This story is from the comments by /u/Appropriate-Most-969 that are listed below, summarised with AI.
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About me
I was a young boy who got pulled into online transgender communities that convinced me my feelings meant I was a girl. I was really just a depressed kid with trauma, and I thought transitioning would be an escape from my problems. I socially transitioned for two years, but my mental health became worse than ever, filled with self-harm and suicidal thoughts. I detransitioned at 13, and while I still struggle, I'm in a much better place now. I'm learning to accept myself as a feminine man, but I live with the lasting physical damage from the puberty blockers I was given.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was really young. I was around 10 or 11 when I first started having thoughts about being a girl. I was a pre-teen and I got really deep into online spaces, what some people call being "pinkpilled." I spent a lot of time in transgender Discord servers and online communities, and I think I was groomed there. People there convinced me that the way I felt meant I was actually a girl trapped in a boy's body. They called me an "egg" and said I just hadn't cracked yet.
Looking back, I was just a messed-up kid looking for an escape. I had a lot of built-up trauma and I was really depressed and anxious. I hated myself and I thought transitioning would fix everything. It felt like a way to run away from who I was and all the pain I was feeling. I was also probably influenced by the fact that I'm bisexual and was uncomfortable with that, and I have ADHD and might be autistic, which my family has a history of. I think being autistic made it easier for me to believe what I was being told online.
When I was 11, I socially transitioned. I started using a new name, Maple, and asked people to use she/her pronouns for me. I became really closed-minded during this time. If anyone disagreed with me, I'd either run away from the argument or try to manipulate them into feeling bad for me. I'm not proud of that person I was. It was the worst time of my life. I started cutting myself and thinking about suicide all the time. I was on puberty blockers, which I think messed me up cognitively. My grades were awful and I felt delusional, like I wasn't connected to reality.
A big part of my transition was something called autogynephilia, or AGP. For me, this meant I found the idea of myself as a woman sexually attractive. I became turned on by the thought of being female. It wasn't the root cause, but it developed as I went through my teenage years. I desperately wanted to not only look like a woman but to think like one, too. I had all these ideas about what being a woman meant, based on the small sample of women I knew and a lot of porn, which was really misogynistic. I now think AGP is a fetish, and it's okay to have that in private, but it shouldn't be your whole life and identity.
I stayed transitioned for about two years, from 11 to 13. I realized it wasn't an escape; it was an escape from an escape. My mental state was worse than ever. I wasn't a girl just because I had some feminine traits or didn't fit society's idea of a boy. I'm a feminine guy. I have an hourglass shape, a high voice, and I like things that are often considered feminine, like painting my nails or listening to certain music. But that doesn't make me female. Society genders everything, but you can be a man and still have those traits.
When I was 13, I detransitioned. I just told my friends I didn't think I was trans anymore. I was lucky because I moved to a new school right after, so I didn't have to deal with a lot of people knowing my past. I go to a Catholic school now, and it's a whole different world. Detransitioning didn't fix all my problems—I still have depression and anxiety—but it's so much better than when I was trans. The constant thoughts of suicide and self-harm are mostly gone.
I have a lot of regrets about transitioning. The puberty blockers did lasting damage. I'm 15 now, a sophomore in high school, and I'm way behind other boys my age. Most eighth-grade girls are taller than me. My muscles and bones are really weak, my immune system is terrible, and I feel like my development down there isn't normal. I'm probably infertile, too. It's set me back physically and cognitively; I'm really loud and have trouble picking up on social cues, which I think is from the blockers.
I don't believe transgenderism is real. I think what's called "gender dysphoria" is really a mix of body dysmorphia, not liking your role in society, internalized homophobia, and trauma. It's a way for people, especially kids, to try and escape their problems. But you can't run from yourself. The thoughts and trauma just eat you up from the inside.
Now, I'm just trying to accept myself as a feminine man. I'm still bisexual, and I'm also exploring my faith as a Christian. I don't talk about my mental health with anyone—not my family, not my friends—because past therapists only made things worse. I'm trying to learn from my mistakes and be a better person.
Here’s a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 10 | First started having thoughts about being a girl, influenced by online communities. |
| 11 | Socially transitioned; began using the name Maple and she/her pronouns. Started puberty blockers. |
| 11-13 | Period of identifying as transgender. Mental health severely declined; self-harm and suicidal ideation began. |
| 13 | Detransitioned socially. Stopped using the name Maple and she/her pronouns. |
| 13 | Moved to a new school, allowing for a fresh start after detransitioning. |
| 15 | Currently living as a detransitioned male, dealing with the lasting physical and mental effects of medical intervention. |
Top Reddit Comments by /u/Appropriate-Most-969:
This is called AGP, it’s a very documented thing and makes up about 80% of the trans MtF community. Pretty much they sexualize themself being a woman, and transition to be a in a constant state of erotica.
Trans people like to say AGP is a bigoted insult that’s been debunked, but their way of debunking it is really fucking stupid. They say “but cisgender people feel sexy in the mirror” yeah cisgender(straight and gay) people feel sexy in the mirror, not aroused when they look in the mirror. Feeling confident that you’re sexy or pretty or handsome isn’t equivalent to feeling sexually aroused by being a woman.
AGP isn’t normally the full reason for a persons transition, it certainly wasn’t mine, but it is the reason that a lot of trans MtFs either do porn or commit sex crimes when they transition.
AGP is normally okay if you’re in bed, and it’s mostly described as sissification. However, you shouldn’t make your entire life and identity about something that happens in bed.
This is… awful.
“Recruited 95 youth”
I read that as “Ruined 95 kids lives because I need test subjects”
In the study, it said the mean age was about 11 and a half, which was about the age I was. My life being ruined could’ve been under a microscope with the name “Dr Olsen Kennedy” on it.
