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The user's narrative is consistent, emotionally complex, and reflects the nuanced, often painful, internal conflicts common among detransitioners. The specific, personal details about their transition (starting at 13, lasting 13 years, the role of medication) and their current struggles with friendships and ideology lack the repetitive, simplistic, or agenda-driven tone of an inauthentic account. Their frustration aligns with the expected passion and pain of the experience.
About me
I was born female and transitioned to male as a teenager, living that way for over thirteen years. After surgery, my dysphoria returned worse than ever, making me feel I could never be male enough. A health issue required me to take estrogen, which unexpectedly eliminated nearly all of my dysphoria. I now see that my deep discomfort was never truly about gender, and I'm learning to accept my body. My experience has left me feeling politically homeless, but I'm finally finding my own peace.
My detransition story
My name isn't important. I’m just someone who lived as a man for over thirteen years and then found my way back. I wanted to write this down so maybe someone else who feels lost can see it and feel less alone.
I started my transition when I was thirteen. I was born female, but from a young age, I felt a deep discomfort with my body, especially when I went through puberty. I hated my breasts and felt like my body was all wrong. I was sure that if I could just become a man, that feeling would go away. So I did. I lived as a man for more than thirteen years. I took testosterone and I even got top surgery.
For a little while after the surgery, I felt relieved. But it didn't last. The dysphoria came back, but this time it was focused on new things—my small hands, my feet, my lack of an Adam's apple. Every small detail that wasn't perfectly male made me feel sick. I became suicidal because no matter what I changed, it was never enough. I felt like I was chasing something I could never actually reach.
Looking back, I was so sure of myself. As a guy, I felt more confident, even a bit more aggressive when I needed to be. My mind felt more creative and colorful. I look back at that person now and it feels like I’m looking at a different guy, and sometimes I wonder where all those good parts of me went.
A big turning point for me was a traumatic event. After that, I had to go on antidepressants and, for separate health reasons, I had to take estrogen. It wasn't for transition purposes at all. And weirdly, after that, about 95% of my dysphoria just… vanished. It was like a switch flipped. I almost didn't realize it was happening until one day I noticed my hair had grown out and I looked more feminine. I just slowly started to change and accept the body I have.
I don't really know what to think about gender now. My own experience makes me question things. I see other people coming out as trans or non-binary, and sometimes it feels superficial to me. I have a friend who just came out and the way she acts feels really fetishy, like she's super into cat girls. Another person I know seems like a lesbian in every way but doesn't want to be seen as a woman. It feels like they're basing gender on stereotypes or fashion, which is so different from my experience of having severe dysphoria since I was a kid.
I would never tell them this or misgender them—it's just a feeling I have inside. I do think some people are genuinely trans, but maybe not as many as we think. It's a really complicated thing.
Coming out as detransitioned has been almost harder than coming out as trans was. Now, my existence feels like a political argument. Some people on the left think I'm a fake trans person or that I must hate trans people now. And some people on the right use my story as a reason why nobody should ever transition. It’s a horrible place to be stuck in, and it comes with a lot of guilt and shame. All you can really hope for is to have good friends and understanding family.
I don't regret my transition because it got me to where I am now, and I needed to walk that path to figure things out. But I do regret how it’s affected some of my relationships. I have a childhood friend who transitioned, and I can't even talk to her about the way she's acting now without being afraid of being called transphobic. She wears trans-colored glasses and hair clips, and it just feels so… different from how I was. I would never have outed myself like that. Her whole personality has changed and it tramples over people; she gets offended by things she never would have before. It's hard to watch, and it makes me feel like a bad friend for not being able to be honest with her.
In the end, I’m just trying to find peace. I’m learning to accept my body as it is now, scars and all.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started my social and medical transition (FTM). Began taking testosterone. |
| Various ages (13-26) | Lived as a man for over 13 years. |
| Mid-20s | Had top surgery. Felt initial relief, but dysphoria later returned focused on other features. |
| 26 | Experienced a traumatic event. Started antidepressants. |
| 26 | Had to take estrogen for health reasons. My gender dysphoria dissipated significantly (about 95% gone). |
| 26 | Began the process of detransitioning. |
Top Comments by /u/Asleep-Coconuts:
Coming out as detrans is almost worse now than coming out as trans in America.
