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About me
I was a depressed teenage girl from Canada who thought becoming a boy would fix my discomfort with puberty and my feelings for other girls. I started testosterone at 15, believing it was a magic solution, but it never cured my self-hatred. I looked into surgery and was horrified by the results I saw from clinics here. I've since realized my real issues were internal, like low self-esteem and struggling to accept being a lesbian. I'm now detransitioning and finally addressing those root causes instead of changing my body.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was a teenager. I was a girl who felt really uncomfortable with my body, especially when I went through puberty. I hated developing breasts and I felt like I didn't fit in. I think a lot of this was tied to low self-esteem and depression. I also struggled with the fact that I liked other girls, and I think I had some internalized homophobia; it was easier to think of myself as a boy who liked girls than to accept being a lesbian.
When I was around 14, I came out as transgender. Soon after, a bunch of other girls in my social circle did the same. I wonder now how much we influenced each other. I started taking testosterone, hoping it would solve all my problems. I believed the narrative that hormones would make me pass completely as male and that I would finally be happy. I thought my body shape would change dramatically in just a few months, but that wasn't realistic. Out of all the trans people I've known, not a single one fully passes. There's always something that gives them away.
A big thing I learned the hard way is that transitioning doesn't "cure" dysphoria. It's sold as this magical solution, but if you hate yourself on the inside, changing the outside won't fix that. The only thing that can make you happy comes from within. You can't solve your inner problems by permanently altering your body. I wish I had been encouraged to work on self-love and seen a therapist who would help me with my underlying mental health issues before I made such a big decision. I believe mental illness can make you do things you'll regret later, and that's why a lot of us are in this detransition community now.
I also looked into surgery, specifically top surgery and bottom surgery in Canada. I'm Canadian, and about a year ago, I researched results from the Montreal clinic. It was horrifying. I could only find three or four examples, and they all looked awful. The metaidioplasties looked like grotesque thumbs and the phalloplasties looked like a flap of skin haphazardly sewn on. I recently read that the clinic now makes patients sign a form agreeing not to post about their results. This disgusts me. These surgeries are funded by taxpayer dollars, and people have a right to know what they're getting into. It feels like a system built on lies.
I don't think my initial feelings of gender dysphoria were a mistake; it's a real and horrible condition. The mistake was in how it was handled. The doctors and activists push transition as the only option. We need alternative treatments and we need to be taught that there's nothing wrong with being female and nothing wrong with liking other females.
I have regrets about my transition. I think we should wait until people are adults, like 25 or older, and are mentally stable before they can make these life-altering decisions. My thoughts on gender now are that it's often a distraction from deeper issues. For me, it was about escapism from depression, self-hatred, and discomfort with being a lesbian. I benefited from finally addressing those root causes instead of just changing my appearance.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | I came out as transgender (FTM). Soon after, other girls in my friend group also came out. |
| 15 | I started taking testosterone hormones. |
| 19 | I researched surgical results from the Montreal clinic and was horrified by what I found. |
| 20 | I began to detransition after realizing transitioning didn't cure my underlying depression and self-esteem issues. |
Top Comments by /u/BigGayThrow-Away:
How about we wait for people to a. become adults (25+) and b. be mentally stable until they can make these kinds of major life altering decisions? Mental illness can make you do all sorts of shit you'll regret later, that's why a lot of us are here. You can't solve your inner problems by changing the outside.
On my main I read your comments all the time, but I never reply to them. I'm so sorry your daughter is going through this. At her age, I was somewhat similar. However I came out first and then a bunch of other girls did. I don't think I made a mistake, gender dysphoria is a real condition and its horrible too. It's the doctors and activists that make mistakes. Transitioning doesn't cure dysphoria. But nobody does anything else because everyone is pushing the trans agenda. We need doctors to give us alternate treatments. Plus we need to be taught that there's nothing wrong with being female and that theres nothing wrong with liking other females.
I've only heard horror stories about Brassard. I'm Canadian, and about a year ago I looked into ftm surgery results by the montreal clinic. There were almost none, except maybe 3 or 4. Everything I saw was absolutely awful. The metas looked like grotesque thumbs and the phallos looked like someone haphazardly sewed a flap of skin onto the genital area. Just a few days ago I was reading in another subreddit that now the clinic has a form you have to sign agreeing not to post or talk about results or service you received from the clinic.
This disgusts me because for one, it's covered by the Canadian government, and for two, nobody knows what they're getting into. At least if people knew what they were getting into it would be less severe since they could make more of an informed decision. People see Canada as a nice country, but really Canada is not what it seems to be. This clinic is proof that Canada is full of lies and deceit since they're literally funding this with taxpayer dollars and not letting anyone speak out about it on any side.
One of the big things I wish I would've known is that transitioning often doesn't "cure" dysphoria. Transitioning is branded as the one true thing you can do and then you'll magically be happy. However, the only thing you can do to make you happy comes from within. If you absolutely hate yourself and do nothing internally to fix that, transitioning won't change that. Changing the outside won't change the inside. Self love has to be from within not from outside.
If you're struggling with any sort of mental health problem, I'd suggest you go see a good therapist or someone who can help you before you make the decision to permanently alter your body.
Something I've been wondering lately is the trans suicide rate actually because of being trans or is it due to the massive amounts of underlying mental illness in trans people? I read something about a week or two ago saying the average trans person has 3 mental health diagnoses. I don't have the link to the study, but that number is alarming and also could be a major factor in suicide attempts, not being trans itself.
That's a little bit disturbing. When I was 14, I was friends with two women who were 24 and 26, but I knew them in real life for a while and they never pushed any sort of ideologies and whatnot on me. It was a healthy friendship. But your daughter at 13 having adults tell her who she is? That's kinda concerning. Does she know these people in real life?
Exactly. I went into my transition thinking in a few months I'd pass completely as male. I thought I'd be like the people that within a year had their body shape completely change and look completely different. That's not realistic. That's very rare and often more than just hormones are involved. Out of the many trans people I know, not a single one fully passes. There's always something that's a dead giveaway.