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About me
My journey started as a teenager when I felt intense discomfort with my female body and disconnected from other girls. I was influenced online and thought becoming male was the answer, so I took testosterone and had surgery. I eventually realized I had made a huge mistake and that my underlying depression and self-hatred were still there. I deeply regret the permanent changes and am now trying to accept myself as the female I always was. I'm learning that my interests don't define my sex and I'm finally trying to heal.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started when I was a teenager. I was really uncomfortable with the changes happening to my body during puberty. I hated developing breasts and I felt like I just didn't connect with other girls or the expectations placed on me. I felt like an outsider. Looking back, I think a lot of this was low self-esteem and depression. I didn't feel good about myself, and I thought becoming a boy was the answer to all my problems.
I spent a lot of time online and was heavily influenced by what I saw in trans communities. It felt like an escape from the person I was, who I didn't like. I started to believe that if I could just look like a guy, then I would finally be happy and fit in. I socially transitioned first, asking people to use a different name and pronouns. I think part of it was also internalized homophobia; it felt easier to be a straight guy than to be a gay woman.
I ended up taking testosterone. I wanted to look masculine, to have a deeper voice, to stop having a period. For a while, it felt like it was working. I felt powerful and like I was finally becoming my true self. But the changes kept going, and I started to realize that I was becoming a masculinized version of myself, not the ideal I had in my head. I began to see that I would never actually be a biological man. My body structure was still female, and no amount of hormones could change that fundamental reality.
I got top surgery. I hated my breasts so much that I thought removing them was the only way to be comfortable. After the surgery, there was a period of relief. But that relief was temporary. The underlying issues of depression and self-hatred were still there. I had focused all my energy on changing my body, but I hadn't dealt with the problems in my mind.
I eventually realized I had made a huge mistake. I regret transitioning. I regret taking testosterone and I deeply regret having top surgery. I am now infertile and have permanently altered my body in ways I can't take back. I look in the mirror and I don't see a man or a woman; I see a person who was confused and made permanent decisions based on a temporary feeling. I am trying to accept that I am, and always was, a biological female. I'm learning that being a woman isn't about stereotypes or aesthetics—it's a biological reality. I can be a woman with short hair who wears men's clothes and does "boy things." My interests and style don't change my sex.
I don't believe gender is a feeling anymore. I think it's something you're born as. My journey was fueled by pain, a desire to escape myself, and outside influences that told me my discomfort meant I was born in the wrong body. I now know that wasn't true. I'm trying to love myself as I am now and move forward.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and developing breasts. Felt disconnected from other girls. |
| 15 | Spent a lot of time online in trans communities. Heavily influenced by what I read. Socially transitioned. |
| 17 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 19 | Had top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 21 | Realized I regretted my transition and began to detransition. |
| 22 | Stopped testosterone. Now living as a female again and trying to heal. |
Top Comments by /u/Beginning_Fly_704:
Not trying to be rude but what is wrong with being a guy? why can't you be one? Also I promise i am not trying to offend you but being a woman is biological, i don't believe its a behavior or feeling. I just want to know why you feel like you can't be a man.
I guess I can understand that. I used to want to be a boy really bad and wanted to look masculine but it was also bc i didn't connect with girls. Well honestly, I get how u feel, the issue is you will never look like a woman and that's okay. It will be hard to accept a harsh truth like that. But I would say, why can't you have long hair and look pretty as a man? I think guys with long hair look amazing! And you can find beautiful cloths for your gender? Also you don't have to subscribe to stereotypes, who says u have to act dominant and be competive? Im a girl and i have short hair and wear boy cloths and do boy things but im still a girl? Maybe u can try doing the same thing?
so u think if someone looks like a woman that's the same as being one? also most of the ppl who pass either had low testosrone or were minors. But i mean being a woman is not a aesthetic its a biological reality. Also if you are very masculinized u will look like a dude in a dress no matter how much hrt u take I'm sorry. Also there is a difference between women coming in all shapes and sizes and being a man taking estrogen. Im super sorry if this sounds offensive. I'm just trying to help u see things from a different perspective.
i mean biological as xx chromosomes. Also not trying to be rude but have u ever seen a manly 6ft tall masculine man pass as a beautiful woman? Also being a woman is 100% biological not aesthetic at all. I am a girl and i wear boy cloths and have short hair, i seen girls who look like a boy and they don't look aesthetically feminine, but they are still girls. Fashion and stereotypes don't define gender, the only thing that does is biology and by that i mean chromosome and private parts.
I just wanted ti say, Im so sorry for what you went through, i also wanna say it's not too late it will never be too late! Even in this state you are still a biological woman, i think u need to give your body time to heal, you are still that beautiful girl u were before! Pls don't kill yourself there is hope! About your hair, i know its not ideal but u can wear a wig, many women do and its perfectly normal, you can still wear makeup, and a padded bra. I know it must be so hard, but I promise u are loved and you are a beautiful girl even if you don't feel like it right now! And i want to say you are not ruined!
...well even if i as a girl take hormones i still have female bone structure and am 4'11 it would be the same with you, like u can get breasts and stuff but your body is still male and it can't be undone. Wdym by society? i am just being myself at this point it's not about social expectations or gender roles. At the end of the day if you still want to do it, that's your choice but i mean you won't be the same as cis woman.