She was TWELWE. Imagine yourself when you were twelwe, imagine anyone being twelwe. You can't go on a school trip without your parent's permission at that age. This vast individualism and putting so much emphasis on personal responsibility in our society is highly damagining in my opinion. There need to be systematic changes, it's not an individual thing. Especially when we speak about literal children.

unbelivable, I'm really starting to get this cult analogy now to be honest. Like whatever you try to say It's apparently equivalent to supporting trans people being mass murderd or something. It's never good when some population has victim mentality so strong that they will get what they want and never admit any wrong.

I wouldn't say pregnancy = woman, but instead woman is an adult human female, and female is someone that has a body that follows a developmental blueprint, a schema of the type of human which reproductive function is to produce eggs and carry offsprings. Doesn't have to want or be able to have children, just the fact that a female has a body that developed (or tried to develop in case of someone infertile) in the direction of having this possibility. Female has one pattern of development and keeping homeostasis, male has the other one. Thats how I understand it at least.

same here, it's literally feels more scary than coming out as trans. As of right now I'm trying to kind of go gradually about it, like not tell my new course professors to use different name/pronouns than in my documents(i still have my birth name and sex mark there), go just slightly more femme with my presentation, tell people I use any pronouns now instead of male, just ignoring what others refer to me as for now. Sadly it's not very in a chill way I'm very disconnected and alienated from people. Hang in there, it's tough

i was sure i was trans, struggled with some "impostor syndrome", some time i wasnt exactly sure, then there was times i was completly sure and i wanted it 100% thats when i went for hrt, big mistake, gradually i was questioning it all more and more and one day i just woke up and it all felt like a delusion or a bad dream. a lot of young minds are unstable and rapidlt changable like that. watch out, have LONG therapy about it before doing anything permanent to your body at least and open up to the idea that not getting hrt/surgeries is a perfectly good outcome. think anout discovering yourself, not getting what you think you want.

So I have been thinking about this a lot. And I came up with something.

If we drop this whole individualistic bs of self identification, what gender really is, i belive, is pretty much a set of societal expectations towards you that come from society's perception of your biological sex. For example when people see you as male(biological) then think you should be tough(at least tougher then a woman).

Obviously a lot of the time or even most of the time, actual people's potential, skills, personality, presentation etc. doesn't live up to this expectation. Thats what gener lives off of really.

Now, is it fair that we lock people in this set of assumtions because they have one or another reproductive function? I do not think so, I think it far outlived it's purpose. Moreover I belive it's a tool of opression. He're where my gender abolitionist stance comes in. If those nonsensical expectations cease to exist, there will be no gender. Just people living their full potential (ofc you can't just abolish gender on it's own there must be first and foremost change of economical system and relations of production, opression of sexes origins from economical relations, and economical relations keeps this opression alive)

Where do we put the trans question here is - transgenderism as a social phenomenon is wanting to change the expectations by changing what sex are you percieved as. It's not progessive, it's just a personal cope with hardships of being seen as one's sex. I would like to separate transsexualism here as a more medical thing and define as - mismatch between one's body map in the brain and someones acutal sex. It is observable in studies such as 0% phantom penis sensation rate in transsexuals after surgery compared to very high percantage in cis individuals, or weaker brains response to breast stimulation in transsexual females. It's probably way more rare than social/psychological transgenderism.

I think without sex opression there is no transgenderism, but transsexualism remains. But to be honest i don't think transition is the optimal solution for transsexualism in the long run and I'm not even sure if this must always go with dysphoria. This mismatch is a disorder as any other, but it doesn't have to remain a disorder in society forever. Having a brain-body mismatch can just be a perfectly acceptable quirk of someone. Expierience of mental disorders is heavily influence by societal view of such expierience. For example, in most regions of the world, where any form of psychosis is heavily demonised and stigmatised, the halucinations take form of scary, distressing things that haunt the person. But for in some regions in Africa, where halucinations are seen as positive, and as a gift from God in some cultures, halucinations take form of hearing kind words from loved ones and other positive things like that. I belive transsexualism doesn't have to equal suffering and becoming less healthy and infertile with more and more procedures. Transsexuals deserve to have a perfectly functional body of their own as any other person.

I don't think so. You look like a guy right now but your face will change back for sure and I think you looked very good before. My expierience was that the first thing that happend very quickly after stopping T was that my smile came back to how it was! I think the way fat and other tissues wrap your face when you do facial expressions is a big thing that T does to make one pass as a guy and in reverse when you stop.

It's a big hard to imagine how you'd look without the facial hair so if you seek advice on looking pretty as a woman? Well imo shave it off + wait it out, maybe grow out your hair a bit so it covers sides of ur hairline.

Besides even if you don't look very woman I still think you look great anyways ^-^

Ok, if you don't want to see your situation that way, sure, I for some time wanted to take responsibility for being bullied in primary school. Whatever helps you. An activists job is literally to be loud and point out faults of the people that have influence over your life who wronged you or others. She couldn't change shit in the world if she just sat in the corner and be like 'welp whop i guess my 13 year old ass should have known better'. Maybe you don't want to do anything like that, so you don't have to. She looks and sounds female but she speaks about terrible problems she has with scarring from top surgery for example, hormones is not just cosmetics either.

As i listened to Chloe's speeches it's mostly about doctors. Doctors and trans influencers, activists, those with most ideological influence right now. And thats what I was refering to too. I'm not for blaming the community in general. Also you don't have to think of yourself as a forever victim to ackowledge that medical system, doctors and whoever failed you.

Are there any actual studies that even suggests lowering of suicidality rate after starting hrt??? like yeah there is a high suicidality rate among trans people but it is not clear that it's bc their transness specifically or just that trans people are more prone to mental disorders in general. (and we cannot pinpoint the exact causality here, people assume trans people are more prone to mentall illness bc of the alienation of being trans, but it might be the other way around, maybe just having mental issues correlates with higher rate of self perception issues thus also the perception of your own sex). From what i observed hrt doesn't actually make any of people's mental issues go away, they are just as suicidal as they were before if they were. If you've seen any studies on that please link them here.