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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the comments provided, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a bad-faith actor.
Reasons for Authenticity:
- Personal Narrative: The user shares a consistent, multi-faceted personal story involving detransition (stopping testosterone), top surgery, a hysterectomy, and a specific medical experience with Lupron.
- Emotional Complexity: The comments express a range of genuine emotions—anger at medical professionals, compassion for others, personal satisfaction in a relationship—that are complex and context-appropriate for someone who has experienced harm.
- Engaged Dialogue: The user engages in heated debate, defending their viewpoint and experiences in a way that reads as passionate and personal, not scripted.
The account exhibits the passion and justified anger mentioned in your prompt, which aligns with an authentic detransitioner or desister's perspective.
About me
My journey started as a teenager when I hated the changes of female puberty, especially my breasts. I transitioned to male in my late teens and had top surgery, but a doctor later pressured me into a shot that caused a horrible chemical menopause. That scary experience made me question everything, and over time I slowly realized I'm comfortable as an androgynous woman. I don't regret my surgery, and I'm now happy with a partner who loves me as I am. My biggest regret is that powerful drugs are given to young people without enough warning about the serious risks.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started when I was a teenager. I never felt comfortable with the changes that came with female puberty, especially developing breasts. I hated them. I felt like they didn't belong on my body and I just wanted to be flat. I think a lot of my discomfort was tied to a general feeling of not fitting in and having very low self-esteem.
I started my transition in my late teens. I came out as non-binary first, using they/them pronouns, and then later as a trans man, using he/him pronouns. My parents were trying to be supportive, even though it was confusing for them to learn new names and pronouns. I was really influenced by what I saw online and by the friends I had at the time who were also exploring their gender.
I eventually decided to get top surgery to remove my breasts. I was sure it was what I wanted and I went through with it. For a while, I felt a sense of relief. I also started taking testosterone, but I didn't stay on it for very long because I knew I didn't want to be on it forever.
A big turning point for me was a terrible experience with a doctor. I had awful period pain and was waiting for a hysterectomy. My doctor pressured me into getting a shot of Lupron, which he called a "miracle drug" that would stop my periods. He never told me it was a powerful hormone suppressant used in cancer treatment or that it could cause chemical menopause. I was 21 years old and I went through menopause. It was horrible. I felt emotionally unstable and my body felt completely off. I refused a second shot. I felt like a guinea pig. I was lucky that my ovaries seemed to recover, but it was a scary experience that made me question the medical advice I was getting.
Over the next few years, my feelings slowly started to change. I began to feel more comfortable presenting in a feminine way again. I realized I could be an androgynous woman and that felt right for me. I never made a big announcement that I was detransitioning; it just happened gradually. My parents had to get used to calling me their daughter again, and they were a little irritated but ultimately happy to have me back.
I don't regret my top surgery. I'm comfortable with my flat chest. I found a wonderful boyfriend who loves me exactly as I am and finds me attractive. He’s a butt guy anyway. He met me after my surgery and loves me for me. I've been cheated on in the past by shallow men, but that was about their character, not my body.
I do, however, have serious regrets about the Lupron. I feel that doctor was irresponsible and did not properly inform me of the risks. I also have strong feelings about giving these powerful drugs to young people. I saw kids aged 12 to 14 put on puberty blockers, and they became suicidal, emotionally unstable, and started self-harming. Blocking hormones during such a crucial developmental time seems to cause more harm than good, and most of the youths I saw on them have since detransitioned.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's okay to not fit into a perfect box. I'm happy being a woman who is a little different. I don't have breasts and I can't have children, but that doesn't make me less of a woman or less valuable. I have a great life, a loving partner, and good friends.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Teen Years | Started feeling intense discomfort with female puberty, hated developing breasts. |
| Late Teens | Came out as non-binary, then as a trans man. Began social transition. |
| 21 | Had top surgery. Took testosterone briefly. |
| 21 | Was pressured into taking Lupron for period pain, experienced chemical menopause. |
| Early 20s | Slowly stopped identifying as trans, gradually returned to living as an androgynous woman. |
Top Comments by /u/BloodIronWitch:
I saw many kids/youths aged 12 to 14 be put on blockers. They all became either suicidal, very emotionally unstable, turned to self harming and more. They are blocking youths' hormones during a crucial time of mental development and hormonal balancing. No wonder the youths I saw on it practically lost their minds on it. And most have come out as detrans since. I myself was put on Lupron at 21 as my doctor convinced me it was the best option for my worsening period pain until I got my hysterectomy instead of just prescribing me a stronger muscle relaxant/pain relief temporarily. I faced menopause at 21. He pressured me for a second shot but I said no. He never told me Lupron was used along side chemotherapy and also used as a castration drug. He just practically told me this was essentially like a miracle drug that would make my periods go away. I'm lucky that my ovaries have recovered since and seem healthy.
