This story is from the comments by /u/BanBonBun that are listed below, summarised with AI.
User Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the comments provided, the account "BanBonBun" does not appear to be inauthentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a bad-faith actor.
The user's comments are highly specific, detailed, and show a deep, consistent engagement with the complex medical, social, and psychological aspects of detransition. The advice given is practical (e.g., hormone timelines, surgical outcomes) and the philosophical stance is coherent and unwavering. The tone is often direct and critical, which aligns with the passion and anger that can be present in authentic detransitioners who feel harmed. The user also demonstrates an understanding of different detransitioner experiences, including desisters. There is no evidence of scripted or automated responses.
About me
I was born female and my discomfort with puberty started around age 11, leading me to believe I was a trans man. I took testosterone and had surgery to remove my breasts, thinking it would solve my anxiety and make me feel safer. I eventually realized my underlying mental health issues were still there and that I was trying to escape being female. Now I live with permanent changes like a deep voice and facial hair that I deeply regret. I'm learning to accept myself as a masculine woman and finally focusing on my mental health.
My detransition story
My journey with transition and detransition is complicated and full of things I wish I’d understood sooner. I was born female, and around the age of 11, I started feeling extremely uncomfortable with puberty. I hated the changes, especially my breasts. I felt like my body was betraying me. I discovered the concept of being non-binary and then transgender online and in my social circles, and it felt like an answer. I latched onto it quickly. I told my parents I was a trans man, and they were very supportive—maybe too supportive. They didn’t push back or question me, and I started on puberty blockers for a month just before I turned 14, then moved to a low dose of testosterone.
I thought testosterone would solve my problems. I believed it would make me feel less vulnerable and anxious in the world. I had this idea that if I were perceived as male, I would be safer and more respected. I also struggled with internalized ideas about femininity and felt I couldn’t be a masculine woman; I thought I had to become a man to be accepted. Looking back, a lot of this was influenced by online communities and the media I consumed, like stories and art about male homosexuality. I was also dealing with depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem, which I didn’t fully address at the time.
I was on testosterone for several years. It did change my body—my voice dropped, I grew facial and body hair, my hairline receded, and my fat redistributed. I had top surgery to remove my breasts. For a while, I felt a sense of relief. I felt less visibly female, which made me feel less exposed. But the underlying issues were still there. I still felt anxious, especially in social situations. I realized that the world wasn’t any less hostile; my mentality hadn’t changed. Testosterone numbed some of my feelings, but it wasn’t a cure.
I started to detransition after realizing that my desire to transition was rooted in a few key things: trauma, a dislike of the expectations placed on women, and a misunderstanding of my own identity. I never felt like a man; I felt like nothing, agender. But I had pursued a physical change because I thought it was the only way to escape discomfort. I also began to understand that I couldn’t actually change my sex. I would always be female, no matter how I modified my body. This was a hard pill to swallow.
Now, I have a lot of permanent changes from testosterone and surgery. My voice is permanently deeper, I have facial hair that requires constant management, my hairline is receded, and I have no breasts. I am infertile. These are things I have to live with. I regret not taking more time to think about the long-term consequences. I regret that my parents and healthcare providers didn’t challenge me more or offer alternative ways to address my discomfort, like therapy for my anxiety and depression.
I’ve come to see that my transition was a form of escapism. I was trying to run away from myself and the parts of being female that I found difficult. I’ve learned that I can be a masculine woman without hormones or surgery. Gender doesn’t have to define what I can or cannot do. I’m working on accepting my body as it is now and focusing on my mental health. I don’t regret exploring my identity, but I do regret the irreversible changes and the fact that I didn’t get the right help sooner.