It's like your existence is a political argument.
The left leaning think you're fake trans or even hate trans people.
And the right use you as a reason why nobody should transition and that trans people aren't real.
Then there's the guilt and shame of it. Having good friends and understanding family is all one cam hope for.
That last line really hit, she literally has trans colored glasses and hair clips.
I remember saying to her and my friends when I was trans jd never wear those things because i wouldn't want to out myself right away and I don't see the point.
I'm not sure if she remembers me saying that or not..
It's just hard because we are childhood friends but her new personality literally disgusts me no matter how hard I try and get used to it.
Hmm, I guess I get that, I just fear that maybe it's actually a fetish and not either of those. Not that I'm saying those people should be sterilized, but I guess I see why some people would want them for themselves or others.
It's hard being scared to talk to a lifelong friend because of basiclly... politics and hurt feels.
I do feel like I can't talk about the way she is acting without being accused of something which is weird because before we were do open and as a he, she was just different she wouldn't be easily offended or refuse to see things from other people's point of view.
I dont think that's it because many of the issues I have are not really gender related at all.
She was alittle of a know it all before nothing like this though, it kinda tramples over people sometimes.
Like for example I used to be able to be more open and have darker jokes, she used to never be offended by anything when i was trans and she wasn't. She does hang out with people who I would call tucutes but they probably wouldn't call themselves that.
Ya know weaboo trans cat girls who collect identities and disabilities like they're pokemon badges.
Which is weird because she would normally think those type of people are annoying and not associate but now she's like deep in it.
I dont know it's all weird.
I often feel weird or uncomfortable when the person seems like they're not really trans. One of my friends has recently come out and I love her but it does feel abit fetishy and weird the way she's so into cat girls and how she acts.
Another person in my life just seems like a lesbian in every way and doesn't seem to have dysphoria but wants to be seen as non binary and not a women for some reason. It feels like stereotypes and basing gender on them.
I compare it with my own experience being trans for over 10 years which wasn't fetishy or a political thing or something based on fashion and personality.
I hate to say it but I do feel like if I wasn't trans someone who had gender dysphoria since a young age, hormonal issues and transitioned why would these people be when it seems so superficial to them?
But I am respectful I would never tell them this or misgender them it's just how I feel inside.
I do think people are trans though just not as many as we think and honestly I haven't met a person yet who I thought was 100% genuine. I also don't know that many trans people though.
Hm I'm not sure if I can help you but for me I would do 1 thing and another and it was never enough.
At the point where I got top surgery I felt relieved for a few years then it came back, my feet size my hands, my lack of Adam's apple every small detail made me sick.
I became suicidal because of it eventually I went on medication for that and then I got birth control for health reasons not sex reasons and after that I didn't feel dysphoria as much it was 95% gone and I've kinda just accepted my body now. Weirdly.
I did transition and started at 13 was trans for more than 13 years after this and then detranistioned.
13 years in.. I had a traumatic event, took antidepressants and I also had to take estrogen for health reasons I won't get into.
After that I no longer left dysphoria weirdly and I slowly changed I almost didn't realize it and one day my hair was grown out and I looked more fem. ( ftm )
I guess I can just break it off and only see this person during big group events until they realize themselves the way they're acting.
I do feel guilty for not being able to tell this person how they're acting and how it's making people feel, makes me feel like a bad friend. I also no longer feel comfortable where I could say something like that without getting attacked or accused of being transphobic or something like that even though it's not related at all.
I'm glad you feel abit better now.
I never feel like myself, I still don't but when I look back at who I was and who I am now I do feel like it was a different person.
As a guy I was more confident and abit more aggressive when situations would lead me there. I was also more creative and colorful in my mind. I was so sure of myself ID of who I was.
I look back at that self and I wonder where the good parts went sometimes.