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About me
I started transitioning socially and medically at just eleven years old, and I had surgery by sixteen. I was far too young to understand and was told I wouldn't survive without it, so I never got the chance to know myself as a woman. I realized it was a trauma response and a way to escape internalized misogyny, so I stopped everything at seventeen. My body is now permanently damaged with chronic pain, infertility, and other health issues from the medical interventions. I am learning to accept what I cannot change, and while the grief is immense, detransitioning was the first real choice I made for myself.
My detransition story
My whole journey started when I was just a kid. I was eleven years old when I first started to socially transition. It happened incredibly fast. I was medically transitioned literally at the same time I socially transitioned. By the time I was fourteen, I was put on puberty blockers and testosterone. I had top surgery on my sixteenth birthday.
Looking back, I was so young and incredibly impressionable. I truly believed I would die if I didn't transition completely because that was what I was being told since I was eleven years old. I never got the chance to know what it was like to live as a woman or a girl for very long. How could I know being a woman was wrong if I never even got the chance to be one or accept my body in the first place? The people we are as children can vastly change when we grow. The only thing I needed was to grow up, but instead I was fast-tracked to medical transition asap.
I started to have doubts before I even turned seventeen. I longed to experience girlhood and started to miss things about being a girl. I tried to start wearing women’s clothes in private but after a while I realized it wasn’t enough. I was having these feelings and desires to be a girl, even if they were fleeting, and I knew I had to work through them. So I stopped testosterone. I wasn't even 100% sure if I was trans or not when I stopped, but it gave me space to explore myself that I didn’t have before. I saw it more like going back to default for a bit.
Once I got older, I was able to understand the causes for my feelings. I realized my transition was actually just a dangerous coping mechanism for me, a trauma response. I also see now how it was heavily linked to my autism and that I spent nearly half of my childhood and all of my teenage years just running away from internalized misogyny. I was really just a tomboy who was lowkey groomed into it as a minor.
I detransitioned medically at seventeen. Telling my clinic was a horrible experience. They proceeded to completely drop me, tell me detransition doesn't happen, and then say they felt unsafe around me. They refused to help me and even dropped me from the eating disorder clinic in the same hospital, so I lost all my resources.
The physical consequences are severe and permanent. I am now infertile and will never be able to have children. The puberty blockers caused me serious health complications. I have very low bone density and terrible bone and joint pain that hurts to walk and keeps me up most nights. I also lost a lot of my vision while on them. I went from having very good vision to very bad vision within just a year. My body is ruined.
I also had top surgery, which I regret deeply. I hated my chest the whole time I had it, but once it was gone I was hit with immediate grief knowing I’ll never be able to get it back. I feel like I completely missed out on a lot of female socialization and experiences that other women go through in their teen years. It feels super isolating and strange being a woman who can’t relate at all to so much of what womanhood is.
I definitely regret transitioning. It was the worst thing to happen in my entire life. I’ll never know what I was supposed to sound or look like, or who I could’ve been. The grief is unbearable. But, detransitioning also saved my life. I think it is really the only good choice I’ve ever made. I’d rather be a detrans woman than a trans man any day of the week now.
Healing is the hardest thing I think I’ll ever go through. It’s not easy at all, but over time the crying every day slowly turns into radical acceptance. The reality is what happened can never be undone. But we can accept the things we cannot change. I try to practice radical acceptance, but it’s hard. Trauma and healing is like a bubble; it never gets smaller and it comes back in waves, but with time we grow around it.
I don't believe in gender the way I used to. I believe you’re a woman just by being born female. I never left womanhood; it’s always been a part of me. My only wish is that I could have been allowed to just exist until I was an adult and able to understand the long-term consequences of my actions.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 11 | Socially transitioned. |
| 14 | Started puberty blockers and testosterone. |
| 16 | Had top surgery. |
| 17 | Stopped testosterone and medically detransitioned. |
Top Comments by /u/AttorneyRich8118:
I was a bit older and put on blockers + testosterone at 14. But, I socially transitioned when I was 11. Please be careful. The people we are as children can vastly change when we grow. I was never given the option to know what it’s like to even live as a woman or a girl for very long. I don’t know why those decisions were allowed to be made when I didn’t even know what it was like. How could I know being a woman was wrong if I never even got the chance to be one or accept my body in the first place? Transition was the worst thing to happen in my entire life, because of it I most likely will never be able to have children or have a normal life. I’ll never know what I was supposed to sound or look like, or who I could’ve been. I wish I could’ve understood that feelings can change, and i wish I would’ve been able to think long term. But, I was a child. thinking long term or being careful about the future isnt exactly something kids are known for. I wish more than anything that my parents pushed back and allowed me to just exist until I was an adult and able to understand the long term consequences. Puberty blockers have horrible health side effects and I deal with constant pain which is also something I didn’t know about. Please be careful about the physical health of your child above all else. If you choose to medicalize your kid there is no going back. You shouldn’t prioritize passing over fertility and long term health in my opinion. A lot of people don’t understand the stress of having to go through all those doctors apts and medicalization at such a young age, it takes a toll both mentally and physically. My body is ruined and my parents have to live looking at me everyday knowing they allowed this.
