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About me
I was a young girl who felt terrible about my body when I started puberty and found acceptance online in trans communities. I was convinced my discomfort meant I was a trans man and that hormones would fix all my sadness. When I moved away at 17, I realized my desire to transition was heavily influenced by my friends and was an escape from my real mental health issues. I now understand I'm not trans, but a woman who just needed help with my self-esteem and the difficulties of growing up. I deeply regret not getting proper therapy first and believe a lot of young people like me need time, not immediate affirmation.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was about 13. I was a girl who felt incredibly uncomfortable with my body, especially when I started developing breasts. I hated them and wanted to hide them. I also had a lot of mental health issues, including depression and really low self-esteem. I didn't feel good about myself at all.
I found a lot of community and answers online, specifically in trans spaces. Everyone there was so welcoming and affirming. They told me that my discomfort with puberty probably meant I was transgender. It made a kind of sense to me at the time. I started identifying as non-binary, and then later, as a trans man. All of my friends were trans or very supportive of it, and the pressure to go along with it was huge. They made transitioning sound like a magic fix for all my problems. I was convinced that if I just started testosterone and got surgery, all my sadness and anxiety would go away.
I was so sure of myself. I thought I had done all the research and knew everything. When I heard about detransitioners, I believed the narrative that they were just wrong or were being used by bad people to attack the trans community. I defended transitioning fiercely and didn't want to hear any other side.
When I was 17, I moved out of my family home. Suddenly, I was in a new environment away from that specific friend group and the constant online chatter. For the first time, I had to just live my life and deal with real-world problems. I started to realize that my desire to transition was heavily influenced by my friends and the online communities I was in. It was a form of escapism from my other issues. I had been a young kid with mental health problems, and I genuinely couldn't think critically about such a huge decision. I was looking for a solution to my unhappiness, and transitioning was presented as the ultimate solution.
I slowly came to the understanding that I wasn't trans. I was just a girl who had a hard time with puberty and growing up. I had internalized a lot of negative feelings about myself, and changing my gender felt like a way to become a completely new person. I stopped identifying as trans and began the process of accepting my female body.
I don't regret exploring my identity because it led me to where I am now, but I deeply regret that I ever encouraged others to transition and that I was so closed off to other viewpoints. I think it's horrible how our stories as detransitioners are often erased or ignored. The affirmation-only model is dangerous. Doctors and therapists shouldn't just automatically agree with a young person's self-diagnosis, especially when they're teenagers struggling with other problems. A few years of waiting and real therapy to work on underlying issues wouldn't hurt someone who is truly trans, but it could save someone like me from making a life-altering mistake.
I now believe my discomfort was a mix of body dysmorphia and the normal difficulties of going through puberty. I didn't need hormones or surgery; I needed help with my self-esteem and mental health.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started feeling intense discomfort with my developing female body and puberty. |
| 13-14 | Found online trans communities; began identifying as non-binary, then as a trans man. |
| 13-16 | Was heavily involved in trans-friendly online spaces; believed transition was the answer. |
| 17 | Moved out of my family home; began to seriously question my trans identity away from influences. |
| 17 | Realized I was not transgender and stopped identifying as trans. |
Top Comments by /u/Batemoh:
It’s really horrible how they erase our existance and what we went through just to justify their views and push their agenda.
Detranisioning is a very real thing and all of us were negatively affected by how much they push for everyone who’s even remotely different from the gender stereotypes being trans.
And then they shit on us for not being trans
Hi! I was in similar shoes when I was 13-14, and do NOT transition! You are still incredibly young and still very much developing. Believe me, you won’t feel the same about basically anything in even just 2-3 years. So you should absolutely wait with any kind of medical procedure.
It took me having to move out at 17 to realise that I really wasn’t trans or anything, I was living a very comfortable life, not having any worries besides what I’ll do tomorrow and I really had 0 idea about what life is like.
It might not be the same for you, but please don’t rush into anything irreversible (that includes hormone blockers, they are not at all good for your health) and just wait and try to see why you want to transition from different angles.
Good luck, and you can always message me if you want to talk or have specific questions
Looking at your profile it could also be because you lost so much weight (congrats by the way) so the last time you saw your man side as you, you were fatter. You definitely look male though, and once you get your hair cut, paint it and remove the makeup you’ll look just like anyone else, don’t worry.
Hey, I understand how you feel, and I understand why you reacted the way you did to this. You are young, you did as much research as you could, you looked at all sides and you think you understand it all. Why detransitioners are “wrong” why not everyone will detransition, why anyone that realises that they are not trans is “bad”.
Believe me, I felt the exact same way, and I thought I knew everything. And when someone even showed me the slightest bit of info I didn’t consider, I also resorted to the same tactic, said the same things.
All we want is for you not to do anything irreversible. But also to realise that once you go in, even if you realise that you are detrans, it’s nigh impossible to get out. The peer pressure and the majority of your friend group being trans/trans aligned really makes it difficult to step back and do what’s best for your soul.
Yeah sure, I’ll just go a think critically about all of this as a 13-16 year old going through puberty with mental health issues.
What’s your angle? A child, especially if they have mental health issues will not and CANNOT think critically about this stuff. Especially when ever on the trans community affirms you NO MATTER WHAT. They are the ones that know most about this, they are the ones people go to help for and with questions, and the answer always is: Transition! It’ll make your life better, without knowing anything about the other person. And even if they don’t say it like that they will tell you how transitioning was a magic drug for them and make it sound like something that’ll fix everything.
And the medical health professionals, especially gender doctors, should know better, and shouldn’t automatically affirm everyone. Saying that they will always just want to help, is correct, that’s why they SHOULD NOT give HRT out so easily, especially to people under 18, if you ask me even until someone is 21. Those extra few year of waiting won’t change much in an actual trans persons life, where they’ll have a whole life to live as their gender, but makes ALL the difference in someone who just believes that they are trans’ life.