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About me
I started identifying as trans in 7th grade and began testosterone at 18, but it made my mental health much worse and I never felt like I fully fit in as a man. I now see my dysphoria was rooted in self-hatred and trauma, not a true male identity. Coming off testosterone was physically rough, but the real healing came from trauma therapy and yoga, which taught me how to feel safe in my body again. I’ve realized the person I wanted to be isn't gendered, and I can be a strong, intellectual woman. I'm now at peace, fully living as a detransitioned woman and focused on building my future.
My detransition story
My journey with gender has been long and complicated, but I’ve come out the other side with a lot of peace. I started identifying as trans in 7th grade and began testosterone when I was 18. I was on a low dose of injections for about two years. During that time, I passed as male, but I never felt like I fully fit in. I was always awkwardly learning the social rules of being a guy, and it was exhausting, like being an actor who hadn't memorized their lines. I also have bipolar type 1 and BPD (quiet type), and being on T made my mental health a lot worse. I experienced rapid mood cycles and even some psychotic symptoms, like hearing things and having unshakable delusions.
A big reason I wanted to transition was because of deep-seated issues. I grew up in a traumatic household with a lot of emotional neglect, and I internalized a lot of shame about being a woman. I now see that my dysphoria wasn’t really about gender; it was about hating myself and my body on a fundamental level. I felt disconnected from being human. I also think I was influenced by wanting to fit into certain roles I admired, like being a son or being in robotics, and I mistakenly thought I had to be male to embody those traits.
I started to detransition around age 20. A big turning point was when I had a bad experience with a T injection; I think I hit a nerve in my leg, and it scared me. It made me realize that my health was in my own hands and that this medication might not be right for my body. I had also started to feel, for the first time, a sense of sexual gratification from my female body without any shame, which was new and confusing. I began skipping doses behind my doctor's back, extending the time between shots, and my body reacted badly with hot flashes, skin crawling, and paranoia. I realized I was getting the worst of both hormonal worlds.
When I finally told my gender provider I had stopped T cold turkey a month prior, she was fine with it. Physically, coming off testosterone was rough at first. I had terrible acne, worse than I’d ever had before. My body temperature regulation was all over the place; I’d get hot flashes, especially on the first day of my period, and I became much more sensitive to the cold. My voice was deep, and I mourned the singing voice I had lost. But over time, things got better. My weight redistributed, my hairline filled back in, and my period returned.
The most important part of my healing wasn't physical, though; it was mental. I benefited immensely from trauma-informed therapy. My therapist and I did a lot of inner child work and guided visualizations to help me learn self-gentleness. I had to literally re-learn how to talk to myself without harsh, punishing language. I also got really into yoga, specifically trauma-informed yoga on YouTube. At first, just focusing on my breathing made me panic and feel dysphoric, but I stuck with it. It helped me cry and process emotions, and it taught me how to feel safe and at home in my body again. Pilates and finding a skincare routine also became important acts of self-care.
I’ve realized that gender is a very small part of who I am. The qualities I wanted—like being intellectual, strong, or connected to my family—aren’t gendered at all. I can be a woman and have all of those things. I don’t regret my transition because it was a chapter that led me to where I am now, which is a place of self-acceptance. I’m a detransitioned woman, but I’m read as female 100% of the time now, and sometimes people see me as nonbinary, which I’m cool with. I even kept my chosen masculine name because I think it’s cute and it fits my androgynous vibe.
My relationship with my parents healed through all of this. They had already done the work to accept me as their son, and when I detransitioned, that foundation of unconditional love meant they accepted me as their daughter just as easily. We’re closer now than ever.
I don’t spend my time being angry about my past. I think it’s important to let people explore their gender, and I don't believe in trying to prevent others from transitioning. For me, detransition was about grieving and then moving on to acceptance. I’m focused on my future, my career, and building a life I love.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| ~12-13 (7th Grade) | Started identifying as transgender. |
| 18 | Started a low dose of testosterone injections. |
| 20 | Began skipping T doses, started detransition process. Officially stopped testosterone. |
| 20-23 (Present) | Physical and mental changes after stopping T. Engaged in trauma therapy, yoga, and pilates. Fully living as a detransitioned woman. |
Top Comments by /u/Affection-Angel:
Best advice is to get offline. Online spaces are very very distant from other humans, and often dissociate our opinions into extremes. When online, the brain literally has a harder time engaging in empathy. These commenters see what they want to see in your words. Real people are the most likely to hear your story, your voice, and your opinion, and respond with RESPECT. People online will never see the true you, because that's not how the Internet works.
Seriously, limiting time on social media can be a great move for ones health. Find ways to connect IRL, in real ways (Ie, find a hobby group that doesn't revolve around de/trans identities). Just live life and enjoy connection and growth and all the beauty that comes with it.
Sorry there's no better answer, the real world will always be the better choice over the internet.
Woah, what? U are totally free to those opinions, I'm definitely a bit conspiratorial myself, nothin wrong with that. But I seriously wonder what kinda therapist shares these personal opinions with a client? Therapists typically strive to maintain a certain type of client relationship, and that definitely involves keeping personal theories of 'dark world influence' out of a theraputic space.
Have you talked to the sibling in question??? All these replies talking about the parents but... Literally talking to ur sibling would be great. Doesn't even have to be about gender at first. Just show interest in their interests, get them to tell you about exciting things in their life/media they enjoy.... Basic relationship building 101? From there, being vulnerable about your life path would be a really beautiful moment. Not even focused on preventing your siblings transition, but sharing your authentic self with someone who cares about you.
