Do we even have a word for “vagina owners who are attracted to other vagina owners” anymore? Why does it seem like even though young women are transitioning more than men, it’s the lesbian spaces that are getting totally overwhelmed and not the gay spaces?

I think you’re really underestimating how much women were oppressed in the past. Harvard was founded in 1636, but they didn’t allow women to enroll in a graduate program until 1920, and that was only in the school of education (no offense teachers but you’re not going to make any groundbreaking discoveries there). Cambridge, Isaac Newton’s old stomping grounds, didn’t give a full degree to a woman until 1924, they didn’t even allow women to attend lectures until the 1800s. It’s hard to become a Euler when you’re not allowed to be educated, it’s estimated that many early scientific contributions by women had to be attributed to the men they were working with. Men are more likely to be gifted in areas of quantitative science, but the vast majority are not, and the minority of women who do have the potential weren’t allowed the chance for the majority of history, and there’s really no way to change the fact that women, unlike men, have to make a choice between having children and devoting themselves to their research. Men don’t feel the same connection to their small children as women, for one thing they can’t breastfeed, men can and do love their children but it doesn’t usually tear them up inside when they have to leave them for the day to go to the office, let alone leave them to spend 80 hours a week in the lab.

Why does it seem like there are such a massive number of narcissists? I’m not trying to be mean but that’s how it ends up feeling, way more than there used to be. I feel sorry for them, they’re always going to be miserable because they feel like the world should revolve around them but it never will.

The trans woman who gets these medical procedures is the same as the cis woman who does not get any procedure because the former isn’t actually transitioning from one thing to another, both are just affirming what they already are. Basically a way of saying trans women ^are^ women and I really hate that I’m pretty sure I understood that psychobabble.

I just can’t let this go. You’re losing a body part for cosmetic reasons, and the surgery isn’t risk free or painless. It’s not like trans women getting breast implants, if they desist and have them removed there will likely be some odd scarring but nothing worse. If a trans man gets a double mastectomy and desists, she can never have her breasts back. Implants are not remotely the same in functionality or sensation (from the desisted woman’s perspective, I suspect a partner won’t feel much of a difference). These barely gnc women doing it is kind of appalling. I still can’t believe so many surgeons are willing to do the no-nipples one. Both men and women have nipples, you’re not even pretending to have gender dysphoria anymore, at best you’re having body dysmorphia and treating it surgically would have been considered ethically equivalent to providing liposuction to an anorexic.

Postpone. Do not do it if you have the slightest doubt. It’s not now or never. If, after healing from your trauma and stabilizing your mood, you realize this is still something you want, then revisit. You said you already mostly pass right now, canceling doesn’t mean you’re detransitioning, you’re just holding off on a major surgery, you can keep living as a man right now if that helps you. This is not reversible, implants are not a replacement, you’ll never regain the sensation and you can never breastfeed. (I know with everything going on, having a child seems like the last thing you would want, but that also means you’re not in a good position to make such a permanent decision, don’t limit the options of your future self like that).

I’m increasingly enraged by the puberty blockers thing. Being uncomfortable with your body’s changes is practically a core component of puberty. No one is happy all the time with the changes. It’s like saying kids should be allowed to drop out of school if they don’t enjoy it.

I’m convinced that a fair amount of it was initially astroturfed by greedy surgeons. It’s not like a nose job or botox or even breast implants, removing body parts is a major surgery, and in the past you needed a more compelling medical reason for a surgery that would cause a loss of function than being uncomfortable with the male gaze or wanting to take your shirt off in public. I don’t believe these are really lifesaving, sure it can give a temporary boost to people who have been programmed to think all their unhappiness is caused by their breasts, but it’s not the real reason, the euphoria will fade and they’ll be back to their anxious, depressed selves but now with scars (and sometimes no nipples, like wtf). Social media is terrible for this trend, people aren’t going to feel comfortable posting it when they’re not happy, they’ll feel pressured to keep pretending it was great both to avoid being labeled transphobic and even just admitting they made an irreversible mistake. I guarantee the vast majority of the young women getting top surgery never would have thought of doing it without social media.

If you’re a male, perfectly fine, if you’re a female, quite dangerous, because you wouldn’t have sex-segregated spaces. Basically all the worst issues being caused by self-ID on a large scale, you don’t even have to ID as a woman to share a prison cell with a woman, follow a woman into a bathroom, etc.. Predatory men don’t cease to exist because there’s no longer any legal distinction between them and their prey, you can see this in regions of the world where the governments have basically collapsed. On the less serious side, female athletes would practically go extinct, sports are a lot less fun when you have no chance of winning, and you obviously can’t financially support yourself being an athlete who always loses/never even makes it past the qualifying round.

But why are they willing to take advantage sometimes but not others? Like if a young childless woman says she wants her tubes removed, the surgeons will refuse, saying she might change her mind and direct her towards reversible stuff, but if she says she wants her entire reproductive system removed because she feels like a dude, they’ll do it with practically no pushback.