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About me
I started transitioning as a man in my late twenties after a severe mental health crisis and a brain injury. I now see I was using the idea of being a woman as an escape from deep-seated trauma and confusion about my bisexuality. My health declined on hormones, and confronting past abuse finally made me realize I needed to stop. I've had to deal with permanent physical effects from the medication since detransitioning. Through therapy, I've found peace and learned to accept myself as a man who doesn't have to fit a stereotype.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was messy and deeply tied to my mental health. I was born male and I transitioned in my late twenties, around age 29. It wasn't because I had a lifelong feeling of being a woman. I was severely depressed for a year and then had a manic episode. Around that time, I also had a serious brain injury that really messed me up. My mental health was at an all-time low.
During this dark period, I spent too much time on trans subreddits and just deep-fried my brain with all that information online. I got convinced I was a trans woman. Looking back, I realize I was using transition as a form of escapism. I had a lot of unresolved trauma and C-PTSD from a terrible childhood, and I had a very fractured sense of self. I never had stable parents and I grew up in high-crime areas where I felt I had to be hyper-masculine and bottle up my emotions to survive. Being seen as vulnerable would get you picked on.
I also had a lot of confusion around my sexuality. I'm actually bisexual, but for a long time I repressed my attraction to men. I had crushes on male celebrities growing up but I kept chasing women instead. I had a very warped view of masculinity and thought being an emotionally soft man would get me screwed over. I think this internalized homophobia played a part in me thinking I must be a woman instead of just accepting I was a man who liked men.
I was on estrogen for about 16 months. The physical effects were rough. My skin became paper thin and dry, and I developed eczema. I lost a massive amount of muscle—about 27 pounds—and became incredibly weak. I used to be able to do 200 pushups and after estrogen, I could barely lift a stack of plates. My health started going downhill on the hormones.
What really made me stop was that I started becoming self-aware. I started having very intense flashbacks and memories from my childhood trauma began surfacing. I also had a sexually abusive relationship with a trans man who was a psychiatrist and used his knowledge to manipulate me. This threw me into a nosedive. I spent about two weeks quietly reflecting on what I wanted, not what others felt was best for me. I realized I never really tried to enjoy being a man. I had never explored men's fashion or grooming, or just chilled with other men. I learned that most guys treat each other with respect, and I started to appreciate that.
I decided to detransition in 2020. The process of going off hormones was really hard on my body. You can't just stop cold turkey; I had to taper down slowly with my doctor. My body doesn't adjust well to medical changes. It took over a year for my testosterone to come back, and even then, my levels are lower than most men my age. I have permanent damage to my reproductive organs that causes me chronic pain, and I have to get my gynecomastia removed because it's painful. I am now infertile.
Since detransitioning, I've done a lot of trauma therapy for my C-PTSD and borderline traits. I’m finally at peace with myself. I wouldn’t say I’m happier, but I am content. I’ve learned that being a man doesn’t mean you have to be a walking stereotype. I’m a masculine guy, I like sports and martial arts, and I’m also bisexual. Those things aren’t incompatible. I don't really fit with the mainstream LGBT movement anymore, and I'm okay with that. I've made new friends and found new communities.
I do have regrets, but not about transitioning itself. My biggest regret is how I treated people when I detransitioned. I was angry and in pain, and I took it out on the local trans community, burning a lot of bridges. I've worked through that anger now. I don't blame the trans community for my decisions; they were just trying to help me when I was in a bad place. I made the choice to transition, and I have to take responsibility for that.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 29 | 2018 | Started transition after a manic episode and deep depression. Began taking estrogen. |
| 30 | 2019 | Was on hormones throughout the year, health began declining. |
| 31 | 2020 | Spent 2 weeks in reflection, decided to detransition. Began tapering off estrogen. |
| 32 | 2021 | Officially off hormones. Dealing with the long physical and emotional recovery process. |
| 35 | 2024 | Now 4 years post-detransition. Content with my life as a man and have a firmer understanding of myself. |
Top Comments by /u/Aggravating-Display2:
Loads of reasions, misplaced issues with my gender and sexuality,a very negative response to to estradiol and the antiandrigons, and I just over all realized that I love being a man and just had so much trauma in past that I need to deal with instead of trying to avoid.
