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About me
I was born male and started identifying as a woman in my early twenties, taking hormones to transition. I tried to detransition back to living as a man at 26, but it only lasted four months because it didn't feel right. I've realized my choice was always about finding the most enjoyable life and how I wanted society to see me, not a deep internal feeling. I never had surgeries due to a genetic condition, and I don't have any regrets about my path. Now, I live peacefully as a woman, and I believe your life is your own to make choices that bring you happiness.
My detransition story
My journey with gender has been complicated, and looking back, I see it was influenced a lot by how I wanted to be seen by the world, not just by how I felt inside. I was born male, and for a while, I identified and lived as a woman. I even started taking hormones. But it didn't stick. I tried to detransition back to living as a man, but I only lasted about four months. It just didn't work for me. So I went back to identifying and living as a woman. You could say my path is M2F2M2F.
I don't have any bitterness about any of it. I've read stories from people who detransitioned and weren't angry, and I really relate to that. For me, it was about finding a way to live that felt the most enjoyable. I made my decision on how to present my gender based on how I wanted society to treat me and judge me. It wasn't about a deep internal feeling that changed day-to-day; it was a practical choice about the kind of life I wanted to have.
I never had any surgeries. I have a genetic condition that makes surgery too risky for me, so that was never part of my journey. I can't imagine what it's like for people who go through that, especially if they were pressured into it. I remember reading one person's story about being forced to take medication and have surgery, and that just sounded like a terrible abuse of power.
I think a lot about self-image. It's so tied to how the people around you see you. When you're transitioning, or in my case, detransitioning for that short time, you have to rely on friends who will treat you as you identify. You can use all the same tricks that trans people use to help feel more comfortable while you're figuring things out. It's all about finding what makes you feel like your best self.
I don't really have regrets. Transitioning and then detransitioning and then going back was just part of my process. There's nothing shameful about changing your mind. Your life is your own, and you should present yourself in the way that gives you the most peace and happiness.
Here is a timeline of the main events:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Early 20s | Started identifying as a woman and began taking hormones (M2F). |
| 26 | Stopped hormones and tried to live as a man again (detransition). |
| 26 (about 4 months later) | Realized living as a man didn't work for me and resumed identifying as a woman and taking hormones (M2F). |
Top Comments by /u/AcesWifey:
I guess the too late really depends on what you’re looking for. If it would improve your quality of life, even if you wouldn’t reach your ideal, it seems like it is something worth pursuing.
I’ve never had surgery. My genetic condition makes it risky. I couldn’t imagine your experience but it sounds like you’re suffering. I hope whatever path you choose, you end up in a happier, more fulfilled place.
It’s your life and you should definitely present the way that gives you the most enjoyable life.
It definitely is different as a man, even a gay one, with dating. You have to be direct about your interest more and it’s less about being noticed.
I made my decision on gender presentation based on how I want to be treated and judged by society at large, not how I necessarily felt on any given day and that has worked well for me.
There’s definitely nothing wrong or shameful about detransition, just like there isn’t with transition either.
The amount of coercion you’re talking about here... you should bring this evidence to the police and have this person actually prosecuted, nevermind suing. They forced you to take five years of a medication against your will and have surgery. That seems like an abuse of power.
Looked great before and now!
I definitely understand what someone else said about being able to be a better man after transitioning.
I don’t really fit in to this sub, I detransitioned for a like four months but I couldn’t make it work for me. So I’m kinda M2F2M2F lol
But I like that I’ve read a bunch of people here who have done it and weren’t bitter about it and I can definitely relate to that.
Self image is often based on the input you’re getting from those around you. It takes time and, especially if you’re not yet passing, you may need to rely on friends who will treat you as you identify and using those ‘transition’ tricks. You’re still transitioning, just to something more in line with your inner reality. You really should be able to use the same tools trans women use to get through those points in transition.
Good luck! You can do this, you’re an amazing woman who has already done so much!