“Let trans kids grow” Yeah, let their hormones be fucking normal. I’m a sophomore boy in highschool with most 8th grade girls being taller than me, my muscles and bones are so extremely weak, and I feel a mile behind every boy in my grade when it comes to development. >!Not mention my down-there growth being less than normal!<
And that’s not even counting for what the effects of going back on same sex hormones can do- testosterone can ruin your liver, immune system as well as other things. I already have the worst fucking immune system imagine.
Sorry about this rage rant, but I’m upset.
once you weren’t useful to their agenda, they kicked you out.
but yeah, i truly don’t believe that most (like 95%) of women don’t get turned on by themselves. most men don’t get turned on by themselves. it’s like, looking in a mirror and think i look handsome/cool doesn’t give me a boner, i just get a boost of confidence. as a teenage boy, practically fucking anything can (mostly things that aren’t even that sexual) get me a boner, but looking at myself in the mirror never has, even though i’m bisexual. it’s the same way with females.
trans “culture” has become a cess pool of shit, as modern society says more and more that porn and sex work is okay. i remember seeing a twitter post a few weeks back about two cis girls posting “trans” lewd photos (shoving fake dildos in their pants and calling them bulges). all the trans people were saying that they were objectifying trans people, as if it were just the two girls using their identity as a mask. the fucking irony is insane.
trans and detrans are both big fetishes.
if you scroll detrans on tumblr for about 5 minutes, you will find some horrific content.
like, people get it off to forcing people to not transition or force them to detransition. they also misgender them intentionally, but aren’t called transphobic?
it’s pretty obviously made by misogynistic AGP’s. almost everyone who posts those type of posts is an MtF, and they want FtM’s to not transition, so they can objectify and fuck them. it’s so incredibly horrible— especially when you look at this sub and realize a lot of FtM’s transition to get out of the hyper-sexualization that females can experience.
i once saw a post saying something along the lines of:
!”A week before a fakeboy gets her top surgery, she should have to wear a pull up bra every day of the week. if she gets wet at all during the week, she has to get breast enlargement surgery instead #detrans kink #mtfsuperiority”!<
i didn’t misgender- the person did in the post.
“get breast enlargement surgery” AKA “let me objectify her breasts”. this type of shit is all over that tag. they literally only think of women as sex objects, and don’t want any of their objects to get loose. it’s fucking terrifying.
This is entirely true. Actual_detrans is the hate sub for this sub. I’ve been in trans subs before, and they believe that this sub is rooted in bigotry and transphobia, and so that’s why actual_detrans was made. a lot of them believe that almost everyone here is an undercover cis person who was never trans trying to make trans people look bad, which i just don’t believe at all. if you look at any comment sections in this sub, you’d know they have the experience to know what they’re talking about. there may be an extremely small minority of people like that, but trans people always use it as a way to make our entire sub unreliable.
There are a lot of detrans posts from actual detrans people helping other detrans people, but whenever there’s someone questioning if they are trans, a lot of the times they’re told they are. or, critical of transgenderism in any way, they get banned for hate speech.
if there’s trans people on actual detrans… are they not just as bad as these so called cis people trying to make us look bad?
they can’t stay consistent on anything, and it SHOWS.
Exactly- 2Xchromosomes and other places specifically meant for females at birth should not have trans ‘women’. In fact, I think those places should include trans ‘men’, because they still are a female at birth.
They want complete superiority over every space they enter, and yet call everyone who doesn’t agree with them overly entitled narcissists.
“Stop obsessing over us”… they clearly want us to obsess over them, but they only want the obsession to be glorifying and praising them.
I think it’s just trans people trying to get a “gotcha”, because when I look at the statistics, the only posts with a bad upvote % are on this sub. other subs have downvotes ofc, but not as bad as this.
i don’t exactly agree with the transgender identity and it’s existence, but i’m not going to go onto every single transgender sub and downvoting their shit. it’s just so petty.
they fucking hate this sub, i know they do. i asked a question on a now deleted (it wasn’t going anywhere and i was tired of my inbox exploding) post and referenced this sub in AskTransgender once. people were saying that this sub is bigotted and rooted in transphobia. i was groomed by a group of transgender people on a transgender discord server, am i not allowed to dislike the people who led me to >!cutting myself and almost suicide?!<, and also question their existence when looking at things like AGP or AAP?
yeah. this is why i fucking hate “egg” culture. i don’t have it as bad as you for sure, but i was groomed in a similar way.
mainly since the left tends to stalk, hate, and brigade detransitioners. we not only are no longer useful to their agenda, but, according to them, we hurt it. many trans people don’t like people simply for being detransitioners, no matter their character, because we are the only people who’ve actually realized and can be tested on how permanently life ruining transitioning can be.
we’re like little guinea pigs- the left abuses us, and the right uses us as test subjects to further their agenda. so, you have three paths: Stay with the left like they’re your abusive partner, be completely politically homeless, or get extreme validation of your story and possibly help others like you. See why most choose the latter?
Exactly!
It’s a total different situation when it wasn’t medically necessary
This!! A lot of people (ESPECIALLY YOUNG PEOPLE) start blockers or HRT when they don’t 100% know if they are trans or not, so at that point, you’re taking all the risk with not even knowing the reward. It’s like giving your entire life savings to a man on the street who says he’ll give you a mystery box in return.
And also, trans people themselves say that genitals, voice, body build, etc, don’t mean anything to a persons gender, so therefore a persons genitals, voice, and body build can’t affirm a persons gender either. Meaning that medically transitioning, by their own logic, is entirely useless. So now, again, they take all risk with no reward.