being a male doesn't mean you have to a walking stereotype, it means defining yourself s and who you are, I realized that I am gay but that i am also very masculine, and that those two are not incompatible, I can still like sports and martial arts and still be into guys and if people tell me that they think I have "inner-homophobia", they can fuck off, this is me
you just cant rationalize with these type of people I know some offline and they pretty much hate my guts, these people will stalk and harrass detransitioners, and as such I create new accounts every few months.
so please be careful what you post here
Here some advice when someone says that, asks what are the specific percentage and from what study.
Also being attracted to trans women in porn means nothing hell I watch straight porn and I'm gay . please dont let strangers on the internet push you into a existential crisis, that's what convinced me I was trans when I'm not.
all of this sounds like a red flag to me, please work on your self image and confidence, your pretty young, low self esteem and insecurity about ones self, is common, if you have a trusted older male freind get help with presentation, you would be surprised how working on your self image and look helps how you feel
I just got tire of it all and stopped caring, I left the local lgbt as I found it extremally toxic, and I made new freinds who were more politically aligned with my new views. but then Im a bisexual man, so I was never really welcomed within the lgbt anyways.
and I guess thats my ansewer, make new freinds find new communities, in the beginning its infuriating, but for me after 4 years, I just don't care anymore
the internet is the worst place to get this information, it was what ultimatly led me to transition which was a very unhealthy choice for me. find a sex therapist hash it out with them and avoid people who try to push you one way or the other.
good luck
My advice... dont suddenly announce it to people
give it time, you can start to go back to wearing male clothing, social detransition is very easy to do what isnt is going of the hormones.
again give it time and if you do go off medically DONT do it cold turkey, cold turkey rarely ever works or is a good idea for any drugs, Hormones are a whole another level, they effect everything, estrogen is (contrary to myth) avery powerful sex hormone, going off it throws your entire endocrine system into chaos.
I detransitioned 2 years ago, if you need help or advice feel free to message/
people transition for many many reasions, and there is no narrative the explains every situation.
without going into personal detail, Im a bisexual man, that has severe cptsd from childhood trauma, I did not not have stable parents, and because of that I had a very fractured sense of self, I repressed My sexual attraction to women, and with mental health having long been neglected I grew to believe I was a trans women. this transition was in 2018 and I detransitioned back in 2020.
I detransitioned because I started becoming self aware of myself and that my doubts and feeling were very real. 4 years later and a ton of trauma therapy I have a much firmer grasp of myself and my identity. Im very much a guy who has equal attraction to both males and females (this includes some trans individuals)
hI i'm a man who also datas men
beware of guys who try to charm or promise alot of things, cant tell you how many times Ive had guys and heard stories from women about a guy coming in being a real charmer only to find out he was a real dead beat a user something worse,
over confidance, is another one, a guy who is nervious and is more honest about his feelings is a good thing.
you are allowed to be picky,. guys who are sloppy dont take care of themselves or who arent interested in working, yeah dont try to fix them just avoid them
please dont give medical advice here, medical detransition is not something to be taken lightly
Op. you bascially have been on it as long as I had discuss with your doctor about this, and talk to a therpist, going off hormones after 2 or more years is really hard, it took months for my testical to start producing testosterone again and while they do they are on the low end, high enough that I dont need exogenous T but much lower then most men my age.
if you do, take it easy for the first few months once you do, you may want to consider talking to a dietian about getting into a fitness, plan so you can start building up muscle and raising levels . I wasent able to because I have some long term disabilities but I hear exercise really helps