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The user's perspective is complex, internally consistent, and emotionally nuanced, reflecting a personal journey from identifying as trans to a desisted/detransitioned viewpoint. The language is natural, with personal anecdotes, sarcasm, and a developed, critical ideology that aligns with the passionate and often angry discourse found in the detrans community. The account shows a deep, long-term engagement with the concepts of gender dysphoria and trans politics.
About me
I was born male and my gender dysphoria started around puberty, making me wish I had been born female. I got deeply involved in online gender communities, trying on different identities, but it began to feel like a role-playing game built on pretense. I became disillusioned by the mainstream trans movement and lost friends over my critical views on its activism. I ultimately realized that physically transitioning wouldn't solve my problems and chose not to pursue medical interventions. Now I'm content living as a male who experiences dysphoria, seeing it as my personal reality rather than a political identity.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender has been a long and confusing one. I was born male, and for a long time, I really wished I had been born female. I thought life would just be better, that I'd be a more effective person. This feeling, the real "gender dysphoria," has never completely gone away for me. I still hate things like my facial hair because it reminds me of being male. I'd rather be lithe and hairless.
I got caught up in the whole online world of gender identity. I identified as everything under the sun at different points, including non-binary and even "2 Spirit" during what I call the "big gender boom." It felt like a role-playing game where you had to find your exotic character class. I made new friends who were into this stuff, and it was fun for a while, like letting my inner child take the wheel. But it involved a lot of pretense.
My thoughts started to change when being trans became really mainstream. I saw it turn into a shallow trend, and I started to see the politics around it as selfish and counterproductive. I lost friends, both old ones who couldn't take me seriously anymore and new ones who disowned me for my views on trans activism, which they called "TERF" or "gender critical." I found the activism dull, pointlessly combative, and not very smart. They claim transwomen are women in every sense, which I just don't think is socially true, and their protests seem more like feral goblin raids than effective activism.
I never took hormones or had any surgeries. I gave up on the idea of fully transitioning when I realized how much work it would be, like changing my voice. I settled into the awareness that becoming female wouldn't actually solve my problems because I'd be an entirely different person. I've become content, at least, with the person I've grown into.
I don't really believe in the labels "cis" or "trans" as fixed categories. I think most people have experienced some form of gender discomfort in their lives. My ex-girlfriend told me she used to imagine herself as the opposite sex during sex but then grew out of it. I think it's a common curiosity of the imagination, not something that makes you a special class of person. The problem is when people obsess over it, especially with how much it's in the media and how our culture profits from it.
I have regrets about getting so deeply involved in the identity politics side of things. I regret losing friends over it. But I don't regret the journey itself because it led me to where I am now. I live alone most of the time and prefer it. I'm still trans-identified in the sense that I'd rather be female, but I see it as a personal reality, not a political one. I sometimes tell people I'm "biotrans" just to mess with their perspective. The whole experience has made me very suspicious of doctors who are quick to prescribe body modification for gender dysphoria, setting people on a path to being lifelong medical patients.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| (During Puberty) | Started feeling I would rather be female; experienced gender dysphoria. |
| (Early 20s) | Began identifying with various gender identities online (non-binary, 2 Spirit). |
| (Mid-Late 20s) | Realized transitioning wouldn't solve my core problems; became critical of trans activism. |
| (Present - Late 20s/Early 30s) | No medical transition; content with who I am; identify as "biotrans" or simply as a male with dysphoria. |
Top Comments by /u/Aslamtum:
Not at all. It's well accepted that there is a false-self being presented by most trans-identified people, no matter how legitimate their dysphoria or euphoria or whatever else. There is a denial and an imbalance between feminine and masculine aspects. .
I'm only against the transactivists and the trenders. The former simply complain too much. They claim we're suicidal, they claim we're disabled, they claim trans is an "umbrella term". They make so many mistakes, such as claiming that transwomen are women in any social capacity(it just isn't so) and going online to threaten invincible celebrities like JK fucking Rowling(give up already) or staging nonsense "Save Trans Kids" protests that resemble feral goblin raids.
Ok, *deep breath* and then there are the trenders, who enable the tranactivists. These types claim they are trans and usually go on to claim other flavorful identities also, like Non Binary(this means absolutely nothing) or Gender Fluid(stop). I too have identified as all the things, including 2 Spirit, during the big gender boom. Now we've hit peak trans and the trenders and activists are now forced to reflect on their actual impact on "trans rights".
How ironic! Detrans is more valid than regular old vanilla trans tho. Recognize the struggle!
Heck, biotrans is more legit than vanilla-trans in 2025, bc we all know what the two sexes are. Transexuals remain based as always, though I'd not want to take their path(yikes!)
No. "Cis" to me is just a product of politics. You might as well call a person "regular" or "vanilla", it's not going to apply entirely and people will always kinda resent you for calling them that.
Like, most of the "cis" people I've spoken deeply about gender dysphoria with have also experienced some form of it themselves over the course of their lifetimes. My ex told me that she'd imagine herself as the opposite sex during sex, but then she grew out of it. So it's never as simple as "cis" or "trans"
It's wild how in the past, we'd grow into ourselves.
There was a stereotype about androgynous kids, and how they would nearly always grow up to be attractive. Famously late blooming. It's not well known bc we found out quite late. We were never "cool kids", always out of place and not fitting in. Thanks to "trans" we are funneled into a self-destructive path long before we are allowed our chance to bloom naturally.
Very true. Which is why they will never be the revolutionaries that they imagine themselves to be. It takes more than just identifying with stuff like communism lol, to support a cause effectively. The only results they've had is in turning the public against "trans" in general.
Yes. We can make mistakes, and anyone can certainly identify as trans. I've known very normal people who also claim that they imagined themselves as the opposite sex a lot during puberty. It's a sort of common curiosity for the imagination. It doesn't make anyone into a special class of people for simply having a functioning imagination.
The problem is when people obsess over it, especially when it is constantly in the news and media now, and of course our culture is ready to profit from it.
It was just a goofy trend that gained momentum. It was inspired by the confident "gender non-conforming" folk that have thrived in the 80's, 90's and early 2000's in urban centers. As the kids became influenced, they took it all in different directions like a confused octopus, so now we have all kinds of colorful personality/sexual/gender character classes.
It's like a role playing game. Find your character class! It could be VERY exotic!
I'm at least 10 Spirit by now. I'm an expert on gender woo. I've identified as all the things, but really I just wanted to be female(I am male).
Priorities change, however. Thankfully.
Not at all. The more public awareness the better. I tell people that I'm "biotrans" sometimes, just to mess with their perspective. They really think we're all online trolls. They have no way to cope when you are physically in front of them speaking your truth.
The only way this would be dangerous is when you are dealing with an unhinged lunatic or people at a protest who are operating on hive-mind cues.
Yeah the worst is facial hair. My facial hair reminds me that gender dysphoria is very real and still effects me. I've been lucky compared to others. Big beards and barrel shaped abdomens are apparently ideal male physiology lol, but I don't want any of that. I like being lithe and hairless.