Cheaters will cheat just to cheat and because they don't understand what romantically loving someone actually is. It has nothing to do with your mastectomy. I had top surgery too yet I found a great man who loves me just the way I am and reminds me how attracted he is to me. I've been cheated on by other men before him. It stings and almost let myself believe the same thing, but I realized they cheated because they simply wanted too and didn't actually want a relationship like they led me to believe. They even cheated on me with other biological men 🤷♀️
1.Anecdotal? It stops being Anecdotal when everyone who takes a step back sees the same thing. 2. "This study shows no effect on mental health. None. Neutral." Exactly, no effects on mental health, meaning no good effects either, no proof this "improves" the youths conditions. I mean, I sure as hell with my "anecdotal" evidence didn't witness the youth get any better. In fact, all got worse except for one. 3. "Puberty blockers aren't antidepressants", no shit sherlock. But they sure can act as depressants by repressing hormonal development and balance which then act as a domino effect with mood, physical health and so on. I am well aware of what antidepressants are having been a professional in the mental health field, and I know how messing with hormone development can cause a multitude of mood, anxiety and personality issues.
Lastly, drugs like Lupron are not "Puberty blockers", they are hormone suppressants. Call them what they are. They were never invented to primarily treat "trans kids". They were primarily developed to help fight cancers that thrive on certain hormones, hence why many of them used alongside chemotherapy.
Yep! I was already waiting for my hysterectomy. I also knew I was keeping my ovaries as I have a blood condition that I can't take man made estrogen if I decided to stop testosterone (which I knew I didn't want to stay on T). Yet he thought shutting down my entire hormone production made sense 🤦♀️ All I asked him was to be prescribed maybe 3 pills a months that were stronger pain relief than what were on the shelfs until I could get my hysterectomy. I was a guinea pig to him.
Totally understandable, it's not an easy thing, especially going up against doctors. But seeing as how your quality of life is impacted, it would be worth maybe even just talking to a lawyer about it. Maybe even just getting a settlement to help with bills for possible reconstruction/relief surgeries or other things that could help you out. But that is also up to you to decide if you want to spend that kind of energy and if you are mentally prepared to do so.
Absolutely false. I have a boyfriend that doesn't care about my lack of boobage. He finds me attractive. It also helps that he's more of a butt person lol But in all seriousness, he loves me for me and how he met me, which was already without boobs. There are men out there who are not superficial like your "friend" or who simply have other preferences other than boobs. That guy may not be a true friend if he's feeding you these horrible, limiting ideas of your worth.
Your feeling are very raw and valid. But please don't go through with this. I believe when someone says out loud that they want to go through with suicide, it is a last cry for help. Do you have someone that can stay with you for the next 48 hours? Or go with you to a crisis center?
As for long term, if breast reconstruction isn't for you, have you considered other esthetic possibilities (tattoos, working out to grow the pecs etc). I've gained some good muscle mass and with a bit of fat, I now almost have a small A cup size. I don't know what your chest looks like and how and where the pain is exactly, and what triggers it so these are just suggestions.
Have you been able to talk with others in person who were in the same boat as you and now living well?
I'm really sorry you are in this mental space atm. But please reach out for immediate in person help.
🤦♀️ do you not know how to read? I was quoting you and then saying no shit they aren't antidepressants.
If you're gonna defend these actions and remain in denial, maybe this sub reddit isn't for you 🤷♀️ especially since you want to invalidate and deny other's experiences and what they have witnessed instead of actually listening and accepting this happens all too much.
My parents took it pretty well but were also a little irritated that they'd have to get re-used to calling me "she" and "daughter" again after years of training themselves to call me "he/they" and "child/son"😂 But they are happy they have their daughter again lol to be fair, I never just came out blunt as a detransitionner, it just happened slowly over the last few years and became more and more feminine, and just realizing I'm happy being an androgynous woman.
Totally understable about not wanting another surgery. It's alot mentally and it takes a toll on the body, especially with the trauma you mentionned. Your value has not lowered. Many women are valuable even if they lost parts of their body (either from botched surgery, cancer, accidents or other). As much as breasts can make most women "feel like women", that is not what makes them the women they are. I have no breasts (and didn't really start having somewhat of a small A cup until a year ago) and can't have kids (didn't want any also before getting my hysto), yet I found a man that loves me for me and a group of amazing women who value my friendship. It may not feel like it, but you have value as a person and the love is out there for you.
I know it's difficult carrying on for yourself right now, but if not for yourself, there must be someone else that you deeply cherish that you can hold on for, even if it's just a bit longer. I really want you to reach out for help. You are deserving of it. And if you make it through this, you'll be one of the strongest people many will ever know.