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About me
I started feeling uncomfortable with being a girl when puberty began, and I found an answer online that made me think I was a boy. My parents went from pushing me to be feminine to fully supporting my transition, but their intense reaction made me feel like my identity was a problem all over again. I was on puberty blockers for years, which I think made me weak and might have affected my development. I began to change my mind after making friends with girls and realizing I just wanted to be myself without any labels. Now, I'm stopping the medication and going back to living as a female, hoping for a quieter life without all the drama.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was really young, around 11 or 12. I never felt like a "girly girl" and I hated the idea of having to dress or act a certain way. When puberty started, I felt really uncomfortable with my body developing, especially the idea of getting breasts. I just wanted it to stop. I found a lot of communities online that explained these feelings as being trans, and it felt like an answer. It was like, "Oh, I'm not a girl who hates girly things, I'm actually a boy." It felt like an escape from all the pressure.
My parents were confused at first. Their first reaction was to try and push me to be more feminine, which just made me feel worse and more sure that I wasn't a girl. But then they completely switched and became super supportive of me being trans. In a way, that also became a problem. They started making a huge deal about it, telling family and friends, and even cutting contact with people who didn't accept me. It made me feel different and like there was something wrong with me all over again, just in a different way. Looking back, I wish they had just tried to help me feel okay about being a girl who wasn't girly, instead of jumping straight to affirming me as a boy.
I started identifying as a boy and using he/him pronouns when I was about 12. When I was 13, I was put on puberty blockers. I've been on them for almost five years now. The blockers stopped my female puberty. I have very small breasts and little body hair, which I don't mind, but I also feel really weak and I broke my leg a few months ago—I don't know if the weakness is from the blockers. I also don't feel any sexual attraction to anyone, and I wonder if that's because of the blockers too, since all my friends are starting to date.
I was supposed to start testosterone when I turned 16, but I never did. Over the last year, I've started to change my mind about everything. A big part of it was making friends with two girls who I have a lot in common with. Before, I found it hard to be friends with girls, but now it feels easy and natural. I've also drifted away from my male friends. I started to feel like I didn't want my whole identity to be about being "the trans person." I got tired of all the drama and just wanted things to be less of a big deal.
I tried to talk to my therapist about my doubts, but she just told me, "You are a boy." She thought I was just insecure because of transphobia, not that I was genuinely questioning my transition. That made it harder to talk to anyone.
Now, I think I just want to live my life without worrying so much about gender. I don't really care if something is seen as feminine or masculine. Maybe that makes me non-binary, but honestly, I don't even want to get into another label. I just want to be me. I've decided to stop taking the blockers and eventually go back to using she/her pronouns, but I really don't want a big announcement about it. I'm nervous about telling my parents because they made such a fuss the first time, and I feel guilty that they cut people out of their lives for me being trans, and now it might have been for nothing.
I don't know if I have regrets. I think I needed to go through it to get to this point. But I do wish that there had been more space for me to just be a tomboy without it having to mean I was a boy. I think my low self-esteem and discomfort with puberty led me to transition, and now I'm trying to find a simpler way to live.
Here is a timeline of what happened:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 11-12 | Started feeling uncomfortable with puberty and girly expectations. Found trans communities online and began identifying as a boy. |
| 13 | Started puberty blockers. |
| 16 (planned) | Was scheduled to start testosterone, but did not. |
| 17 (now) | Decided to stop taking puberty blockers and socially detransition. |
Top Comments by /u/AwkwardPlankton4834:
I don't feel it has made me dumber but I don't know. I'm confused I guess I don't really know what it has done. But I did break my leg about 6 months ago so I don't know if that is because of it. I don't know what the Cass report really is I think it's some British thing, right? I don't know who I am attracted to as not attracted like sexually to anyone tbh which I don't know if it is the blockers but all my friends are dating people
Yeah I guess it's hard as I'm still not totally sure but I don't really want to stay on blockers as it feels like everyone else is like moving on with their lives and I'm not and like getting boobs and going through female puberty is not as bad as it used to sound and male puberty seems kinda scary to. But mostly your right I just don't want a big deal about it and want to just try and not worry and lots of trans stuff as well I quite over the top I find and I never really want a big deal about it all.
I guess kinda what made me change most was making friends with 2 girls who I feel like I have a lot in common and get on really well with but before I found it hard to be friends with girls and I also drifted away a bit from my friends who are boys so hopefully that will be better and I do want to try and do more and make more friends without being just seen as the trans person.
Thanks for telling me your story and hopefully it will be ok with my parents eventually it's just confusing and they don't understand it all atm
Yes, well it's more like 4.5 years but almost 5 years. I didn't realize that was so bad. My doctor said it was fine. I was going to start T at 16. I am fine I think just I'm like really weak and can barely lift anything heavy which is annoying and I have like only tiny boobs and very little pubic hair which is kinda good I guess but otherwise it's fine
I guess I don't really know but they were like against it and trying to get me to be more girly which I didn't want and then suddenly they were supportive and I kinda feel like they should have just tried to make me think it was ok not to be girly and still a girl but they never did
Thanks, I thought it was bad and not really coherent thoughts so it's good to know it's ok. I guess it's hard to explain exactly but they've cut contact with people because of me being trans and then I remember them telling me we're not seeing them because they don't accept me and now I feel like scared as they did it because of me and now if I'm not trans then it's for nothing. I don't know how to explain. Also it's like I never wanted it to be a big deal but then when my parents did accept me as trans then they always made such a big thing about it, and it annoyed me a bit especially looking back as like it made me feel different and like it was something wrong with me all the time. Also, like there first response was to try and put me in situations I didn't want to be in and try and get me to dress up and be more girly all the time and now like they should have tried to make me ok with not wanting to do those things as a girl and they never did that as then they eventually affirmed me as trans. I don't know if that all makes sense. I tried telling my therapist but she was like "you are a boy" and I thought she was thinking I was insecure cause transphobia and not cause I was thinking of detransitioning but I didn't explain it all well but she is totally 100% convinced I am trans for sure so if I'm not then the whole conversations with her are dumb now. I don't know they will probably be ok with it I'm just nervous about telling them again and have a bad feeling. Thanks hopefully it will be ok I just feel I have no clue about any of it
Tbh I've been thinking I want to have like less of a big deal and like I feel like I should care about if it is feminine or masculine and it doesn't really matter. Like I don't know if maybe this makes me non-binary or something but tbh now I don't want a big deal about it so I guess I should detrans. I don't really know how to explain it but I don't want to try and do what is most natural and I think the past year I've tried to do that so I guess maybe I will just get off blockers and then maybe start using she/her pronouns again at some point but I don't want to make a big deal about it so maybe if I detransition it will make a big deal of it again