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About me
I was born female and my deep discomfort with puberty led me to online communities that convinced me I was trans. I started testosterone and had top surgery, believing it was the solution to my pain. I eventually realized I was using transition to escape from underlying mental health issues and trauma. I stopped hormones and began to understand my problems were not with my body but with society and my own mind. I now live with permanent changes and regret following a path that offered a drastic solution for my temporary struggles.
My detransition story
My journey with transition and detransition is complicated, and it’s taken me a long time to understand it. I was born female, and from a young age, I never felt like I fit in. Puberty was a nightmare for me; I hated the changes my body was going through, especially developing breasts. It felt like my body was betraying me. I now realize a lot of this was just a normal discomfort with puberty that got completely blown out of proportion.
I spent a lot of time online as a teenager. I was deeply influenced by what I saw in online communities. It felt like I had finally found a place where I belonged and people who understood my pain. They told me my feelings meant I was trans, and that the solution was to transition. I started identifying as non-binary first, around age 16, because it felt like a less scary step. But the community kept pushing me further, suggesting that my discomfort was a sign I was actually a trans man. I had low self-esteem, depression, and anxiety, and I was looking for any way to escape those feelings. Transitioning seemed like the ultimate escape from myself.
I started testosterone when I was 19. I thought it would fix everything. For a little while, it felt like it did. I felt powerful and in control for the first time. But the high didn't last. The underlying issues were still there. I got top surgery at 21. I was so sure it was what I needed to finally be happy and complete. After the surgery, there was a period of relief. I had hated my breasts so much, and it felt good to have them gone.
But the relief was temporary. The depression and anxiety came back, worse than before. I started to realize that I had been using transition as a form of escapism. I was trying to run away from my other problems—my mental health struggles and a lot of unresolved trauma. I began to see how the online communities I was in operated like a cult. Questioning anything was discouraged. If you doubted your transition, you were told you were suffering from internalized transphobia. It was a closed system that didn't allow for any dissent.
I started to detransition at 23. It was a slow process of waking up. I stopped testosterone. I began to understand that my issues were not with my sex, but with society's expectations and my own mental health. I benefited greatly from non-affirming therapy, where a therapist finally helped me address my trauma and anxiety instead of just affirming a trans identity. I realized that a lot of my initial discomfort was related to being autistic and the social confusion that came with that, not with being in the wrong body.
I have serious regrets about my transition. I am now infertile because of the hormones I took, and that is a profound loss that I have to live with every day. I altered my body permanently to try and solve a problem that wasn't really there. I see now that I was influenced by a cult-like mentality online that preys on vulnerable young people. They use emotional blackmail to keep you in line, making you feel like you’ll be nothing without the group.
My thoughts on gender now are simple: be yourself. You don’t need to change your body to fit a label. The pressure to conform is immense, but true freedom is telling everyone else to fuck off and living your life for you. I don't believe I was ever truly trans. I was a confused, hurting young person who was given a dangerous and permanent solution for temporary problems.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and hated my developing breasts. |
| 16 | Began identifying as non-binary, heavily influenced by online communities. |
| 19 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 21 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 23 | Stopped testosterone and began the process of detransition. |
Top Comments by /u/Accomplished_Tea_768:
Unsurprising.
These activists are extremists and want nothing but to shut you up. The content doesn't really matter, they just want to silence you because you don't support their belief-based narrative. It's a cult and the biggest threat to a cult is a former cult member who speaks out against the cult.
https://cultrecovery101.com/cult-recovery-readings/checklist-of-cult-characteristics/
"We suggest that you check all characteristics that apply to you or your group. You may find that your assessment changes over time, with further reading and research.
The group is focused on a living leader to whom members seem to display excessively zealous, unquestioning commitment.
The group is preoccupied with bringing in new members.
The group is preoccupied with making money.
Questioning, doubt, and dissent are discouraged or even punished.
Mind-numbing techniques (such as meditation, chanting, speaking in tongues, denunciation sessions, debilitating work routines) are used to suppress doubts about the group and its leader(s).
