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About me
My journey started from a place of deep pain after my father abandoned me, and I thought becoming a man would make me worthy of love. I realized I was trying to change myself for others, inspired by my mother who showed me I could be both strong and soft as a woman. I stopped taking hormones and began healing by learning to love my authentic female self. Now, I am happily married to a man who loves me as I am, and I helped guide both my niece and my own teenager back to embracing their female identities. I learned that the answer wasn't to change my body, but to heal the pain inside.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started from a place of deep pain and confusion. I was abandoned by my father as a baby and was always told how much he hated me. That left a huge wound, and I grew up with terrible self-esteem and a desperate need for love and validation from men. I attached myself to every guy I dated, thinking they could fix me and make me whole.
I think a lot of my discomfort was also tied to not wanting to be boxed in by stereotypes. I saw my own mother, a single parent, working incredibly hard to feed her four children. She was feminine and soft with us, but she did back-breaking work that society might call "a man's job." I struggled with that contradiction and for a while, I thought the answer was to change myself to fit some other idea.
I started to believe that if I transitioned, it would solve my problems. I thought becoming a man would make me stronger and finally make me worthy of love. I socially transitioned and started living as male. I even helped my niece, who is like a daughter to me, transition to living as my nephew around the same time. I took hormones for a period, but I never had any surgeries.
The turning point for me was a slow realization that I was trying to change myself for other people, to fit an ideal that wasn't really me. I had this huge epiphany: I just needed to be me. Whatever that was. I looked at my mum with new eyes and realized that I could be strong and soft, feminine and tough, all at the same time, without having to change my body. I didn't need to be a man to be valid. I learned that the only person who could truly make me happy was myself.
I stopped taking hormones and detransitioned. It was a process of rediscovering and loving my authentic female self. My mental health started to improve when I stopped fighting my own body. I benefited greatly from this shift in perspective; it was a kind of therapy in itself, realizing I didn't need to affirm a new gender to be okay.
Now, I am happily married to a wonderful man who loves me exactly as I am. I don't have to change a thing for him. I also helped guide my niece back to living as my niece again; she found a loving partner who accepts her as a lesbian woman, which was so beautiful to see. My own teenager, who had also started to transition, has desisted and is slowly coming to realize and own her female identity as she's gotten older.
I don't regret my transition entirely because it was a path I needed to walk to get to where I am now. It taught me the most important lesson: to love myself. But if I could go back, I would tell my younger self that the answer isn't in changing your body to match your pain, but in healing the pain itself. My thoughts on gender now are that it's far less important than just being a good, authentic person. The stereotypes don't matter. What matters is being true to yourself and finding that core self-love.
| Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| (Baby) | (Years ago) | Abandoned by my father, which led to lifelong self-esteem issues and a need for validation from men. |
| (Young Adult) | (Years ago) | Began socially transitioning and taking testosterone to live as a man. |
| (Young Adult) | (Years ago) | Helped my niece transition to living as my nephew. |
| 2023 | Had an epiphany about self-love and authenticity, inspired by my mother's strength. Stopped hormones and began detransitioning. | |
| 2024 | Supported my niece as she detransitioned and embraced her identity as a lesbian woman. | |
| 2025 | My own desisted teenager turned 18 and began to embrace her female identity. |
Top Comments by /u/AdOwn7922:
Incredible transformation back to being your birth self! You look absolutely cute and clear in your aura. I wish you the best of steadfastness in rediscovering your authentic female self. Be strong, be cute, be energetic, be soft be whatever you feel every day. Lots of love
I am sending you lots of hugs as a woman who’s gone through gender dysphoria and is now a mama to a daughter who’s going through the same thing. She never stopped loving you and probably died praying the best for you. If you believe in spirituality, please do keep talking with her. Our loved ones are never far from our souls. They can hear us and they can still guide us in our lives if we ask them for help. My late grandma is always here giving me guidance. Your mum is waiting for you to reach out to her even if from afar. The bond between a child and their mama never ends. Much love ❤️
Abso-freaking-lutely! This was the epiphany that got me out of my conundrum. Just be me. Whatever me is. It helped that I looked at my single hard working mum with new eyes. I thought if she can be as feminine as she is to us kids yet do break breaking work like a man, to feed her 4 children, then I can be the same. No gender stereotypes. Nothing. Loving ourselves for who we are. Thank you for the reminder.
Welcome back to the life of your female form. As an ‘elder’ I’m so happy for you to have this chance again to get another go at life. As Clementine. ❤️
Hope your health will only get better and your relationship with your boyfriend stronger. And that your mental health will improve with age. My own desisted teenager just turned 18 and has slowly began to realise she’s female too. And owning it. Keep being positive about the future.
Hi I’m so sorry to hear this.
As a much older person who’s been there with love issues, I totally get where you’re coming from. It takes a lot of self love and confidence to realise you don’t need someone else to make you happy. Or give you company. Learn to enjoy your own self.
I was abandoned by my own father as a baby and told repeatedly how he hated me. Ergo I also developed a severe attachment to every man I dated. Until I freed myself of this feeling. Until I learnt that I’m the only one who can make me happy. That I shouldn’t change for anyone else. Until then…
I finally am married to a lovely man who loves the way I am. Nothing to change for him. So I suggest the same for you. Much love ❤️
Pics were not uploaded I think? Can’t see any poke. But in any case, well done you! Hope the support from family and friends will keep you going. I’m now in the beginning of helping my niece whom I helped transition to my nephew back to being my niece. Similar timeline as you. Found herself a welcoming and loving partner who accept her as a lesbian instead of being her boyfriend.
Wow you are a very handsome male! Well done! I hope you become more happy from now on and keep working on your mental health. The physical health will come when the mind is strong. And don’t forget to work on your spiritual side whether you believe in a religion or not. ❤️