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About me
I started transitioning at 22, believing I was a woman, and for a couple of years, it felt like an amazing, euphoric party. That high eventually wore off, and I was hit with the painful reality that I could never actually be female, which became especially clear when dating. I became obsessed with my appearance, shaving my face raw and piling on makeup to try and fix what I saw. I detransitioned six months ago and now feel more grounded and comfortable as a male than I ever did before. While I don't regret the journey, I believe the medical system failed me by not exploring the deeper reasons I wanted to transition.
My detransition story
My whole journey feels like it happened to a different person, but it was me. I started transitioning because I truly believed I was a woman trapped in a man's body. For the first year or two, it was amazing. It felt like a "euphoria," like I was finally being myself and everyone was so supportive. It was like being at a great party where everything feels perfect.
But that feeling didn't last. As I got further into adulthood, the high wore off and I started to see things more clearly. It was like waking up from a dream with a bad hangover. I began to realize that no matter how well I passed or how much people affirmed me, I was never going to be female. That truth kept hitting me, especially when dating. The dynamic was always different; everyone involved knew I wasn't a biological woman, even if they were kind about it.
I became obsessed with my appearance in a way that wasn't healthy. I would shave my face constantly, to the point where I had burns and bumps all over my skin. Even after laser hair reduction helped, I was still fixated on any tiny bit of facial hair, shaving multiple times a day. I'd then pile on makeup to cover the irritation. Looking back, that was a sign of deeper issues I wasn't dealing with.
I detransitioned about half a year ago, and it was like stepping out of a fog. I feel more grounded and real now than I ever did during my transition. Life is just easier. I'm more comfortable with being male, and that has made everything in my life better. I don't regret my transition because it led me to where I am now, but I see now that it wasn't the right path for me. I still have some mental issues to work through, and I plan to find a therapist to help.
I have complicated feelings about gender now. I don't hate trans people—if someone is genuinely happy transitioning, I'm happy for them. But I do think the medical system failed me. The "informed consent" model felt rushed. It was like they just handed me hormones without really digging into why I wanted them. We need more long-term studies and better therapy to help people figure things out before making permanent changes. Society also doesn't have a clear place for trans people, which leads to a lot of pain, and I'm relieved to not be dealing with that anymore.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 22 | Started taking hormones and socially transitioning to live as a woman. |
| 23-24 | Underwent laser hair reduction on my face. Felt a period of "euphoria" and social affirmation. |
| 25 | Began to feel persistent doubts and discomfort with the reality of being a trans woman versus a biological female. |
| 26 | Stopped hormones and began detransitioning back to living as a man. |
| 26 (Present) | Feeling more grounded and comfortable as a male, though still dealing with some lingering mental health issues. |
Top Comments by /u/Achulus:
Honestly, it's not trans people I hate but just aspects of modern-day trans activism or trans issues in general. For example, I believe the informed consent models and "patient-led medical care" models in the U.S. that have been adopted for trans issues/gender dysphoria are ridiculous and inconsistent and are leading to some people being given medication they don't need or will harm them. That's transphobic though to activists because that means I am promoting "gatekeeping" and "gatekeeping" is always harmful in their minds despite us doing it for a ton of medical issues and for good reason.
I understand. Detransitioned around half a year ago and honestly it felt like I stepped out of a dream or something. Although I still deal with issues around having transitioned, I feel like I am more firmly grounded than ever before. Still going to work on getting a therapist to help me through some remaining mental issues though.
Coming from the other end, as a detrans guy who passed fairly well as a woman, something would always come around that hits back at the fact that I was not female. That no matter what I did and what people said to affirm me, I would always still just be a trans woman, not a female. That fact was driven home every day, especially when dating someone. The dynamic was just completely different and everyone knew it whether they admitted it or not.
Shaving my face a ton to the point where I would have burns and bumps all over my skin. After laser though that decreased, but I was still super obsessed over facial fair, even stuff that was not really visible, to the point where I would shave some multiple times a day. I don't do this anymore though after detrans. Regardless, I would use tons of makeup to cover up any burns.
I mean I would like there to be longer term studies. I imagine that myself and other here can testify that for the first year or two we were riding high on love bombing and “euphoria.” After getting more into adulthood though I realized I was wrong. It’s like being drunk at a party one night having the time of your life and then waking up the next morning feeling awful.
No, but if they are genuinely happy then I'm happy for them. However, I don't think that it's always greener on the other side. They will have problems in other areas as a result of being transgender, and I'm ultimately happy that I am now more comfortable with my birth sex than before. It makes my life infinitely easier in every sphere of life. Not that the problems they face are always their fault, but right now society as a whole doesn't have a consensus on how trans people fit into it, and that can lead to some hate and misunderstanding. I have my own issues with some aspects of trans activism, but I don't envy the hate that some trans people receive.