice."

so, in another completely unrelated issue that I won't name, I'm seeing a lot of lifelong Democrats start to switch to voting Republican because that issue is crucial to them and they feel betrayed by their party who has swallowed the popular mindset hook, line, and sinker. I would *love* to see both parties just take an honest look at the facts of the unnamed issue, child transitioning, anything. I really would. But these are the issues that make some people into single-issue voters, something I don't necessarily think is a bad thing.

If we're going to participate in a democratic republic, we need to evaluate initiatives and candidates thoroughly. If the Democratic candidate for a particular seat is strongly in favor of an issue you strongly oppose, especially one that can potentially harm children, do you still vote for that person? Further, if the party with which you mostly align supports that issue, do you continue to support that party?

I feel like people *should* be able to be fiscal and social leftists and still acknowledge that allowing children to medically transition is bass ackwards, but how long will people let the Dem party drink the kool aid before they jump ship?

and you're right, I should definitely have been more precise in my comment. I definitely don't mean to say all Democrat voters think uniformly. There is quite a bit of hive-mindedness in our affirmation-obsessed culture, but I don't mean to paint with such broad strokes, so thanks for catching me.

I've also had similar thoughts re: treating dysphoric youth with hormones that match their sex rather than trying cross-sex hormones, but I honestly don't know just how much hormones have to do with the mind at all. I'm open to learning about it, though.

I have high androgens too, it’s not fun. Like, would not need to put much work into presenting as a male if I were so inclined. I suspect in my case it might be from birth control taken early in my teen years shortly after puberty, but who the heck knows. I am trying a book called The Hormone Cure, which is meant to look at hormone balances but doesn’t really address the unique hormonal imbalances that will come with detransitioning. I wish I had answers, but you have my respect and support instead.

So, I've talked a little bit about a book called The Hormone Cure (aimed at women with hormonal imbalances, not desisters/etc, but could be worth looking into).

I'm a woman who has never transitioned but I have a pretty heavy degree of facial and body hair. One thing I appreciate about the growing body positivity movement (although a lot of it annoys me) is that female body hair is starting to become normalized.

I don't know if society will ever accept a biological woman who can grow a ZZ Top worthy beard or has arms like Robin Williams (and I don't know if society *needs* to, necessarily) but just know that there are plenty of women like me out in the world who have to make shaving more embarrassing parts of their bodies part of their daily self care routine. I actually only recently started shaving my arms again after a few years off, during which time approximately zero people ever gave them so much as a second glance.

You can explore ways to re-balance your hormones, you can shave, you can wax, you can do whatever you want, but I want you to know that you are incredible, brave, and you do NOT have to conform to the image of the "perfect," baby-smooth, bald-from-the-eyebrows-down woman.

I am very thankful to have a husband who accepts me for everything I am, including my hormonal imbalances. Please know that there *are* people out there like that, people who will love you for who you really are, not who you "should be" according to some arbitrary standard.

Oh hey you're me!

Okay I might diverge on a *few* points here and there but I feel a lot in common with your post. I just turned 30, I definitely think if I'd been born in Gen Z I could very easily have been one of these kids who, in the midst of general teenage angst, hormone rollercoasters, sexual abuse, etc gets swept up in the transgender tide. I remember being a tween/teen and just wishing for death daily for really no discernible reason—I can't imagine what would have happened if I'd been offered this golden ticket of changing my identity to solve my problems.

I also have some frustrating hormonal imbalances so if I *wanted* to present as male I probably could without a whole lot of effort. Sometimes I've wanted to be a man purely because of what that would mean for what is expected of me by society. Instead, I feel very comfortable with the fact that I am an adult human female who is just unique in her own way.

While I believe gender and biological sex are inextricably linked, the ways in which we express ourselves that typically correspond to gender can be as unique as the individual, their preferences, their culture, even their mood that day.

So, to cut my incoherent rambling short, I'll say hi, yes, this resonates with me to a decent extent, and you're not alone.

Please reach out any time. It breaks my heart that you feel this way. It can take a very long time for hormones to balance even with lots of effort. Right now, that might seem terrifying, a very long time of more body and facial hair. But please try to see it as more time to be who you are, find and get to know people who accept you for who you are.