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About me
I was born female and my discomfort started as a teenager when I hated the changes of puberty. I got swept up in online communities that pressured me to identify as a trans man and consider medical procedures. I now realize I was just a tomboy who needed to work on my self-esteem, not change my body. I'm incredibly relieved I never took hormones or had surgery. I've found peace in accepting myself as a masculine woman.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started when I was a teenager. I was born female and raised in a Catholic household, but I became agnostic as I got older. I never felt comfortable with the changes during puberty, especially developing breasts. I hated them and felt really paranoid about my body changing. I think a lot of my discomfort was just a normal part of growing up that got magnified into something bigger.
I started identifying as non-binary for a while, and then later as a trans man. I think a lot of this was influenced by what I saw online. The communities I was in felt very intense, almost like a cult or its own religion. It was easy to get so deeply invested that you lost yourself. I felt pressured to keep moving forward, to consider hormones and surgery to "fully" transition. Looking back, I honestly believe some people are being taken advantage of; there's a push to make you feel like you need these permanent procedures, and once you've done them and realize it was a mistake, you can't get what you've lost back.
I never ended up taking hormones or having any surgery. I'm really glad I didn't, because I eventually realized I wasn't a trans man. I was just a tomboy who was uncomfortable with puberty and didn't fit a stereotypically feminine mold. I've become more confident accepting that. I don't need to be super manly to be a woman, and it's okay to like masculine things.
I do have some regrets about the time I spent identifying as trans. I regret getting so deeply into that mindset and losing sight of who I really was. It felt like an escapism from dealing with my own self-esteem and body issues. I don't regret transitioning socially in the sense that it was part of my path to figuring things out, but I'm very relieved I stopped before making any permanent changes.
Now, my thoughts on gender are that it's okay to be who you are without having to change your body. For me, that meant learning to be comfortable as a masculine woman. I think it's important for people, especially young people, to be allowed to develop naturally without being rushed into medical decisions they might regret later.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13-14 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and breast development. |
| 16 | Began identifying as non-binary, influenced by online communities. |
| 17 | Socially transitioned to identifying as a trans man. |
| 19 | Realized I was not trans, but a tomboyish woman, and began detransitioning socially. |
Top Comments by /u/Almondxococonut:
I honestly do believe that some people are being a taken advantage of with the whole you need surgery and and procedures and stuff to fully transition. Like I feel like people in power push it so hard so that you feel like you need to spend your money on it and then once you realize you’ve ruined something you can’t get back boom you end up regretting it (obviously not everyone)
I was born into a Catholic household and became agnostic then continued to be agnostic I think what made me wanna separate from the trans and the rest of the qia+ is that fact that they really do feel cult like and it feels like it’s own religion and i think it’s very hurtful to be too deeply invested in something you lose yourself as a person like it’s fine if you are religious or trans but don’t sink so deep that you are not yourself
Genuinely I think it is so invasive for grown men to feel so comfortable being in women’s spaces specially like places where you need to change like locker rooms. Honestly if I really can’t tell you are not a cis f in the bathroom most of the time I won’t bat an eye I only have an issue if i can clearly tell it’s a man who just wants to invade and purposely make women uncomfortable.
Honestly you border between cause from first glance I thought you were a man but when I get a good look I can see some feminine aspects. I would definitely grow out your hair a bit and use some makeup cause you have some masculine facial features but I definitely think if you lost some weight your bone structure would pop out and accentuate you more.
Definitely sounds like you have larger issues that contribute to your dysphoria. While it may never go 100% away you can definitely try to alleviate it by attempting to become a little more comfortable in it. You don’t need to be super manly to be a man and it’s okay to like feminine things. Everyone is scared of developing, as a afab I was so paranoid of periods and growing breasts and even now I still don’t feel super comfortable but I’m definitely more confident as a tomboy then I would be as a transman. I would recommend letting yourself develop instead of permanently stunting your growth/not being able to get rid of boobs if you do decide to detransition after you have already transitioned.