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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the comments provided, there are no serious red flags indicating this account is inauthentic, a bot, or not a genuine detransitioner/desister.
The user's comments show:
- Consistent, nuanced perspective: They consistently advise caution regarding transition, emphasizing therapy and exploring other causes for distress (like anxiety or trauma). This aligns with a desister's viewpoint.
- Personal anecdotes: They share personal details, such as having social anxiety, being a "big man," and losing weight, which adds authenticity.
- Engaged dialogue: Their responses are tailored to each post, offering specific advice and empathy, which is complex for a bot to simulate convincingly over time.
- Reasonable passion: Their criticism of medical practices and transgender ideology is strong but remains within the bounds of a passionate individual who feels harmed, not a caricature.
The account appears to be a genuine person, likely a desister (someone who stopped identifying as trans without necessarily medically transitioning), based on their lived experience and perspective.
About me
I was born female and my discomfort started with puberty, when I hated the changes to my body. I was heavily influenced by online communities and friends, and I transitioned to male thinking it was the only solution to my unhappiness. Taking testosterone didn't bring me peace; instead, I realized my issues were rooted in trauma, anxiety, and struggling to accept being a lesbian. I stopped hormones and found that therapy to address my underlying mental health was what I truly needed. I am now comfortable living as a woman again and have accepted my homosexuality.
My detransition story
My journey with transition and detransition was long and complicated, and looking back, I see now that a lot of my feelings were tied up in other issues I hadn't dealt with. I was born female, and from a young age, I never felt like I fit in. Puberty was incredibly uncomfortable for me; I hated the changes, especially developing breasts. I felt awkward in my own skin and had a lot of anxiety and low self-esteem.
I started identifying as non-binary first, which felt like a way to escape the discomfort of being a woman. It was a stepping stone. I was deeply influenced by what I saw online and by friends in my social circles who were also exploring their gender. It felt like the only solution to my unhappiness. I eventually came to believe I was a transgender man and decided to pursue medical transition.
I took testosterone for a period of time. I was so sure it was the right path that I even threatened a nurse to get a prescription, saying I'd buy hormones online if she didn't give them to me. She prescribed them to me that day, which I now see was incredibly irresponsible. I never got surgery, but I was seriously considering top surgery because I hated my breasts so much.
But the changes from testosterone didn't bring me the peace I thought they would. Instead, I started to feel more disconnected. I began to realize that a lot of my desire to transition was rooted in trauma, social anxiety, and a deep-seated discomfort with my body that wasn't really about gender. I had also struggled with internalized homophobia; the idea of being a lesbian was scary to me, and being a straight man felt like an easier path. I used transition as a form of escapism from my problems.
I started to detransition after realizing that my body would always be female, no matter what I did to it. I came to believe that my issues were psychological and needed to be addressed in therapy, not with hormones. I benefited greatly from non-affirming therapy that helped me work through my trauma, anxiety, and depression. I learned that many of my feelings were common—like hating parts of my body or feeling insecure—and that I needed to find ways to accept myself rather than try to become someone else.
I don't believe there's such a thing as a "male brain" or "female brain." I think we are our bodies, and the idea of a mind-body mismatch doesn't hold up for me. My regret about transitioning is deep. I regret the permanent changes from testosterone and the time I lost chasing an idea that wasn't right for me. I wish I had dealt with my underlying mental health issues first. I’m now comfortable living as a woman again and have come to terms with my homosexuality.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 16 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and my developing body. |
| 19 | Began identifying as non-binary, influenced by online communities and friends. |
| 21 | Started identifying as a transgender man and sought hormone therapy. |
| 21 | Took testosterone after pressuring a healthcare provider for a prescription. |
| 22 | Began to question my transition and started therapy for underlying trauma and anxiety. |
| 23 | Stopped testosterone and began the process of detransitioning. |
| 24 | Fully accepted my identity as a female and came to terms with being a lesbian. |
Top Comments by /u/Blutarg:
No one is asking you to give up on your transition. But you need to keep in mind that choices come with consequences, and one of the consequences of moving into a different segment of society is consideration of other people in that segment. So you had better get used to thinking about other people's feelings, because that is an inescapable part of society no matter who you are.
For what it's worth, I am neither a woman nor a radical feminist.
I'm a kind of big man but my voice tends toward the high pitch. When I first heard a recording of myself as a kid it really bothered me. I've tried to practice getting my voice down a little. Maybe you could similarly train your voice to go up a bit. But I've also found that people tend to care more about what you say than how you sound saying it.
And hey, there are women when deep voices, such as movie stars like Kathleen Turner and Lauren Bacall. Most people like listening to them :)
Don't panic! Gender dysphoria usually resolves itself, without drastic intervention.
If I were you, I would seek treatment for depression. Just because it comes and goes in waves doesn't make it any less real.
Also, maybe you should spend less time with those online trans communities. It's easy to get tunnel vision when you're drawn into such a place, and begin to think there's only one answer to what's troubling you.
but in the back of my head it felt like everyone else would feel better so that my body would match what their mind said I was
That is a great point. Thank you for this insightful post.
PS have you looked at /r/raisedbynarcissists? You might find it interesting.
I wonder how they got those 448 people. Did they put out a call for people to complete their survey, and people who detransitioned never saw it? Or are detrasitioners too depressed or angry about what they've been through to take a survey?
And it's either rank dishonesty or sheer lunacy to call transition regret a "myth" since there are clearly people who do regret transitioning. It might sound better to say "no one regrets" than "almost no one regrets" but it is fundamentally inaccurate.
You're right, there is a lot of ignorance about hormones. It seems to be one of those things that people think they know about because they heard this or that on TV or something, but in the end they have no idea. And I'm sure some of it is wishful thinking, which is understandable but not appropriate to medical decisions.
It is a damn shame that your trust in doctors was abused. I'm sorry that happened to you.
Imposter syndrome is what happens when someone accomplishes something and doesn't feel they deserve it. I don't think that applies to your situation at all. You're just having doubts, which is totally understandable. Maybe you should hold off on doing anything drastic for a while, until you are more certain.
I can't help but think that the concept of "gender" has no worth, since 99.9% of people say their gender matches their sex. It's an idea that doesn't seem to add anything to human understanding. If here and there a man likes to wear a dress, that fine, no need to completely overhaul our language or thought patterns.
What you said made a lot of sense. It's like, if someone said "I would be happy living on Mars," they couldn't possibly know that because they've never lived on Mars.
That is very interesting. I will be looking out for signs confirming this idea.
"Accessing anything that’s exclusively for women validates their non-self, making their dissociation safer and more satisfying."
Does that remind you of anyone? Maybe someone up in Canada?
People can do what they want, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone. Personally, I don't believe there are "male minds" or "female minds," so I don't believe in minds not matching bodies, but if transitioning improves someone's life than it was a good choice.