You don't sound transphobic to me. Being critical of transgenderism or being uncomfortable with the push for wokeness everywhere isn't inherently a conservative mindset either. It means you're capable of thinking for yourself instead of going along with what everyone else says is right.

Most people use preferred pronouns out of politeness, not because they actually see trans people as their desired sex.

I struggle with not becoming "transphobic" also. Mostly because I've yet to meet a trans person who wasn't insufferable to be around. Even the "sane" ones harbor homophobic and/or sexist beliefs. I have to remind myself not to paint them all with the same brush but it's starting to become a "not all men" type issue. Like yeah I know it's not literally all trans people, but it's enough of them to be a problem.

Lol no. This is the same variant of cope as when they claim hrt allowed them to have period cramps and experience PMS. They don't have uterus or a cervix that dilates and contracts to give them cramps. They don't ovulate or have a true menstrual cycle. They look only at estrogen levels and once they get their estrogen in "female range" (nevermind the fact that those levels vary between women and within individual women throughout the month) they start acting like they're biologically analogous to natal women.

They don't account for other hormones like progesterone, progestin, testosterone, FSH, and drops in estrogen throughout the month. They also don't account for how these hormones affect the female body in its entirety, not just our reproductive organs. Having levels of estrogen that are constantly in "female range" isn't going to give a male a period, PMS, or the ability to "cum like a girl."

Bottom surgery doesn't achieve this either because the vulva, vagina, and clitoris are functioning organs. What bottom surgery creates is a fistula, aka a healed wound. Not a set of working organs, just a hole. And that's the best case scenario if they don't run into complications with healing.

Not crazy at all.

I used to be irritated by all the contradiction and goal post shifting. Now I hope they keep it up until they've alienated everyone reasonable from supporting them. Then maybe we can collectively start to undo some of the damage they've caused.

It's like entire online communities are being policed by trans-activists to prevent any kind of alternative view getting through to anybody that's undecided.

That's exactly what's happening, which is why I have to laugh when they deny being a cult.

The way I've seen it happen is I'm in a "neutral" sub, or reading a discussion about a topic that isn't at all related to trans issues. Then someone will find a way to bring them up, and anything that's even slightly critical of trans issues gets either downvoted or removed. Usually these things are good faith, genuine questions by people who notice contradictions from the trans community and are confused by the ever moving goalposts and ever changing definitions.

If that doesn't happen, then it's people spreading misinformation about biology, sexuality, or trying to twist intersex conditions to fit their narrative. Just yesterday I saw someone try to use intersex people to defend the existence of a third sex in humans. Of course they were getting hella upvotes and thank yous.

You won't pass. Not really. Even ftms with the best hormone outcomes and surgeries don't pass as well as they think they do. Someone can pass in a photo or on video but it's very, very different watching people move in real and speak in real life. Most people will know you're trans and are too polite to say anything. If you ask them do you pass they will of course say you do because they're afraid of either being cancelled or hurting your feelings.

Even if people don't know you're trans specifically, there will be something off and uncanny about you they can't place. And they will not say anything about it, because why would they? I had that feeling about Nikki Tutorials on YouTube. There was something off, odd about this person I just couldn't put my finger on, even though I never suspected transness. When Nikki was outed as a transwoman I remember thinking 'ah, that's what it was.'

I read a story of a lesbian who felt deeply confused by her sudden and intense crush on a man. Had her whole life been a lie up until that point? Was she really bisexual this entire time? Turns out, it was a transman. Although she did not pick up on this person's transness, she still sensed 'female' on a deep, subconscious level.

You might pass to some people, maybe even most people you encounter, but not everyone.

And even in the unlikely event that you do pass flawlessly to 100% of people you come in contact with, you will always know the truth. You'll know it when people of your preferred sex speak of shared experiences you don't have, of sex based oppression and health issues. You'll know you don't fully, truly, belong with them.

They also point to older cultures that have a third gender as a way to legitimize transness, not realizing these cultures only have this third category because some people were so GNC they didn't "count" as women or men within said culture. Rather than ostracizing them, a third gender was created.

They fail to realize just how regressive this is. To claim a human somehow can't be a member of their own sex classification because of their personality, social role, or lifestyle is so sad. Saying "well, you're too feminine and nurturing to be a man. But you're clearly male so you can't be a woman either. We'll just make up this other thing you can be" undermines the complexity of our species, and reeks of bio determinism.

Not to mention a lot of the time they're retroactively transing historical figures who were GNC to bolster the "trans people have existed for thousands of years" argument. When someone points out that this person was not trans they just say, "well they would've been if they had the language for it!" They can't possibly know that, but it doesn't stop them from saying it anyway.

I'm in a position now where I'm automatically clocked as female, and no one asks my pronouns when I wish they would. My pronouns are they/he

I hate that this is a hot take now, but being well aware that everyone sees you're female yet expecting them to ask your pronouns due to a buzzcut is delusional.

OP you were right in your responses to both of these people. Your wording was logical and level headed too. They stay crying "transphobia" when someone correctly points out that their ideology is inherently sexist, but they don't know how to argue against that.

Some troll on here tried to call me a transphobe a few weeks ago for calling the current state of gender ideology a cult. If TRAs don't want people to draw similarities between the cause they support and cults, then they need to stop operating like cults. You are 100% correct.

Calling something what it is isn't bigoted, and I'm getting so tired of being unable to draw this comparison in spaces besides this one without the accusations of bigotry coming in.

As someone who works in healthcare, hearing "there is no reason a doctor needs to know your birth sex. That's an invasive and transphobic question" always pissed me off.

Not only is it unsafe for the patient because a doctor can't treat a patient properly without that info, it also creates a lot of overhead on the back end with the IT departments, where I work.

When there was talk self ID laws being passed for hospitals, I posted about it on my old account. It got cross posted to a trans sub, and the person who posted it said something to the effect of "terf's weak hands can't handle a few more keystrokes to accommodate trans identities at work".

It's not about "a few more keystrokes". It's about the fact that this type of confusion on medical records creates significant and unnecessary overhead for the people in IT. Not to mention the whole you could die if a doctor gives you the wrong treatment because you lied on your records.

Doctors, nurses, surgeons etc all depend on the data we provide to make sure you get the best possible care at the doctor's office, and making sure you don't die in the ER. Even when I IDed as trans, I still left 'female' as my sex on my documents because I know how important that is not just for my care, but for the people handling my records.

This is just my guess, but there's a significant portion of trans people who transition for sexual reasons, especially transwomen with AGP. Many of these types also have porn addictions which either brought on the fetish or made existing AGP more intense.

This leads them to have other sexually motivated behaviors, and causes them to have a warped view of poly relationships (kind of like how watching too much porn can warp someone's view of romantic relationships in general). They tend to over sexualize the idea of being with multiple people at once and wish to act out those desires, hence the prevalence of poly culture in some trans spaces.