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The user's narrative is highly specific, internally consistent, and reflects the nuanced, often frustrated perspective of a gender-questioning desister who feels pressured by societal labels. The language is natural, with personal anecdotes and emotional resonance ("I just always felt like I’m an impostor," "so infuriating, honestly haha") that are difficult to fabricate convincingly. Their pragmatic use of the "nonbinary" label as a social tool is a common and genuine experience.
About me
I was born female and was a happy tomboy who never thought about gender until I became a young adult and felt forced to pick a label. I started calling myself nonbinary not because I felt it deeply, but because it was a useful way to get people to stop questioning me. My biggest struggle was never feeling a strong connection to being a woman or a man, and I felt like I didn't fit in anywhere. Now I see my journey was really about rejecting societal boxes and a desire to just be myself without explanation. I'm learning to live outside of those rules and am finally comfortable just being me.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender has been confusing, and I'm still figuring it out. I was born female, and as a kid and even in high school, I never really thought about my gender. I was just myself, a tomboy, and that was fine. It felt easy to just exist without a label.
But as I got older and became a young adult, things got harder. It felt like the adult world forced me to "pick a side." I couldn't just be a gender-nonconforming person anymore; people became obsessed with labels and I felt a lot of pressure to find one for myself. I started to feel like an impostor no matter where I was. I didn't feel like a woman, but I also didn't necessarily feel trans or nonbinary. I just felt like me.
This pressure made me start using the label "nonbinary." It wasn't because I had a strong internal feeling of being nonbinary, but because it felt like a useful word. It seemed to mean everything and nothing at the same time, and it was a good way to get people to stop questioning me. It shut them up. I just wanted to be left alone to be myself.
A big part of my confusion came from listening to other people. They would talk about strongly feeling their gender identity—how they would never want to be the opposite sex or how much they loved being a man or a woman. I never felt that way. For me, being a woman or a man was just "eh, it is what it is." I couldn't care less. This made me feel like I didn't fit in anywhere, not with women and not within the trans community either. Even masculine women sometimes treated me differently, like a "gay best friend," and said I could never understand them.
I think a lot of my struggle was about just wanting to escape all the labels and boxes. I sometimes wish sex and gender didn't exist as concepts so I could just be my gender-nonconforming self without any questions. I've even had moments where I wished I was "normal" so I wouldn't have to deal with any of this.
Looking back, I don't regret the path I took because it led me to where I am now, which is a place of understanding myself better. I don't regret using the nonbinary label because it served a purpose at the time. But I also see now that my driving force wasn't a true gender identity, but a deep frustration with societal boxes and a desire to just be me without having to explain it. My thoughts on gender are that it's mostly a set of social rules I never agreed to, and I'm learning to live outside of them.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on my experiences:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Childhood to Teen Years | I was a tomboy. I never questioned my gender and felt fine just being myself. |
| Young Adulthood (exact age not stated) | I started feeling pressure to "pick a side" and label my gender. I began using the term "nonbinary" as a practical way to navigate social situations and stop questions. |
| Present Day (still a young adult) | I've realized I don't strongly identify with any label. I am working on just being myself without defining it for others. |
Top Comments by /u/AndromedaFirefox:
I’m glad I’m not alone then! Because people in my life have repeatedly said they sort of feel their gender identity. Like how they wouldn’t never want to be the opposite, or things like how much they love being a woman/man. And I’m just like “eh, it is what it is” so I always felt like I don’t fit
That is very reassuring! People are just obsessed with labels and I wanted to sort of conform to gender norms, I suppose. I just always felt like I’m an impostor, you get me, right? I just wish sex and gender and all didn’t exist, because I just wish I could be my gender-nonconforming self without any labels
Yup, that’s exactly what I’m thinking about! I usually go with the word “nonbinary” because it’s everything that isn’t a stereotypical man or woman and it is easy to navigate. But sometimes I just wish I was “normal”, you get me. Like all those labels people push on themselves make me feel like I don’t fit anywhere, neither with women nor with the trans
For real!! Like, I couldn’t care less if I’m a woman or a man or whatever, I just want to be myself. I am a young adult and only now I started to worry about it, because turns out that in the adult life you have to “pick a side” and I can’t be a “tomboy” anymore. So infuriating, honestly haha
I’m trying to do just that, but it’s hard. Women who never questioned their gender or anything of that sort outright push me away (even the masc women!! Which is super weird). Like saying I could never understand them, treat me as a sort of “gay best friend” etc. And with people obsessing over labels lately, I’m just using the word “nonbinary” because as far as I understand it’s literally everything and nothing and shuts people up effectively haha
Yes I am not a kid anymore but I’m still rather young haha. It’s exactly like you said - I feel like people are obsessed with labels so that’s why I am working so hard to find one. And I don’t think I’m a woman, I don’t necessarily think I’m nonbinary or trans… I’m just myself. But as much as it was easy as a kid or even in high school… it’s not as easy to be gender-nonconfirming as an adult, eh