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The comments show:
- Personal investment and nuance: The user engages with specific, complex topics (e.g., medical side effects, psychological motivations like autogynephilia) in a way that reflects deep, personal engagement rather than scripted talking points.
- Consistent, developed viewpoint: The user expresses a consistent, passionate, and well-developed perspective critical of gender-affirming care for minors, which aligns with the known views of many detransitioners and desisters.
- Human-like interaction: The comments include apologies for potential rudeness, expressions of empathy, and advice about self-care, which are atypical for bots.
While the language is strong and angry, this is consistent with your note that detransitioners can be "very passionate and pissed off" due to personal harm.
About me
I was born female and my discomfort started with puberty, when I hated my developing body. I spent a lot of time online and was convinced that medical transition was the only way to be happy. Taking testosterone didn't fix anything and just created new problems for me. I now see my feelings were rooted in depression and a desire to escape being a woman. I've stopped all hormones and am finally healing by focusing on my mental health instead.
My detransition story
My journey with transition and detransition is complicated, and it’s taken me a long time to understand it. I was born female, but I never felt like I fit in with the expectations for girls. A lot of my discomfort started during puberty. I hated developing breasts; it felt like my body was betraying me. I just wanted it to stop. I felt a lot of anxiety and had very low self-esteem.
Looking back, I think a lot of my feelings were influenced by spending too much time online in certain communities. I saw people talking about transition as the only way to be happy and your "true self," and I started to believe that was the answer for me too. I think I was also using it as a form of escapism from my other problems, like depression. I started to identify as non-binary first, and that felt like a door opening to eventually identifying as a trans man.
I took testosterone for a while. I was convinced it would fix everything, but it didn’t. It just created new problems. I was lucky I never got any surgery, because I know now that I would have regretted it deeply. I see so many stories, especially of young people, who were pushed into medical treatments they weren't ready for, and it breaks my heart. I believe a lot of parents are well-meaning but are misled by doctors and online pressure, and the damage is nearly the same as if they were being malicious.
My thoughts on gender have completely changed. I think the whole idea of finding your "authentic gender" is dumb because it implies that your personality is your gender, which is bullshit. People change. You are different at 15, 25, and 35. Locking yourself into a medicalized identity based on those feelings is a huge risk. I also think a lot of people, myself included, have underlying issues like low self-esteem or body dysmorphia that get mistaken for being trans. For me, it wasn't about truly being a man; it was about hating myself as a woman and wanting to escape that.
I absolutely have regrets about my transition. I regret ever taking testosterone and putting my body through that. I regret believing the lie that medical transition was the only path. I benefited enormously from stepping away from that ideology and working on my mental health without affirming the trans identity. Taking breaks from the internet and those echo chambers was crucial for me. I had to learn to put my own well-being first.
I now believe that it's okay to be a masculine woman. There's nothing wrong with dressing in men's clothes or rejecting feminine stereotypes. The problem is the suffering and the pressure to change your body to fit a feeling. I think we need to be able to talk about the real health risks of hormones and surgeries, especially for young people, without being called bigots. The science is not settled, and people need to know about the potential for serious health complications and infertility.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started puberty. Felt intense discomfort with my developing body, hated my breasts. |
| 17 | Spent a lot of time online. Influenced by trans communities, began to identify as non-binary. |
| 19 | Started identifying as a trans man. Began taking testosterone. |
| 21 | Stopped testosterone. Realized it was not making me happy and was a mistake. |
| 22 | Began the process of detransition. Focused on non-affirming therapy for my depression and anxiety. |
Top Comments by /u/Bluemeanie76:
Of course she didn't develop a sexuality. Puberty blockers are GNRH AGONISTS. These drugs are used as chemo therapy for cancer patients & the sterilization of sex offenders. They cause genital athropy, libido loss & more.
Even if she stopped taking them, her body is damaged. It can take a decade until the really horrible side effects appear. Since she already has various health issues it might get worse quickly.
People needs to stop buying the lie that these drugs are reversible. They aren't. Even if you go trough normal puberty - your body is damaged & it's only a matter of time until it falls apart.
I'm not joking. These drugs are horrible. There are tons of lawsuits already.
