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About me
I started dressing like a boy as a teenager to escape my depression and anxiety. I confused my discomfort with my body for being trans, especially since I struggled with an eating disorder. I realized a lot of my feelings were about hiding from objectification, not about being male. I'm now re-embracing being a woman and wearing feminine clothes again, finding peace with who I always was. I'm glad I didn't medically transition and am finally feeling connected to myself and other women.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started when I was a teenager. I was a girl who never really felt like I fit in, and I struggled a lot with depression and anxiety. I was put on SSRIs, and while everything still felt grey and sad, I found that dressing like a boy was something new that I liked. It felt like an escape from how I was feeling.
For a long time, I identified as a lesbian because I was never interested in guys, but the truth was, I never really liked girls either. It was confusing. When I was 16, I had my first real crush, and it was on a guy. That's when I started to understand my feelings better. I realized that the way I wanted to love a man was as a woman loves a man, not in a homosexual way. That was a big moment for me.
A lot of my discomfort was tied to my body and how I saw myself. I struggled with an eating disorder, and I eventually figured out that it was linked to my dysphoria. I had to ask myself a really hard question: would I still feel this dysphoric if I was skinny and pretty? My uncertainty about the answer worried me. Losing weight didn't fix everything overnight, but it did help my dysphoria get a lot better over time. I haven't felt dysphoric in a while now.
Looking back, I think a lot of my feelings were influenced by trying to hide my body from sexual objectification. Masculinity felt like a way to repress myself and hide. I'm honestly just excited now to wear girly things again. I've realized I can still wear girly clothing and be modest. I am a woman today, and I was always a woman. I need to internalize that I have always been one and don't need to re-learn anything.
I also see now how my depression and anxiety contributed to me thinking I was trans. It was a new, exciting thing when everything else felt so sad. I see a pattern with a lot of people here; we all had different paths but ended up in a similar place. I wish society and doctors didn't push being trans as the first and only option for dealing with dysphoria. I wish we talked more about how dysphoria doesn't always mean you're 100% trans.
I don't regret exploring my gender because it helped me learn more about myself, but I am glad I didn't medically transition. I'm following my instincts now, however long it may take for them to fully show up again. I feel more connected to other women than I ever have before, and I'm finally starting to find peace with who I am.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Teenager | Started struggling with depression and anxiety. Began dressing in a masculine style as an escape. |
| 16 | Had first crush on a guy, leading to the realization that I wanted to love a man as a woman. |
| (Various Ages) | Struggled with an eating disorder linked to body dysmorphia and gender-related discomfort. |
| (Recent Past) | Lost weight, which gradually alleviated feelings of dysphoria. |
| Now | Accepted that I am and always was a woman. Re-embracing feminine clothing and a female identity. |
Top Comments by /u/Arsenalg0d:
Seeing as you've always wanted a smaller chest, I think you're making the right decision (vs fully removing them).
I hope you heal fast and are happy with the results. And remember, you can always start testosterone again whenever you want. medical transition isn't going anywhere, so take your time. Good luck!
Thank you for the reality check. This was very eye-opening and a good read. I'm honestly just excited to wear girly things again because I was definitely repressing myself, especially since masculinity to me was hiding my body from sexual objectification.
I can still wear girly clothing and be modest. But I am a woman today, and I was always a woman. I need to internalize that I have always been one and don't need to re-learn anything
Haha yeah, the depression part is so real. I myself have depression and anxiety and am on SSRIs for it... definitely contributed to thinking I was trans. Everything was so grey and sad, but dressing like a boy was new and I liked it.
In general I'm sure a lot of folks may have had negative experiences with their parents here... emotionally absent or overbearing.
Everything else you said rings very true
I'm sorry for what you went through.
I see a pattern with the people here... either they have experiences like mine or like yours. Plenty of people could look at your story before you detransitioned and go "yep, that sounds like a textbook trans kid".
I wish society (and especially doctors!) didn't push being trans as the first option. I wish we talked about how dysphoria doesn't always mean you're 100% trans. But I'm happy you found your peace
Although we had very different experiences, I totally resonate with so much of what you said. Especially the porn part... porn has definitely ruined a lot of sex and how men perceive pleasure for us.
The eating disorder and dysphoria being linked, yep, 100%. It took me so long to figure it out too; I had to take a step back and ask myself "would I still be dysphoric if I was skinny and pretty?" And my uncertainty often worried me.
And same here with the weight loss making the GD better... it didn't happen overnight, but I haven't felt dysphoric in a while now.
I'm happy you came to a conclusion with your gender identity and didn't end up transitioning. I wish you the best!
I understand what you mean because I kind of experienced the same thing. I identified as a lesbian for the longest time because I was never interested in guys.... but the thing is I never really liked girls either.
Only at 16 did I finally have my very first crush and it was a guy. I felt similar things that you mentioned... I felt like I could only love a man in a way that a woman loves a man. Not in a homosexual way like a man loving a man.
I'd also have these fleeting moments at the gym where I'd be talking to other girls/women and just feel very connected with them. The gym especially that I go to is very male dominated— maybe 1 other girl for every 25 men, and it's very tight-knit too.
So yeah I'm going to follow my instincts, like you said. However long it may take for them to show up again