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About me
I was a masculine girl from a strict Catholic family where that wasn't accepted, so I thought I must be a man. I took testosterone for years, believing it was the only way to be myself without shame. I now see my transition was a coping mechanism to escape the pressure to be a feminine woman. I've stopped identifying as trans and am finally learning to accept myself as a masculine lesbian. While I don't fully regret my journey, I understand that my discomfort came from societal expectations, not from being born in the wrong body.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition started with shame. I grew up in a Roman Catholic family, and being a masculine girl was not okay. My mom wouldn't let me have short hair and always pushed me into wearing dresses. I felt like a failed girl because I wasn't feminine. I had really low self-esteem, and I saw other girls online who were transitioning and seemed so happy. Since I was already masculine and into masculine things, the thought, "I should have been a boy," felt like a natural conclusion. Once I made up my mind, I was completely convinced that transitioning would solve all my problems.
Looking back, I can see that a big reason I transitioned was as a way to be masculine without the shame. In the culture I grew up in, masculine women were looked down on. I never had a desire to be feminine, and I still don't. Transitioning also felt like a way to appear straight, which was a bonus, even though my sexuality wasn't the main driver. I'm a lesbian, and I only ever dated bisexual women during my transition because I wanted to be with someone who was attracted to the body I had.
I was in therapy for seven or eight years, so my issues weren't completely unaddressed, but the idea of transition just took over. I got involved in a small part of the trans community, but only after I came out. I didn't have any trans friends before then.
I took testosterone, but I never had any surgeries. I understand now that there's a big difference between removing a healthy body part because you think it will fix a mental health issue, and trying to repair or replace something you've lost. I'm comfortable saying that removing healthy tissue is unnecessary, but I can't judge someone who is trying to rebuild.
My perspective on everything has completely changed. I don't believe in "feeling like a man" anymore. What does that even mean? I know what it feels like to be masculine, but that's not the same as being a man. I now see that gender dysphoria isn't some permanent, innate thing. It's something that develops, and you can work through it by figuring out what caused it in the first place. For me, the cause was shame and discomfort with the expectations placed on me as a woman.
I also think the medical community has lied to us. I feel like organizations that fought for gay rights needed a new cause once gay marriage was legalized, and they latched onto trans issues to stay relevant.
I don't have any trans friends anymore, except for one guy who kind of sees through it all but feels he's in too deep to detransition. It's too awkward to be around people who are still deep in it. It feels like being around a cult after you've left; it makes me sad, but I know trying to talk to them about it would just cause problems.
I don't regret my transition entirely because it got me to where I am now, but I see now that it was a coping mechanism. I've been working through the shame I was taught about being a masculine woman. Testosterone has even changed my feelings about my body in a positive way; I don't love it, but I don't hate it either. There's also a weird part where I noticed I was less bothered by being sexualized when people saw me as a man. As a lesbian, I don't mind being sexualized by women, but I hate it from men. When I was seen as a man, it was easier to handle that male attention. Even now, as a butch-looking woman, when it happens, I sometimes wish they saw me as a man, which is confusing.
The main thing I've learned is that it's okay to be a masculine woman. Discomfort with gender roles and your body isn't an experience exclusive to trans people; it's common for gender non-conforming and gay people too.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Childhood | Felt shame for being a masculine girl; pressured to be feminine in a Roman Catholic family. |
| Late Teens | Had low self-esteem; saw trans people online and identified with their stories. |
| 19 | Came out as transgender and started taking testosterone. |
| 19-26 | Lived as a transgender man; was involved in the trans community. |
| 26 | Began to question my transition and the concept of gender identity. |
| 27 | Stopped identifying as transgender; began detransitioning and working on self-acceptance as a masculine woman. |
Top Comments by /u/ApottotheOcto:
I’m not against it, I just don’t think it’s like real anymore. My perspective on gender dysphoria has drastically changed. I used to believe I would have it forever and that it’s innate. But it’s developed and it can be worked through. I think the medical community has lied to us, some docs are good, the ones who get cancelled for speaking out against it. There is no “I feel like a man” what does it mean to feel like a man? I’ll never know. I do know what it’s like to feel traditionally masculine, but that’s not being a man. Man and woman are states of being, not feelings
I did most because of homophobia and feeling like a failed girl or too masculine to be a girl. However there is small part of me that noticed I was less bothered being sexualized as a “man” than a woman. I don’t mind being sexualized by women at all, I’m a lesbian. But I do mind being sexualized by men and idk how to explain it but it was like easier to handle while I looked like a man. I’m still pretty butch looking so I don’t get sexualized by men as much but when it does happen I kinda wish they saw me as a man…? I don’t know how to explain this
I’ve never had trans surgery and I can understand the desire to have a reconstruction. There’s a difference between removing a part of your body because you’re convinced it will fix your mental illness, and trying to replicate or replace something you lost
I don’t have any trans friends anymore, well maybe one who has peaked in the sense he sees it all is just a cope now, but feels he’s in too deep to detrans. Other than him no, I can’t, it’s too awkward. I have seen through the cult and deception…it’s weird to be around people who are still in it. It makes me sad and I know that trying to get them to see it will start shit so I just can’t
I felt a lot of shame around me growing up for being a masculine girl. When I was little I wasn’t allowed to have short hair, and my mom pushed me into dresses and stuff. I grew up Roman Catholic, my sexuality is not why I transitioned but appearing straight was a bonus. I had low self esteem and I saw these girls transitioning and being happy, I was already masculine and into masculine things so thinking “I should of been a boy” wasn’t a leap at all. Once my mind was made up that was it honestly, I was convinced it would solve my problems. In short shame. I transitioned because of shame.
I am comfortable saying removing healthy body parts is unnecessary. But trying to repair what has been lost? I can’t imagine. I’m not going to say if that is unnecessary or not. I don’t know what that’s like and judging by your other comments here you don’t either. As far as side effects I’m sure anyone who’s had surgery before is aware of side effects. At least this time they are more knowledgeable.
Gay marriage was won in my country, the USA. I fully support gay marriage as a lesbian. I believe these organizations that were created to push for that like GLAAD for example suddenly had nothing to fight for anymore, so they used trans to fill in the void and give themselves a reason to keep existing.
1 no 2 no 3 no, but I do have a genetic condition 4 no, even at my “most trans” I dated bi women because I wanted someone who was into what I have. 5. Yes but I was also in therapy for 7-8 years so they were far from “unaddressed.” 6 yes I was involved in a small part of the trans community but only after coming out. I had no involvement or trans friends before then. 7 no. A big reason I transitioned was as a way to be masculine, since masculine women were shamed in the culture I grew up in (catholic). I never had any desire to be feminine and I still don’t. But I have been working the shame that’s instilled in me about being as masculine woman. 8 yeah kinda. I mean I don’t love it but I don’t hate it either. T has changed my feelings about it in a positive direction though.
That it’s okay to be a masculine woman. And anyone can have gender dysphoria, anyone can be uncomfortable with gender, it’s not a trans only experience. Especially GNC people and gay people have that commonly. Gender dysphoria is not permanent or innate, it’s developed and it can be worked through if you think back to what caused it and go from there.