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About me
I felt terrible about myself as a teenager and thought becoming a woman was the answer, so I identified as one socially for a while. I eventually realized my discomfort wasn't with being male, but with how poorly I was treating my own body. When I started working out and eating better, my desire to transition completely vanished. It was a huge relief to embrace being a man again, and I'm so glad I never made any permanent changes. Now I believe the real goal is to just be yourself and take good care of the body you have.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I felt terrible about myself. I was really uncomfortable during my teenage years, and I think a lot of that was just the normal awkwardness of puberty. I didn't like the way I looked or felt. I was out of shape and had pretty low self-esteem. I started thinking that maybe the reason I felt so bad was because I was supposed to be a woman. I saw a lot of stuff online and it seemed like an answer to my problems.
For a while, I identified as a woman socially. I didn't take any hormones or have any surgeries. I just changed how I presented myself and asked people to use different pronouns. It was like I was trying on a new identity to escape how I felt. But something always felt off about it. I had this weird fear that it was like switching bodies with someone, and that I would be terrified and want my own body back. I was scared of becoming a completely new person and losing myself.
What really changed things for me was when I started taking better care of myself. I started working out and eating better. When I got into better shape and felt healthier, the feelings of wanting to be a woman just… went away. I realized that my problem wasn't that I was born in the wrong body; it was that I didn't like the body I had because I wasn't treating it well. I was using the idea of transition as a rationalization to change my appearance, when what I really needed was some self-care.
I decided to "flip the switch" back to being a man, and it felt really good. It was a relief to just embrace who I am. I like girls, and honestly, it's a lot easier to date now that I'm comfortable being a man. I've come to believe that you can be any kind of man you want—you can be a feminine man, that's totally fine. You don't have to change your body to fit a stereotype.
Looking back, I think a lot of teenagers feel that angst and discomfort, and with all the transgender stuff in the media today, it's easy for them to think that's the solution. I get angry thinking about it, because it feels like it throws their natural development out of whack. I don't regret my social transition because it was a phase I needed to go through to learn about myself, but I'm very glad I didn't make any permanent changes. My main thought on gender now is that it's better to just be yourself, whatever that looks like, without needing to medically alter your body. The goal is to take care of your "meat suit" so you can live a long and happy life.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Teenage Years | Felt intense discomfort and angst during puberty. Had low self-esteem and was out of shape. |
| Early 20s | Started to believe I might be a woman. Began identifying as female socially (no medical steps). |
| Mid-20s | Realized my dysphoria was linked to poor self-care. Started working out and getting healthy. |
| Mid-20s | The desire to transition disappeared. Decided to detransition and embrace being a man. Felt a sense of relief and comfort. |
Top Comments by /u/Any-Journalist-3930:
God am I so sorry. That would be terrible. I’m a man in my mid 20’s too and used to socially be female but I’m switching back to male. I didn’t do much to myself surgically, so I’m seeing some of this type of stuff and it’s hurting my heart for you all.
Why is there so much pressure in the world to where 13 year old you would feel the need to transition & call people terfs for talking yo you about the downsides of it. I’m sorry that happened & im sorry there’s so much pressure in the media to do that, idk why this has become such a prominent thing in our society, but it has, and it’s wild
Yeah have you ever considered you’re a man but just not the type you have in your head of one? Just be you? If you want to be a super feminine man that’s ok! Hell even dress up and be a woman socially that’s what I did for a while. That way you can get a taste of what’s to come. I would do that before fully transitioning
I was gonna transition to a lady as well. Something inside me said not to do it. Idk if you guys have thought about switching bodies with someone, and I’ve always thought I’d be terrified and desperately want my body back. I have this fear that transitioning and doing that would take me body away and I’d be this new person idk it sounds weird. I went through a phase where I identified as a woman socially, and now I just totally flipped the switch back to full on cis man. Actually felt really good to just embrace who I am and I like girls so it’s easier to date, since I’m what most girls like ya know? I just feel good about it and embraced my gender and who I am. That was the alternative for me
What part of being a female is dysphoric for you and what about being a male makes it better I’m genuinely curious. I used to want to go MtF but realized I was only dysphoric because I was out of shape and not taking good care of myself. Once I changed all that it all went away and I didn’t feel that way at all anymore. I think I didn’t like what I saw in the mirror, and I used any rational I could to change that, when in reality I just had to take better care of myself. Something to consider especially if you’re wanting children now
Oh my gosh I’m so sorry you have feelings of self harm. That seems intense you probably need to speak to a professional about that because those are not thoughts that are healthy to have in any situation. I seriously hope you can find a path to feel better without transition and making a permanent change from what could be a temporary feeling. We all want you to stay with us, boy, girl or who ever you choose to be
I’m pissed off because I feel like all teenagers feel that angst and discomfort and with all the transgender stuff being shown today, kids will think that can make them feel better, when in reality they’re just going through the uncomfortable and weird stage of puberty and development into an adult. When they transition, it throws all that development out of whack and messes people up severely. It angers me that kids get to just go and do that without their parents getting any say. Then I read stories on this sub and just get angrier and angrier. What can be done?
It sounds to me like you just don’t want to conform but there’s so many other ways to do that, paint your nails, get earrings, dress more feminine. Remember , the name of the game is to take as good care of your meat suit as possible so we live as long and happy as we can. Jacking with it hormonally and with all these doctors is probably not the best way to keep yourself in the best shape ya know?
I would say just not to transition it seems like you want to be feminine which is fine to do no matter what you look like. Just be yourself and as for your thoughts, they’re just thoughts. You don’t have to let them control you. You can learn to control them. If you’re having strong urges to become female that’s a whole different thing. What about having female features seems so appealing to you? Why do you have that urge?
Ok so universally males tend to be more competitive and less agreeable than women and this can be observed across all cultures. Of course no activity or quality is limited to just one gender, other than having periods and ovaries/capacity to carry a child, and only men have the capacity to fertilize. Obviously women can be competitive and less agreeable, and men can be more feminine and agreeable, outliers do exist, but universally across all cultures men display necessary/harder qualities more and women display caretaking/softer qualities more. This is due to evolutionary reasons.