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About me
I started taking testosterone at sixteen because I felt disconnected from my female body and thought it would solve my depression. I stopped after a year because of difficult side effects like constant hunger and because I realized I was trying to fix internal problems with an external solution. I’m now living with permanent changes, like a deeper voice and reduced sexual function, that I feel sad about. I’ve learned that medical transition is a huge decision with lifelong consequences. Now, I’m just focusing on being myself without labels and working on my mental health.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started when I was a teenager. I was sixteen when I decided to start taking testosterone. I think a big part of it was that I just didn't feel comfortable with the changes that came with female puberty. I hated my breasts and felt really disconnected from my body. I was also struggling with a lot of depression and anxiety, and I think I saw transition as a way to escape all of that and become a completely different person.
I was on testosterone for about a year. The effects were strong and happened fast. My voice dropped a lot, and I gained a significant amount of weight, around 20 to 25 pounds. I was always so hungry; it felt like I had two stomachs to feed. At the time, some of the changes felt good because they were what I thought I wanted. But other things, like the constant hunger and the weight gain, were difficult.
A major thing I didn't realize was how testosterone would affect my sexual function. Orgasms were never a problem for me before or even during testosterone. But after I stopped, it became really different. I have to put in a lot more effort to reach orgasm now, and when I do, it's a lot less intense than it was before I ever started T. I wish I had known that was a possibility when I was sixteen. I wouldn't have wanted to sacrifice that part of myself.
I decided to stop taking testosterone after that year. The weight started to come off pretty quickly once I stopped, mostly because my appetite went back to normal. My voice stayed deep for a long time. It's been about two years since I stopped now, and my voice has settled into a range that can sound either male or female depending on how I use it. I know it will never be exactly what it was, and I've had to learn to be okay with that.
I don't really have strong regrets about transitioning, but I do have sadness about some of the permanent changes, especially to my voice and my sexual function. I think I was influenced a lot by what I saw online and by my own struggles with self-esteem. I was trying to solve a lot of internal problems with an external solution. For me, it wasn't the right answer.
Now, I'm just trying to live as myself, without any labels. My thoughts on gender now are that it's a very personal thing, and medical intervention is a huge decision with lifelong consequences. It's not something to rush into, especially when you're young and still figuring yourself out. I benefited from stepping back and working on my underlying depression and anxiety instead of focusing on my gender.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
Age | Event |
---|---|
16 | Started taking testosterone. |
17 | Stopped testosterone after 1 year. |
18 | Noticed significant, permanent voice drop and changes to sexual function. |
19 | Voice began to soften slightly; accepted my current voice and body. |
Top Comments by /u/Bear_And_Bougie:
I was on Testosterone for 1 year and I’ve been off of it for about a year now too, I never had issue orgasming while on T or before it but I will say now I have to make a lot of effort to reach orgasm. And my Orgasms are considerably less intense then they were before T. Another ftm model I follow ( @everybery_art on most socials ) anyways he said before on an instagram story that orgasms for him are also not as enjoyable now that hes used HRT. I wish I would’ve known that when I was 16 and started Testosterone, I wouldn’t want to sacrifice my ability for a good nut bro.
You’re not alone in this if thats any comfort, I agree with the rest of the comments though, buy some toys and maybe figure out a fantasy in your head that gets you going —-> I’ve heard that mental stimulation is a big part of orgasm for people sexed female. Good luck!
Its something your friend will have to figure out on their own, just be there for them if you can and give them the support they want. Its not worth ruining the friendship over, and telling someone not to do something is gonna make them want to do it more. Thats how it was for me. And who knows maybe this is what they really want, you won’t know until the future comes, and if its not then just be there for them, and do not say I told you so because that will intensify their regret if there is any.
I would suggest to them getting their sperm frozen if affordable, but its their life, you’re only just apart of it. You cannot control their actions. I know you want the best for them but sometimes its the only way for someone to figure themselves out. I mean this with respect.
So I don’t know anything about vocal feminization surgery for ftmtf’s but I wanted to share my story with testosterone, I was on it for a year and my voice dropped significantly, after I got off of it for a year afterwards I still had a really deep voice. Now its been 2 years and my voice is in the male and female range depending where I talk from (like head voice, chest voice, etc.) if you voice train along with waiting for time to take its course then you should notice it getting higher overtime. It probably won’t be the way it was before completely, but I think it’ll get to a point where you’re content with it. Voice training is key, although I’m not a singer I think that voice training would help with that too. I’m sorry if this is unhelpful/not what you were looking for but just incase it made you feel better a little bit, I wanted to say something.
Hey check out unclefestah on Tik Tok (he has multiple accounts like unclefestah3.0 and so on) Anyways hes a trans man whose had top surgery but left some fat on his chest because hes a bigger guy and thought it looked more natural, he also had to get off testosterone because it was causing his liver to fail, whenever he got off he felt like he had to detransition because he wouldn’t pass, and so he did. For a month and a half until he couldn’t take it anymore, he felt better presenting as a man, so without testosterone or any other medical intervention; he started presenting as male again. Now he passes most of the time but theres times where he doesn’t and hes made peace with that. Something to also note is he has an autistic son who he gave birth to before he transitioned at all, so although hes not autistic himself he has a deep experience with it. Maybe watching his videos or giving him a comment about your situation could help you, he gives great advice and truly wants the best for everyone. And hes very confident even after all hes been through which gives me hope that I one day will be too, and I hope the same for you. I’m sorry for this long message but I really think you would connect with his videos so please look him up. Good luck and I hope you’re able to figure this out. Brother or Sister or Sibling, whatever you end up being, you will always have support and communities that are here to help. Much love. Take care.
For context I’m a detrans female, I gained around 20-25 pounds going on testosterone for about a year. Whenever I decided to detransition medically the weight started falling off without me doing much other than eat way less because testosterone had made me feel like I literally had two stomachs that I needed to feed. I think it may be the same going on estrogen or any HRT treatment it makes you hungrier because your body is growing I guess? I dunno I’m no doctor but I think you should drop some weight coming off of E. Just try to make sure you’re eating enough and not starving yourself or binging. I wish you luck, and I hope you take care.