Here is a timeline of my transition and detransition events:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 11 | Started feeling intense discomfort with female puberty, hated breast development. |
| 11 | Socially came out as trans to my family. |
| 13 | Began puberty blockers for one month. |
| 14 | Started a low dose of testosterone. |
| 15 | Had top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 17 | Realized underlying mental health issues (anxiety, depression) were not resolved. |
| 18 | Began to question my transition and started detransitioning. |
| 19 | Stopped testosterone completely. |
| 20 | Accepted my identity as a detransitioned female and began focusing on therapy and mental health. |
Top Reddit Comments by /u/BanBonBun:
They want to look like kawaii teenage twinks because their understanding of manhood stems from Yaoi and autohomoerotic media written by heteroseuxal cis-females.
Piercings,hair dyed in unnatrual colors,a clean shave and oddly feminine clothing and sure signs of the eternal Fujoshi.
Testosterone is moderately addictive (it's considered a Schedule 3 drug under the Controlled Substances Act,which puts it in the same category as Ketamine),and your claim that you easily pass as male without Testosterone but still want to get back on it because it made you feel good suggest that you may have an actual chemical addiction to it.
Dispose of whatever synthetic Testosterone you have to prevent yourself from relapsing due to an impulse decision,if you really want to get back on it later on after much deliberating then you should be able to easily acquire it.
I think it's a combination of most FtM "influencers" (for the lack of a better term) being moderately attractive and young as well at the influence of MLM/Yaoi on them (where a shocking amount claim to have discovered their transgenderism).
Given that these two are their pimrary source of inlfuence,it's no wonder that they think that they turn into a kawaii teenage twink that gets the benefit of female aethetics and beauty while enjoying the advantages of the patriarchy,only to find out the hard way that they instead end up spending the majority of their life as a dickless manlet with hair everywhere but their head and a beer-belly.
- Erotic Target Identity Inversion Disorder (cause of AGP and AAP),i.e trying to turn yourself into what you sexually desire (which for most people is a person of the opposite sex).
- GNC homosexuals who feel like their life would be easier if they presented as a typical straight person of the opposite sex.
- Fetishizing opposite sex homosexual relationships (autohomoeroticism),particularly common among heterosexual women who feel like they can never experience true romance due to misogeny and/or the differences between the men and women being too large for there to ever be true love,and thus want to experience a romantic relationship with men as a man themselves.
You have never experience adult life (which will be the majority of your life) as a women,so you may want to try it out before deciding that you rather live the rest of your life presenting as a man.
There so prize to win from "transitioning" rapidly,but once you've commited then it's never fully reversible so think long and hard before doing anything surgically/hormonally.
Does he attend to convention as a personal hobby of his or is he there to advertise his services?
Anime conventions would be the ideal hunting ground for somoene trying to peddle gender-related body modifications given the high concentration of Fujoshis and Yuri enthusiasts all dreaming of living as a memebr of the opposite sex.
I've also wondered what the deal with "non-binary" is given that it lacks a natural equivelant and it's thus impossible to "pass" as one;even if you manage to be truly androgynous (which I assume is that "non-binaries" strive for) people will always correctly assume that you're either male or female and socialize with you as such.
Never being able to become an actuall women is the primary reason you shouldn't transitioned.
If you're primarily attracted to women then you should look up the concept of Autogynephilia,may help you unserstand where you transitioned-related desires stem from.
Unless you've tampered with hormones (or worse;surgery) then there literaly nothing that prevents you from going back to living as a normal member of your natal sex,just tell people that you were (and still are) an impressionable teenage girl (as teenage girls tend to be) who caught on to a social trend and that you've change your mind.
Best of all;you can alternate between being a dainty pin-up housewife and a badass tomboy all without ever changing your name,gender,pronouns or going on Testosterone or having surgeries.
- What tangbile,real-life benefits that are unrelated from you mental health would you get from "transitioning" ?
- What happens if your transition fails and you just end up being read by others as a strange in-between rather than a man/woman?
- Given the fact that you cannot actually change your sex,owuldn't you be better off spending "transiton"-related resources on improving your life as it is rather than hoping for a miracle cure by "transitioning" ?