The leadership dictates sometimes in great detail how members should think, act, and feel (for example: members must get permission from leaders to date, change jobs, get married; leaders may prescribe what types of clothes to wear, where to live, how to discipline children, and so forth).
The group is elitist, claiming a special, exalted status for itself, its leader(s), and members (for example: the leader is considered the Messiah or an avatar; the group and/or the leader has a special mission to save humanity).
The group has a polarized us-versus-them mentality, which causes conflict with the wider society.
The group’s leader is not accountable to any authorities (as are, for example, military commanders and ministers, priests, monks, and rabbis of mainstream denominations).
The group teaches or implies that its supposedly exalted ends justify means that members would have considered unethical before joining the group (for example: collecting money for bogus charities).
The leadership induces guilt feelings in members in order to control them.
Members’ subservience to the group causes them to cut ties with family and friends, and to give up personal goals and activities that were of interest before joining the group.
Members are encouraged or required to live and/or socialize only with other group members."
Unsurprising.
These activists are extremists and want nothing but to shut you up. The content doesn't really matter, they just want to silence you because you don't support their belief-based narrative. It's a cult and the biggest threat to a cult is a former cult member who speaks out against the cult.
https://cultrecovery101.com/cult-recovery-readings/checklist-of-cult-characteristics/
"We suggest that you check all characteristics that apply to you or your group. You may find that your assessment changes over time, with further reading and research.
The group is focused on a living leader to whom members seem to display excessively zealous, unquestioning commitment.
The group is preoccupied with bringing in new members.
The group is preoccupied with making money. Questioning, doubt, and dissent are discouraged or even punished.
Mind-numbing techniques (such as meditation, chanting, speaking in tongues, denunciation sessions, debilitating work routines) are used to suppress doubts about the group and its leader(s).
The leadership dictates sometimes in great detail how members should think, act, and feel (for example: members must get permission from leaders to date, change jobs, get married; leaders may prescribe what types of clothes to wear, where to live, how to discipline children, and so forth).
The group is elitist, claiming a special, exalted status for itself, its leader(s), and members (for example: the leader is considered the Messiah or an avatar; the group and/or the leader has a special mission to save humanity).
The group has a polarized us-versus-them mentality, which causes conflict with the wider society. The group’s leader is not accountable to any authorities (as are, for example, military commanders and ministers, priests, monks, and rabbis of mainstream denominations).
The group teaches or implies that its supposedly exalted ends justify means that members would have considered unethical before joining the group (for example: collecting money for bogus charities). The leadership induces guilt feelings in members in order to control them.
Members’ subservience to the group causes them to cut ties with family and friends, and to give up personal goals and activities that were of interest before joining the group.
Members are encouraged or required to live and/or socialize only with other group members."
The self deletion threat = emotional blackmail.
https://www.survivorshandbook.com/blackmail/
Do important people in your life:
• Threaten to make your life difficult if you don’t do what they want?
• Constantly threaten to end the relationship if you don’t do what they want?
• Tell you or imply that they will neglect, hurt themselves or become depressed if you don’t do what they want?
• Always want more, no matter how much you give?
• Regularly assume you will give in to them?
• Regularly ignore or discount your feelings and needs?
• Make lavish promises that are contingent on your behavior and then rarely, or never, keep them?
• Shower you with approval when you give in to them, and take it away when you don’t?
• Use money as a weapon to get their way?
It was. No one cared about this shit,in the 2000s because it was already settled in the 90s but this generation got mind wiped and programmed to think it's an issue.
Go and be yourself And fuck what others think, they're not important if they judge you on looks alone.
No problem. Might be crass to send the pic, though. Up to you, but you don't owe anyone any proof of anything. Just tell them to fuck off. It's just the internet, nothing matters here. But yeah conformity is pretty much the name of the game. They found their little niche of power and exploit it. The thing about power is that people only have so much power as you give them. ;-)