Also remember that it's recommended for ADULTS to not take these drugs for more than 6 months. But no one cares if children take these drugs for years.
https://khn.org/news/women-fear-drug-they-used-to-halt-puberty-led-to-health-problems/
So your mother wants you to be feminine even tho you are gender nonconforming?
There is nothing wrong with dressing masculine. I shop in the mens department all the time.
The problem isn't you wanting to look masculine, the problem is the abuse & the suffering it causes.
Is it really that bad that some sick fucks in a trans echo chamber don't believe you? These people are mentally ill and often have NPD - the truth doesn't matter to them. It doesn't matter if it's a scientist explaining biological sex, a lesbian saying they aren't attracted to male bodies or a detransitioner sharing their story.
I think lying surgeons & peer pressure are also to blame. Surgeons want your $$$ & certain trans people claim that you need surgery to be "your true self" & that you are going to be finally happy. Also like surgeons they lie about the outcomes.
It's funny how certain trans people tell others that surgery is so advanced that the creation of real genitals is possible BUT when you regret surgery and want to reverse it you get told that it's not possible to get your old stuff back.
That's the complete opposite of what said trans idiots claim.
Perhaps you could write about your experiences with hrt & publish it here? I'm sure people here will read & spread it.
I know it's r/ asktg you want to share them with but these guys already made up their minds. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.
The whole "finding you authentic self" thing is dumb because people change. You today are different from you 5 years ago, 10 years ago, 20 years ago and so on.
Finding your authentic gender is even dumber because it implies gender = personality, which is bullshit.
Yes, it's ok to dream about being a mother as a man. Same with wanting to be a girl. The best thing is to accept your feelings. You don't have to deny it.
You also have to accept reality. Yes, it might hurt at first but living in a fantasy world & longing for things that aren't possible is going to cause more pain.
I'm still going to say it: Yes, you can be a feminine, caring man. Fuck gender roles. I think it's good to broaden your own perspective of what a man can do & feel without denying biological sex. Hating your sex is a symptom of a deeper issue.
Actually there are lots of health risks
https://www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/ncna890031?
Quote: Transgender women on hormone therapy may be at a higher risk for cardiovascular problems, such as stroke, blood clots and heart attack, researchers reported Monday.
The study was done by reviewing eight years of medical records of nearly 5,000 transgender patients in the Kaiser Health system, and looked at patients over the age of 18 who took hormones for gender transition. Over 97,000 cisgender patients — people whose sex assigned at birth matches their gender identity — with similar age and health characteristics were studied for comparison.
It sounds like either autogynephilia or low self esteem...or both
I hope it's "just" a low self esteem issue because autogenyphilila is one hell of a fetish and it gets worse over time. The fact that you are self aware is a good sign tho.
I'm optimistic so in my opinion the problem is: you love & adore your girlfriend (which is great) but you have internal issues (low self esteem etc) and put her & women in general on a pedestal. Since you hate yourself & your sex, you want to escape these bad feelings by thinking about women but that just causes more bad feelings because they have traits you don't have so you started to feel that you are lacking these things.
But what you are actually lacking is self esteem (which is more than just confidence, it's actually really complex) & you need to broaden your perspective of what men can do, feel etc. basically destroy the male gender role in your mind (note I'm not talking about biological sex).
For example men are able to get in touch with their feelings too but they aren't encouraged to do so. But it's never too late to learn it.
I have no experience myself but I guess everyone here knows about the tragic case of Jazz Jennigs. His abuse started early and is on tv for everyone to watch. There is so much weird sexual stuff in it which would have been never allowed if it was a teen girl. Lots of talk and articles about his penis, his lack of a sex drive & orgasms and so on. Fucking disgusting.
https://people.com/tv/jazz-jennings-farewell-to-penis-party/
https://people.com/tv/jazz-jennings-transgender-bottom-surgery-complications/
His mother is a horrible abusive person and his father just goes along with everything. He wanted Jazz to wait with the surgery but his mother said he should have it at 17 because he can dilate at home before he goes to college. The dad backed off, Jazz had the surgery - a fucking experimental surgery and he was the first (!) person to get it and it fell apart. There is so much awful shit in "I am Jazz" you can spend hours writing about it.
Not trans related:
Do you know about the Dee Dee Blanchard case? She told her daughter Gypsi, her family & everyone around her Gypsi has cancer. She abused her for years and got murdered by her daughters boyfriend.