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- Consistent, nuanced, and personal perspectives on internalized misogyny and gender.
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About me
I started as a teenager who rejected anything feminine because I had internalized a lot of misogyny without realizing it. My journey was about maturing and realizing I was making myself miserable by rejecting my own comfort. I never medically transitioned, but I've seen the severe, lifelong damage it can cause to others. I now understand my discomfort was never about being in the wrong body, but about hating the stereotypes placed on me for being female. Working through that internalized misogyny was the real key to finally feeling comfortable in my own skin.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was a young teenager. I was very gender non-conforming long before "trans" was a common thing everyone talked about. Looking back, I realise I had internalised a lot of really toxic, misogynistic attitudes without even knowing it. I felt a strong recoil from anything that was considered "girly." I refused to wear fabrics that felt soft or silky, and I only wore big, shapeless shirts to hide my body. I was disgusted by the idea of being like other girls, which I now understand is a classic sign of internalised misogyny. It was a very unhealthy attitude, like defining women by the worst stereotypes.
I was confused about my identity, but I think that's just a normal part of being a young person and growing up. For me, getting past those feelings was mostly about maturing. I realised I was making myself miserable for no good reason. I figured out that having long hair was actually a lot less effort than keeping it short. I stopped wearing scratchy jumpers once I admitted that clothes that feel nice are... well, nice. I found a new style that worked for me, and after a few years of wearing clothes that actually fit and felt good, I became so much more comfortable in my own skin. Now, I can still dress like a homeless lumberjack if I want to, but it's not my only option. I don't have to reject my body to be myself.
I never took hormones or had any surgeries myself, but I've seen the damage they can cause. I know from a friend that a hysterectomy is a major internal surgery with real dangers; her surgeon perforated her bowel during the procedure. She almost died and now lives with chronic pain that will likely last for the rest of her life. Having a flat chest, for any reason, doesn't make someone less of a woman. I think a lot of the ideas that push people toward transition come from online spaces that prey on confusion, using vague statements that feel personal, almost like horoscopes or how cults recruit people. Relating to a meme shouldn't trump biological reality. Your body is you, and your personality is distinct from your sex.
I don't regret not physically transitioning. My discomfort was never really about being in the wrong body; it was about hating the stereotypes and expectations placed on me for being female. Working through that internalised misogyny was the real key to feeling better. I benefited from realizing that my personality didn't have to change just because I was comfortable with being a woman.
| Age | Date | Event |
|---|---|---|
| ~13-15 | ~2003-2005 | Period of strong gender non-conformity and internalised misogyny, wearing shapeless clothes to hide body. |
| Late teens | ~2006-2008 | Gradually grew out of the discomfort, realised the effort of maintaining a short haircut, and started wearing comfortable, fitted clothes. |
| - | - | Never medically transitioned. |
Top Comments by /u/Ankylosaurus77:
Sorry you're going through this. But consider that plenty of women have mastectomies for legitimate medical reasons, it sucks but its not the end of the world, you can get through this. Having a flat chest doesn't make you any less of a woman than, say, Angelina Jolie.
Young people are ALL confused about their identities, often in very similar ways, it's part of growing up. These "egg" horror shows are full of Barnum statements that mysteriously seem personal and appropriate, much in the same way that horoscopes do. It's how the Scientologists recruit.
Relating to a meme does not trump biological reality. Your body is you. Your personality is distinct from your sex.
You'd have to investigate that before deciding, but also remember that a hysterectomy is MAJOR internal surgery with dangers of its own (a friend of mine almost died cos the surgeon perforated her bowel in the process, and she's still suffering chronic pain likely for the rest of her life).
You do know that "not like the other girls" is pretty much the definition of internalised misogyny, right? You're falling into the trap of defining women by toxic stereotypes. Misogyny is the swamp we wallow in every day, no matter how liberal your area (and liberal misogyny is sneakier and often in some ways worse).
This sounds to me like some deep-seated internalised misogyny. "Disgusted" is a very strong word, and it seems like you may need a better therapist who's not going to validate that sort of hatred of women. If it helps, picture some incel saying the same thing, and how that looks, and you may get some perspective on how unhealthy that attitude is.
I was very GNC as a younger teen, long before trans was a thing - I'd internalised a lot of toxic misogynistic attitudes, so I recoiled at anything even vaguely "girly", including refusing to wear any fabrics that felt a bit too soft or silky, and only wore big shapeless shirts that hid my shape.
Getting past that was mostly just... growing up, I guess, and realising that I was making myself miserable for no good reason. I realised that long hair was actually soooo much less effort than short, and scratchy jumpers were stupid when I could wear stuff that felt nice, and I found another aesthetic that I could go with - and after a few years of wearing stuff that felt good and fit better, I felt so much more comfortable in my own body.
I can (and do) still dress like a homeless lumberjack when I want to, but it's not like that's the only option.