Yeah I have a very low bone density now and have very bad bone and joint pain. It hurts to walk and the pain keeps me up most nights. This was with taking calcium supplements too. I was only on puberty blockers for 1.5 years but the effects haven’t improved at all since going off bone and joint wise. I deal with very bad soreness constantly that I just need to live with at this point. While I was on I did get a lot of hot flashes too and also lost a lot of my vision which I didn’t know could also be side effects. I went from having very good vision to very bad vision within just a year. If you look up the side effects for puberty blockers they are pretty concerning. Memory loss, depression, migraines, all these things I also experienced from the medication. I honestly wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. I never got the chance to just be a normal kid and I doubt I’ll ever be healthy again ://
Hi! I’ve seen a lot of your posts and comments in the past about your vfs. Things may never be exactly the same but you can have a meaningful fulfilling life. Remember that You’re a woman just by being born female. You never left womanhood it’s always been a part of you. I hope your breast reconstruction goes well and you’re able to heal from everything you’ve gone through. Please don’t kill yourself, there will be light at the end of the tunnel, if you ever need someone to talk to don’t be afraid to reach out to a medical professional or someone you care about.
I’d definitely say so. I transitioned at 11 and detransitioned medically at 17. I’ve met a lot of people online and irl who transitioned my age/younger than me and are now desisting and detransitioning. I think especially with all the kids who transitioned during the pandemic we are going to see a huge influx of teens detransitioning who transitioned as children. Especially from the us and Canada I’d say
Let them grow up and be themselves without pathologizing everything they do and say. Don’t rush to medicalizing when it’s impossible to know 100% if your child will persist. Your child will realize who they are in time as their brain continues to develop. Don’t decide for them
I told my clinic when I was 17 because I wanted help getting off testosterone and possibly getting help with a referral to get my name changed back and to get reconstruction. they proceeded to completely drop me, tell me detransition doesn't happen, and then say they feel unsafe around me. They refused writing a note to let me legally transition and said nobody would do it for me. Also dropped me from the eating disorder clinic in the same hospital so I lost all resources to that. So there's that
Had surgery on my 16th birthday and detransitioned not too long after. In all honesty, it is one of the hardest things I think youll ever go through. It’s hard and it’s not easy at all, but over time the crying everyday slowly turns into radical acceptance. The reality is what happened can never be undone, there will never be a going back. But we can accept the things we cannot change and be grateful for the fact that things could have been much worse. I wear padded bras sometimes to feel better but I think the best thing to do is to just allow yourself to be angry and upset for a bit. Journal, use art, listen to angry music, sue or leave a bad review if you need to, but don’t deny yourself what you’re feeling, know that it will get easier and pass one day. I follow some women on Instagram who had mastectomies at a young age and although it wasn’t as young as either of us, and they weren’t for the same reasons, I think they can be helpful in accepting who you are. I’m not sure if this is good advice and I’m sorry you’ve gone through all this, I really hope you can find strength and heal. You are not alone and I hope in the coming years the practice of doing this to young people ends.
It’s really terrifying. There were at least 1-2 trans kids in each class at my school in the younger highschool grades. Weirdly enough there’s a lot less in senior year…almost like it is a phase for some people and some people DO grow out of it..but idk. I’m really so scared about the future because I know so many people who transitioned as minors with no psych evals or anything, literally just like five min apts. I never thought it would be a phase for me and I really believed I was trans, I wish so many kids weren’t being affirmed without any questioning and the internet didn’t glorify rushing into things so much. It’s a dangerous combo
I’m so sorry you’re going through this right now. I’m 17 right now too and This sounds exactly like how I did before I detransitioned. I longed to experience girlhood and started to miss things about being a girl before. I tried to start wearing women’s clothes in private but after a while I realized it wasn’t enough for me. I was really impressionable as well. It’s not fair what happened to you and I’m so sorry. You deserved to be able to explore your femininity and grow up before this was all thrown on you. I definitely relate to the feeling like a trans woman aspect too. If you’re having any doubts like this I recommend stopping testosterone for a bit, or at least thinking about it even if it’s temporary. It helped give me a lot of room to think and realize a lot of things about myself. I wasn’t even 100% sure if I was trans or not when I stopped but it gave me space to explore myself that I didn’t have before. I saw it more like going back to default for a bit. Whatever you choose though, please don’t ignore your feelings or desires to be a girl, even if they are fleeting, they are still there and you need to work through them. What happened to you isn’t your fault and it is never too late to explore your identity. If you have any questions or need someone to talk to I can try my best to help
I hear that. This is really similar to a vent I made a while ago. This was never your fault, what happened wasn’t your fault and it wasn’t fair. From what it looks like you haven’t been detransitioning for very long, give it time and try to distract yourself from your body. I’m 17 now, I was put on testosterone at 14. Life is still hard but it does get better. I wish I could give you more comfort but the reality is the beginning is always going to be the hardest. This is probably going to be some of the hardest parts of your life right now, and I’m sorry. The good news is, you’re still young and you realized this was wrong for you way sooner than most. You need to give yourself some credit for that. It’s a really impressive thing for someone to do. Your body may never be the same but it will heal and your development will continue. You will get more feminine with time. Have hope for a light at the end of the tunnel, even if you don’t think things could naturally get better. I try to distract myself with things outside of my body and who I am physically. I remind myself that I’m more than my body and what happened to me as a young teenager. And I remind myself that everything can be undone in some form and I just need to get through the moment. I wish I had better things to say but I don’t. You sound just like I did and I’m so sorry. If you ever need someone to talk to you’re welcome to dm me anytime