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About me
I grew up in a strict religious school where I couldn't express my feelings, which left me deeply unhappy. I later socially transitioned in my early twenties, believing it was an escape from my anxiety and low self-esteem. I now see I was never truly trans and that I was just trying to fix my life in the wrong way. I regret putting my loved ones through that and have since detransitioned. My life is just beginning now that I'm dealing with my real issues instead of trying to change my body.
My detransition story
My journey with all of this is complicated, and looking back, I see a lot of things I didn't understand at the time. I was raised in a very strict religious private school. There was no room to talk about any kind of feelings that didn't fit their mold. You just learned to shut up and suffer in silence. I think that environment really messed with my head and made me feel like I couldn't be myself, whatever that even was.
I don't believe I was ever truly trans. For me, a lot of it was about escapism. I was deeply unhappy and had a lot of anxiety and low self-esteem. I think I was looking for a way out of my own skin and my own life, and transitioning seemed like this radical solution. The online world I was in made it seem like the answer to all my problems. It felt like everyone was figuring themselves out this way, and there was this intense pressure that if you questioned it, you were a bad person. It's a really powerful feeling when you're young and think you have everything figured out, and anyone who tells you to slow down is just trying to hold you back.
I also think there's a huge element of self-delusion that gets ignored. We're sold this idea that we've suddenly figured out gender in a way that contradicts everything we know about human biology and history. The simpler explanation is often that people can convince themselves of almost anything, especially when they're unhappy and looking for a way to fix their lives. I started to see that the science behind it all seemed to shift depending on what the popular narrative needed it to be, which made me really skeptical.
I never had surgery or took hormones, but I did socially transition for a while. I regret that now. I put everyone in my life through that for something that wasn't real for me. It was a mistake, but I try to remember that being young is for making mistakes. My life isn't over; in many ways, it feels like it's just beginning now that I'm seeing things more clearly.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's not as simple as people make it out to be. Biologically, you are what you are. I don't say that to be cruel, but because I think pretending otherwise can stop people from dealing with the real issues underneath, like trauma or anxiety or just plain old insecurity. For me, the answer wasn't to change my body but to finally confront why I felt so terrible in it to begin with.
I don't regret my detransition. I regret that I ever started down that path. I'm still figuring out my beliefs, and I've become pretty skeptical of the whole movement. I feel like it preys on vulnerable people who are hurting, just like I was.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Teenage Years | Attended a strict religious private school. Felt unable to express difficult feelings and suffered in silence. |
| Early 20s | Socially transitioned for a period, influenced by online communities and a desire for escapism. |
| 24 | Realized I was not trans and began to detransition socially. Started to understand my actions were driven by anxiety and low self-esteem. |
Top Comments by /u/Aquareon:
This study from 2018 says trans brains are more like their desired sex. However, this study from 2019 says no such differences exist, and there are not male or female brains to begin with. Seems to shift over time, based on what the narrative requires.
It really sucks all this shit seems to go down during the age range when humans seem innately wired to think they finally understand everything and anybody telling them to cool down and think about it is just a counter revolutionary. The perfect storm of "cannot be argued with"
Normal insecurity, distorted self perception, magnified impression of the headspace you occupy in others. Be still, breathe. It's never as big a deal to strangers as it is to you. You made a mistake, youth is the time for doing that. Life isn't over. For you it has barely even begun. Your best years are ahead of you, and the past no longer exists.
Should we also fire people for contradicting creationist co-workers about the age of the Earth? They are human beings, with feelings that get hurt when that happens. Their beliefs are central to their identity, and they feel invalidated when someone says Earth is in fact billions of years old.
Man what the fuck. Sometimes I really think we've had it as a species when I read stuff like this. Humans were one way for a hundred million years and now we think in the past decade we have gender and sex figured out better than nature has for the prior hundred million years. Where the more parsimonious alternative explanation is that human beings have a profound capacity for self delusion, and perversion, often with the two feeding into each other.
I was never trans, I'm here to be supportive and learn. I still agree with democrats on just about everything except the weird sex stuff they have made into their number one priority since the early oughts. I remember when they were mainly about labor protections.
I don't think all or most dysphoria is fetish. I think genuine dysphoric people are the majority of trans people. But there are outsiders who fetishize cross dressing and sissification which blurs the lines. It's a contentious issue. Nobody knows for sure besides you. You are also guaranteed the freedom to pursue happiness which would include cross dressing, provided you make no demands of strangers for their participation or affirmation. Your business is your business, nobody can stop you, end of.
I think it is beyond bizarre that society understands that at that time, I lacked the capacity for judgment necessary to consume alcohol but I was allowed to consent to permanently sterilizing myself.
There was basically a gun to the doctor's head, and a fat sack of cash if he went along with it.
Genetically, you're a woman. You produce, or produced, female gametes. If tits were all it took to be a woman, transwomen would be women. It sounds like the same anxieties you may have mistaken for dysphoria have persisted, and just as transitioning didn't solve them, perhaps neither will reconstruction. The answer isn't suicide, but to find out and solve the underlying anxieties that made you feel this way before, during and after. There is a brighter tomorrow, from which you may one day look back on the past and present with knowing relief, but only if you make it there.
Man that's tough. Nobody really talked about these kinds of feelings in the religious private school setting. You just kinda learned not to have the kind of feelings they were not equipped to deal with, then suffered silently while daydreaming about prison camps. I guess my strategy of trying to intentionally cripple my capacity to feel any pain about any of this isn't ideal and wasn't a healthy cope in retrospect