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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account does not show clear red flags of being inauthentic.
The user's comments are consistently focused, emotionally charged, and show a nuanced understanding of detransition (both FtM and MtF perspectives). The advice is detailed, context-specific, and engages with other users' personal situations in a way that aligns with a passionate individual who has strong, developed opinions on the topic. The language, while sometimes repetitive in its themes (e.g., "victim of the transgenderism cult"), reflects a consistent personal ideology rather than scripted bot behavior. There is no evidence to suggest this is not a real person or a genuine desister/detransitioner.
About me
I was a girl who started feeling wrong in my body at 12, especially when I developed breasts. I got swept up in online communities that encouraged me to transition, and I ended up taking testosterone and having multiple surgeries, including a mastectomy and phalloplasty. The surgeries caused serious complications and made me realize I had been sold a fantasy. I now see my discomfort was really from depression and low self-esteem, not from being born the wrong sex. I've stopped hormones and am now trying to accept myself as a woman, though I deeply regret the permanent harm I caused my body.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was really young, around 12. I was a girl who felt incredibly uncomfortable with my body, especially when I started developing breasts during puberty. I hated them; they felt foreign and wrong on me. I now believe a lot of this was connected to a deep-seated low self-esteem and anxiety about growing up and being seen as a woman. I was also struggling with depression and used online spaces as a form of escapism from how I felt.
I got swept up in the online transgender community. I started identifying as non-binary first, and then as a trans man. The people I talked to online and some friends in real life affirmed this new identity for me and encouraged me to transition. I think I was influenced a lot by what I was seeing online; it gave me a framework to understand my discomfort, but it was the wrong one. Looking back, I see that a lot of my feelings were probably related to internalized misogyny—I didn’t want to be seen as a woman because I had a negative view of what that meant.
I started taking testosterone when I was 18. I thought it was the solution to all my problems. Later, I made the decision to get top surgery and had a full mastectomy. I deeply regret both of these things now. The surgery left me with large scars and took away a part of my body that, I’ve come to realize, wasn’t the problem. My breasts weren't the issue; my mental state was.
My biggest regret is that I later pursued phalloplasty, a surgery I was told would make me a "complete" man. The results were nothing like I was led to believe. I experienced serious health complications, and the function is far below what I was promised. It was this massive, irreversible surgery that finally made me stop and question everything. It was the moment I realized the goal of becoming a fully functioning male was an unrealistic fantasy I had been sold. I am now infertile because of the hormones and surgeries, which is a profound loss.
I now see that I was a victim of a cult-like pipeline that targets young, vulnerable people. I was a confused child who was rushed into making permanent decisions. My discomfort wasn’t a sign I was born in the wrong body; it was a sign that I needed help for my depression, anxiety, and self-esteem issues. I’ve come to believe that non-affirming therapy, the kind that would have challenged my identity and asked why I felt that way, would have benefited me greatly back then.
Today, I am detransitioning. I have stopped testosterone. The world has always seen me as a woman 99% of the time anyway; people gender you based on how you dress and present. I am working on accepting that I am a woman, and that my value isn't defined by my body or by rejecting my sex. I don’t regret transitioning in the sense that it brought me to this point of understanding, but I regret the irreversible harm I did to my body because of a false belief.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 12 | Began experiencing intense discomfort with puberty and developing breasts. |
| 16 | Started identifying as non-binary, influenced by online communities. |
| 17 | Socially transitioned to living as a trans man. |
| 18 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 20 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 23 | Underwent phalloplasty surgery. Experienced serious complications. |
| 24 | Realized the surgery results were poor and began to question my transition. Stopped testosterone and began the process of detransitioning. |
Top Comments by /u/AlkebulanOlu:
Most phallo procedure if not practically all, end up with serious complications and the results and functions post are far far below the patient's expectations almost without expectation.
This maybe the reason for your unexpected moments of regret. It is not surprising that it is at this point that many FTMs come to the realisation, that the quest to transition to a fully functioning male is an unrealistic goal and begin toquestion their decision to become FtM.
If it any consolation, let me tell you that I would never hold you accountable for the surgeries that you now regret. You are a victim of the transgenderism cult who got pushed into their pipline as a child of 12years old and depending on the environment you find yourself it is nearly almost impossible to escape from this pipeline before doing some regretable and most times irreverible harm to yourself.
Do the surgery to reverse the phalloplasty that you need to to detransion, the sooner the better.
Please note that if MTF transgenders can pass as female you would definitely be more likely than not not have problem being recognised as a woman once you get all the T out of your body and replace it with Estrogen.
Pay attention to all the women detransitoners giving advice and guidance in this comment section
The world most likely sees you only as the natural woman that you are 99%. People are mainly gendered by how they dress and present , as cross dress is assumed to be extemely rare.
Just change your style of dressing and not wear tops or dressing that requies bosoms to fill out. Some women naturally don't grow any breasts to speak off , so if you wear your tops tight , it would not be as out of the ordinary as you may imagine.
You were simply a victim of the Transgender agenda that purposely rush mentally confused young women and teens into getting mastectomies. You are not to blame, but what's done is done now you just have to make the best of your current situation.
You say it specifically occurs in dating implying you do not get mistaken for MTF in every day life. This would suggest to me that it is your dates misunderstanding your "disclosure" of a trans past. Better not to reveal anything about your transition past than to confuse men who are not exposed enough to understand or ready to receive such information.
First up, stop this need for disclosure. Say nothing. Absolutely nothing. Disclosing and explaining automatically give the impression that you believe that you are damaged and incomplete. That is why that man said that he believes you are ashamed of yourself.
But also do not rush to become intimate and to be having sex; wait until you have established a committed potentially long-term relationship that could typically lead to marriage and even then try to resist any urge to disclose or explain before your love-making, during lovemaking or after lovemaking just leave it unsaid.
The only disclosure you make is the physical one of when you are finally making love with him and being intimate. If questions come from him before the relationship is fully established you can still avoid answering if the relationship is not yet committed enough.
Whilst AGP males became trans via sexual perversion of sorts and may have tendency to be percieved as sexual predators, ultimately they are also victims of the transgenderism cult. Because ultimately they are suffering from a sort of mental illness and in the process some get manipulated into doing great irreversible harm to themselves. We should show such men more grace and understanding.
Your breasts are not useless or pointless.
You may decide to have children and breastfeed them in the future.
Your lovers and sexual partner can enjoy them sexual, even you yourself may find them as a source of sensual stimulation and pleasure.
When carried with confidence they can add to your overall attractiveness and sexual attraction.
Mastectomy does not come without its risks , side effects and disadvantages.
Having huge scars being that your breasts are huge, those scars and lack of breasts are likely be deal breakers that may need to be eplained to all new intimate or romantic.
Removal of breasts may affect your body's ability to produce all the Estrogen it needs.
This is before you even consider risk that come with major surgery and removal of huge breast would mean yours is likely going to be more major than most. Thease include infections poor hhealing Loss of nipples and more severe surgical accidents that may occur.
The consensus in the comments is to no have top surgery or to consider a reduction rather than a full mastectomy.
Well you know you have internalized misogyny. Have you ever unpacked that with a therapist?
I suspect that you truly have no desire to look like a man, but you are trying to hide your womanliness and being percieved as a man is the only way you believe you could do that.