Being honest with my younger brother has been a huge source of support in my life, strong sibling relationships are truly a blessing. Don't worry about "intervening" as much as being honest and heart-to-heart with your sibling. Teens are smart and emotional people, even if their lives seem chaotic or impulsive. Talk to them like a human, like a friend, like a sibling. gender talk can come whenever they are ready to bring it up.
This 100%. I am happy, healthy, at peace with my body, and moved on from that part of my life. If detranstion is a process of grieving, then I'm in the acceptance stage. I've had some awesome therapy, and keep myself busy enough to not wallow in past regrets.
I appreciate my life story as a whole. Transition was one chapter, detranstion was another, and now I'm on to doing the next things in my life. I don't think about my gender every day, and I don't obsess about how people will perceive me. It took time and emotional effort (re: therapy) to get to where I am today.
There are people who have healed. They just don't hang out here as much.
I mean, during pregnancy all boobs swell up a bit. It's definitely a secondary sex trait that is in some way tied to fertility.
But modern culture has gone way further in how we treat this simple physical feature as something totally different from other human body parts. Ie, female nudity of the chest is taboo if not illegal. What is attractive is ultimately a cultural trend, 200 years ago the sight of a woman's ankle was scandalous. Humans are silly creatures, and there is no true inherit biological attraction to any body part in isolation.
Fun fact, some ancient cave drawings (in a specific region, I forget the name of....) differentiated stick figures of men and women in cave art by giving women breasts and men huge thighs. Because the male hunters who could run further got more food, that was probably one of the earliest idealized body types. We will always be influenced by the cultural zeitgeist around us, no matter the era.
On the contrary...
GNC is a really beautiful and important type of gender expression. If more young kids knew the broad range of possible gender expressions, they would be less likely to feel they must pursue binary transition in order to let their masculinity/frmininity shine. Masculine women and feminine men exist and are valuable people in society. I don't see the point in framing language to hide this reality.
Yup, this. I promise nobody will notice these small details as much as you do. Its very natural that we can pick up on every insecurity in the mirror, in reality others will not notice. Certainly nobody will think of your gender any differently even if they do glance.
I struggled with this feeling too. My solution was a good quality bikini. Apparently, swimsuits can be a luxury purchase. Some can easily go >$100!? I got mine for around $65 total (top and bottom sold separately 🤦) but it is noticably higher quality than plain ol' walmart. Nothing against them, but I feel that having a bikini cut that really fits my body was worth the purchase. Consider where your bikini bottoms cut across your bum, and aim for a cut that doesn't create as much "bum bump" when laying across your bum cheeks. Hard to explain over text, but basically I found that having the bottoms fit appropriately around my hips made the tension better, plus thicker quality fabric = nobody will notice. Some have recommended black, which is totally a safe pick, but I feel super confident in my neon orange bikini!
If you are on blockers, that was "to give you time to think". You can just be honest, say you've given it some thought, and you DO want to go through female puberty.
Puberty is never an easy ride. But it is a lot easier when you have support. Asking for your parents to support you through this is gonna get easier with time, and as you grow on your own into a healthy woman. Puberty and teenagehood are full of growing pains, physically and emotionally, but I guarantee you will make it out all okay.
Find your supportive people. If not parents, then doctors. Find your friends, find your school counsellors, find your trustworthy safe spaces. Find your clubs, find your hobbies, find your skills! That's what this time of life is all about. Even cis people have fluctuations and can explore gender, that's completely normal for this time in life. Experiment with your fashion, explore new interests! There's so much that goes into your personality, and makes you who you are. Gender is ultimately a very small slice of who you are, so don't worry about letting it define you. Put your energy into finding what you're good at, and what you enjoy. Pick up a new hobby, and it may be with you for your whole life!
My parents were similar, although I transitioned on T and detrans'd in adulthood. It took them a while, but in just a few short years we have completely changed our relationship dynamic, and I feel closer to them than ever. When I was 14, I thought I might run away from home because they were so toxic about my identity. Now that I'm 23, I love bringing them into my life, spending time with them, and see them in my future.
It wasn't an easy road here, but my advice is to do your best to emotionally filter out their confusion, and find support in your friendships (even making new friends!) and your hobbies. Find your outlets! And don't forget that even though it's hard to believe at times, your parents do love you, and they do want you to become a stable and well-adjusted adult someday. This is not their best moment, and maybe someday, like me, you can find it in your heart to forgive their actions.
TL;DR: focus on you, get friends and hobbies, that's a better way to spend teenage years than fretting over gender. It gets better!
On the contrary, I really appreciate those kinds of narratives because they add to the diversity of detrans'ers. Like, I started on this subreddit, and holy shit is it ever depressing. Makes me think "damn, I'm not filled with anger and shame, but looks like most all detransitioners are" :(. Getting to see the other ways people grow from detransition/move past HRT with grace makes me feel like, "Oh cool, someone taking on a growth mindset" :).
Detransitioners are a super diverse bunch, and I guess seeing only one side of the coin, whether that's only the grief or only the sugarcoated 'journey' is destined to not be the full picture. I can't speak to how performative anyone's story is, but I'm glad to be able to see lots of detrans perspectives from both crowds.
This varies, most therapists will consult on cases with a supervisor. They usually won't share verbatim what clients share in confidentiality, but it's not uncommon for a therapist to be like "hm, I have no idea how to approach this, I'm gonna talk to my supervisor". Therapists do this also to share progress with clients over time, to make sure treatment is following the most helpful course, etc. In my past, my therapists usually tell me before they consult on specific matters, but I've also had therapists who were new to the practice, and told me at the start of our treatment they would be consulting regularly with a supervisor.
In any case, you are free to inquire with any professional about such consults, and what they do behind the scenes. Its not supposed to be a secret.