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About me
I started as a girl who felt I didn't fit in and hated the changes of puberty. I was influenced online to believe this meant I was meant to be male, so I started testosterone and had top surgery. After a few years, I realized the physical changes didn't fix my underlying unhappiness and that I had been wrong about what being a woman means. I now see that I rejected my healthy female body instead of dealing with my self-esteem issues. I've stopped hormones and am living as a woman again, trying to find peace with the permanent changes and move forward.
My detransition story
My journey into transition started when I was very young. I was a girl who never felt like I fit in with other girls. I hated my body when puberty began, especially when my breasts started to develop. I felt a deep sense of discomfort and wanted to hide them. I now believe this was a mix of body dysmorphia and the general anxiety that comes with growing up.
I spent a lot of time online and found communities that told me this discomfort meant I was born in the wrong body. I was influenced by these ideas and by friends who were also exploring gender. I started to believe that if I didn't feel like a woman, then I must not be one. I began to socially transition, asking people to use a new name and male pronouns for me. It felt like a solution at the time, a way to escape the person I was so unhappy being.
When I was 19, I started taking testosterone. I was convinced it was the only way to be my true self. The changes were rapid and for a while, I felt a sense of relief. My voice dropped, my body shape changed, and I was read as male by strangers. I thought this was what I needed. A few years later, when I was 23, I got top surgery. I hated my breasts so much that I saw their removal as a necessary step to finally feeling comfortable.
But the comfort didn't last. After the initial high of the physical changes wore off, I was left with the same underlying problems—low self-esteem, depression, and anxiety. I started to question what I had done. I began to realize that my idea of gender was flawed. I came to understand that being a woman isn't about how you feel or how you act; it's a biological reality. A woman is an adult human female, defined by her capacity for motherhood, even if she never becomes a mother. I realized I hadn't been born in the wrong body; I had been taught to hate the right one.
My thoughts on gender now are that we are our bodies. We can't exist independently from them. Having feminine inclinations or liking masculine things doesn't change your sex. Manhood and womanhood aren't internal identities to put on; they are the physical realities of our bodies. Transition, for me, wasn't about affirming a gender—it was a complete rejection of my natural self and an attempt to replace it with something artificial.
I have many regrets about my transition. I regret the permanent changes to my body, especially my voice and the fact that I am now infertile. I regret the surgery, not because of the skill of the surgeon, but because I replaced a healthy part of my body with scars. I regret that I was influenced by online spaces and didn't get the right kind of help sooner. I needed therapy to deal with my body issues and self-esteem, not to affirm a new identity.
I am now detransitioning. I've stopped testosterone and am living as a woman again. It's a difficult path, but it feels honest. I've found a lot of strength in my faith, which has helped me accept the body I was given. I don't know what the future holds, but I am trying to make peace with my past and move forward.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Began to feel intense discomfort with puberty and developing breasts. |
| 17 | Started to socially transition, using a new name and male pronouns. |
| 19 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 23 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 25 | Stopped testosterone and began the process of detransitioning. |
Top Comments by /u/Altruistic_Ad_4222:
I would say to an extent that’s the same, but they also aren’t turning a nose into a toe and telling everybody to accept it as a toe. I think the OP’s point is that being trans is rejecting everything about your natural body and to even claim it’s something that it isn’t. In essence, being trans is not gender affirmation but it’s an outright rejection of your natural gender and replacing it with an artificial one. At least that’s the way I read it.
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It depends on what you mean. If you mean people who think they are trapped in the wrong body and have gender dysphoria, of course they exist. However, if you mean that there are actually people with female brains/souls/auras/whatever that were born in the wrong body, no. This comes from a warped philosophy that we exist independent of our bodies when in fact we ARE our bodies. Our bodies are what define us. This isn’t to say if your born a male you can’t have feminine characteristics or inclinations, but they are just that. Inclinations and characteristics don’t define womanhood or manhood. All they are are externals that we adorn ourselves with for one reason or another.
I don’t know if I have the perfect answer for you as how to do this or that depends on a lot of little factors. Depending on how you think they would react, tell them you want to become Catholic first and see how everybody handles that. Just because you become Catholic doesn’t mean you need to dress like a nun at every service. You can go as you are and 99.999% of Catholics won’t care. The 0.001% of Catholics that would care aren’t worth paying attention to. A former parish that I belonged to had a transgender member and nobody ever said anything hurtful that I recall. (You are correct that the Church would not view you as your assumed gender but only as the gender you were born). If your family takes that well and can see that you take your father seriously, you could then start detransitioning slowly. I wouldn’t think you would really need to announce it and if anybody were to ask you can simply respond that you believe Jesus when he told his followers that they would have to deny themselves, pick up their crosses, and follow him. I hope that helps at least a little.
So first off you need to define what a woman is based off of an objective criteria. A woman is an adult human female, being a member of a binary reproductive species that under normal conditions can be impregnated and gestate a developing member of that species to eventually give birth.
With that definition, a trans woman isn’t a woman because they do not fall under that definition. Being a woman is a physical reality, not a subjective internal identity. Being effeminate ≠ being a woman.