That's the kind of tactics that make me nuts, because it's used to IMMEDIATELY shut you down by escalating the argument and trapping you in a moral prism.
"so i decided that THIS thing is a human right. Are you against human rights? Yes? Are you the worst person on the planet?"
Activists use this kind of behavior on so many subjects, and it works because I see how brain dead it is and just leave the argument.
It's not a human rights. Free cosmetic surgeries, accessing HRT like some kind of over the counter medicine, removing gender dysphoria as a criteria for said surgeries, removing gender dysphoria as a whole from the DSM, allowing confused kids to sterilize themselves, it's not human rights, it's an agenda, it's insanity, it's lobbying and bullying.

Social media has absolutely cooked our perception of reality and identity. I can't wait to get rid of my masculine features so i can just call myself a woman. Not trans, not gender non conforming, not fucking AFAB or anything, just a woman. We make our lives so difficult, lets go out more and touch some grass 🥲

As much as it is a good thing, i feel for all the young and lost kids deeply caught in the trans movement at the moment. They must feel so helpless, especially with the activism probably egging on their desperation. At that age and at their place with all the political talk, I would have probably lost it. I really hope that some kind of support that does not enable them is instated, because it's not everything to just ban it, we must *really* protect them. Offer them support, therapy. This does prevent them from making life altering precocious decisions, but what then? We all know how much suicide ideation is common with these issues, how are they gonna be supported through these feelings of helplessness?

this shit makes me sick. it's already a problem how easily people can get their hands on life altering synthetic cross sex hormones. Now we just encourage people to bypass doctors (not that they really cared that much seeing how some hand it out like candy but at least they know stuff) and do it themselves?! can you fucking imagine labs instructing diabetic patients to diy their insuline?? Asthmatic patients to DIY their ventoline? Can you imagine fucking teens seeing this and following it up, injecting themselves with god knows what, because a creep on the internet instructed them to go all Walter White on this shit? In what kind of twisted dystopia do we live in, how is this not illegal???

Tbh from my own experience, before admitting to myself I wanted to detransition I was really really scared of content like the one here, and it's for a good reason : I didn't want to explore the idea of detransition. Didn't even want it to cross my mind because I was scared of what it would make blossom in my mind. Not saying that seeing detrans stuff makes people want to detrans, or that all trans people will want to detrans eventually, but it's easier to stay in a hugbox than to question your perception of things.

Literally!! I find it absolutely irresponsible and terrifying to allow CHILDREN to make permanent and damaging changes to their bodies because they've been influenced. Activists wanna argue that it's less harmful to let children transition early than leaving them in the "wrong body", i'm sorry what??? Why are we convincing children that their body is wrong?! Why are we convincing them that something is wrong with them to the point they have to get their bodies chopped? They're neutering children, permanently altering their bodily autonomy, robbing them of a childhood. I feel insane how do people not see that?! Changing sex is not something meaningless, gender expression is fine, but medically changing sex is so invasive and damaging. Protecting trans kids should be offering extensive therapies to these children, until they're at least 18. Non invasive help. Hell under 26 your brain isn't fully developed yet for christ's sake, the more I detransition the more i find transgender activism absolutely terrifying, it's a fucking dystopian horror story. It's not about protecting these kids, never has, it's just their agenda, otherwise they'd take into account the immense possibility of misguided decisions. And I'm sorry but you can't convince me that a child going through all that medical stuff and realizing they were wrong is not much more at chance for suicide attempts than if not going through it all.

I personally think that not enabling this kind of delusion is the best thing to do, even if it hurts in the moment. The sooner we snap out of it, the less lasting issues we inflict on our bodies. The more society and close ones coddle us and play along the deeper we go and the harder it is to stop.

But they for sure went about it wrong. I'm sorry you went through that, you shouldn't have had to, you should have been guided properly and helped to overcome your dysphoria in a loving and supportive way. I don't think their love is conditional, they obviously still loved you in this period of your life, but the help they can offer is for sure not appropriate. In a different way, I'm autistic and despite being so since childhood my parents still struggle to usefully help me when I'm distressed. I've grown to understand that it's just how it is, they're flawed individuals like everyone else. They care for and love me, but I know that I can't count on them for certain things and I need to suffice to myself. I guess it's similar for you in this situation, your relationship is somehow mended, but you've learned that they're flawed and despite caring, their solutions to your problems are not what you need. You can take what you need from this relationship and leave it at that knowing that it's not perfect.

personnally i'd say yes, but not in the way it's meant. Convincing myself I was trans made me deeply suicidal and gender care was kinda like giving into my tantrum. It gave me short term goals that prevented me from killing myself. It was a short term solution, but the long term one was adressing the underlying mental illness, not enabling it

I mean testosterone is a hell of a drug. She'll have unusual and messed up menstrual cycles, probably acne breakouts, hair can start to grow (which, funny when it's just your face, but when you get a hairy back that you can't shave alone it's less cute), hot flashes, her breast tissues might be affected. But the worst for me, it's the behavioral changes. On T i got so aggressive, so mean, so insensitive, so angry and quick to snap... It really changed me and I hated how unpleasant i became. I struggled to feel emotions, couldn't cry. Let alone the fact that she's only 19, and god knows the effects a synthetic hormone could have on a young girl's reproductive system in the future. She still has her uterus, it still produces hormones by itself, leave it at that. Appearing androgenic is a style, she can dress how she wants, cut her hair, draw a funny little mustache with mascara, draw her eyebrows, bind her chest, but there is literally no reason to start a burdening medical process for absolutely no other reason than wanting to look slightly less female

I mean this is the nicest way possible, please live beyond your trans identity. It's not a normal or fulfilling life to constantly be fighting for what we want to be seen as. It's not a good identity if it constantly causes you stress and self doubt. Don't do HRT "just because it's the next step" or because everything is telling you that you should.

You are young. There's nothing, NOTHING wrong with being a girl. You can be a girl and still dress manly, speak in a deeper voice, cut your hair, wear stylish clothes. You can socially present in a masculine way and still accept yourself as what you are at birth. It saddens me so much how we erase any form of gender non conforming femininity as trans.
But from someone who transitioned way too fast, don't rush into gender transition, the effects are irreversible, and realizing it wasn't the right decision is unbelievably hard. I wish I would have accepted myself as a masculine teen girl instead of going full on into transition.

For your friends, if they're trans they must be somewhat into the gender ideology, thus if they critique your choice to desist and explore your gender (the when you were born as) they're hypocrites and don't deserve to be your friends. You exploring your femininity is as support worthy as them exploring their new gender.

For your mom, idk the state of your relationship, but know it's never too late. If you want to mend what was broken there's always the possibility, it's up to you to see if you want it or not.