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The user's comments are highly personal, emotionally nuanced, and demonstrate a clear, consistent narrative of having transitioned (FtM), lived as a man for years, and then detransitioned (FtMtF). The advice given is specific, practical, and aligns with common detransitioner experiences, including the fear of "I told you so" and the physical and social challenges of detransition. The language is natural and varies in tone depending on the context of the reply.
About me
I started identifying as trans at 18 because I was insecure and trying to escape internalized misogyny, not because of any specific trauma. I lived as a man for eight years on testosterone and had top surgery before detransitioning in my mid-twenties. I regret some permanent changes like my deep voice, but I'm working on it and learning to carry myself differently. Telling people was scary, but I've learned my decisions were only ever about my own happiness at the time. While I wouldn't choose this path again, I've gained perspective and am now focused on following what makes me happy.
My detransition story
My whole journey started when I was around 18. I was really insecure and had a lot of internalized misogyny. The women around me, including myself, had a lot of negative beliefs about what it meant to be a woman, and I just couldn't stand to be one myself. There wasn't a specific trauma that made me do it; it was more about escaping from those feelings and not liking the mold I was supposed to fit into. I used to think, "I hate dresses, so obviously that means I'm not a woman," but now I see that's not true at all. No one is completely "binary," and I think I used the trans identity as a way to escape my other issues.
I lived as a trans man for eight years and was on testosterone for that entire time. My period stopped the month after I started T, and it came back almost instantly after I stopped. I was never on any birth control. I had top surgery during that time as well. Now that I'm in my mid-twenties, I've detransitioned. I'm not insecure about my looks anymore and I don't care as much what others think. I realized that for me, transitioning was a method of escape, and I've just matured past needing that.
I do have some regrets about the permanent changes, especially my voice. I still have a ways to go to feel good about it again. I cringe when I hear how deep it is in recordings. But I've been working on it passively by doing vocal training and singing higher pitched songs in the car. I'm slowly able to reach higher notes more comfortably. I've also learned that how you carry your voice—letting it rise and fall naturally—really affects how you're perceived, and I rarely get called 'sir' now.
Telling people I was detransitioning was hard. I was scared of the "I told you so," especially from my dad's very conservative side of the family. I don't even speak with him, but news travels fast, and his resistance to my transition in the beginning made me afraid of the embarrassment. I found it helpful to write out exactly what I wanted to say and have a prepared response for if someone said that. My advice to others is to remember that you made your decisions based on you and only you. Their thoughts were never a factor, and you are always following what you believe will make you happy. Life is about change.
Even though I wouldn't have made the same choices if I could go back, I appreciate the perspective I've gained. I have wisdom now that I didn't have before, and I made friends I wouldn't have known otherwise. It feels overwhelming at first, feeling like it's "too late" after so long, but that's not true. Going off T does revert many things—body fat distribution, face shape, body hair thins out. It's a slow process, but taking steps at your own pace is key. Focusing on a new hobby or your current interests really helps take your mind off the heavy stuff.
This is my life, and I'm in it for the long haul. I'm following the path that makes me happiest now.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 18 | Started identifying as trans and began taking testosterone. |
| 18 | Period stopped one month after starting T. |
| Some point in my 20s | Had top surgery. |
| 26 | Stopped testosterone after 8 years and began detransitioning. |
| 26 | My period returned almost instantly after stopping T. |
Top Comments by /u/BobaBee-Tea:
I understand that feeling so well. I haven't been as open about wanting to transition back yet either because I don't want to hear it from my dad's very conservative side of the family. I don't speak with him but news will travel to him quickly and his resistance (read: asshole reaction) to my transition in the beginning makes me afraid of the "I told you so" as well because of embarrassment. It might help to write out exactly how you want to say it to your family, and have a thought-out response for IF they say it, so you can be prepared and tell them the way that kind of comment really hurts you. I don't know your family, but if they're supporting you now, I'm sure they'll support you on this too.
I'm in the same postion as you and am slowly telling the people around me as I get comfortable enough to do so. I also worry about the dreaded "I told you so" and I'll pass along the advice I found to be most helpful.
If someone says that, having a clear idea of what words you want to use in response is a good way to feel more prepared. You can tell them that you made your decisions based on YOU and only you. Their thoughts and opinions were never a factor in transitioning or detransitioning, and you are and always have been following what you believe will make you happy. Life is about change.
Yeah that's a lot of what I've been thinking about too. I think it's mostly because I also used to think like that throughout my transition which is why I wish I could make them see that they don't have to transition as a method of escape or to fit a certain mold. No one is completely "binary", and transition should be about aligning body with mind, not 'I hate dresses so obviously that means I'm not a woman.'
I had a somewhat similar situation, where I had a lot of insecurities and internalized mysogynistic beliefs that shaped how I felt about myself. There was no trauma that caused me to transition, but it was mostly because everyone around me hated women (including women) that I couldn't stand to be one myself. Now that I'm in my mid 20s, I'm not insecure about my looks and I don't care as much what others think anymore. I realized the trans identity for me was used as an escape from the other issues I was having. It sounds like maybe for you, it was a method of escape as well and you've just matured. You may still have things you need to work through, but I'm happy to hear that you feel so well now! It must feel like a breath of fresh air.
My heart goes out to you- I relate to many of your concerns and it feels comforting to hear from someone who was on T for more than a few months. I lived as a trans man for 8 years and felt like it was "too late" to transition back. But that's not true! It feels overwhelming at first, but take a deep breath and follow the path that will make you happiest because this is your life and you're in it for the long haul. Slow steps make it easier, and going off T does revert many things physically. Body fat distribution, face shape, thinner body hair, etc... I saw someone post about picking up some new hobby or focusing on your current interests- that's a really good suggestion. Something that helps you take your mind off the heavy stuff, and you can look for local or online groups to make friends. Take steps at your own pace and your own comfort level.
Well, it's totally fair to feel slighted by rude people, and there are definitely a lot of strongly opinionated and bitter people on this subreddit. But this is just a small community of individuals. It's not like this is the entirety of people who decided transition was wrong for them, and that the few people who commented on your posts make up the hivemind belief system of All Detrans. It's fine if you don't want to use a particular label for yourself, but make sure you are doing it based on how you feel inside and not because of some external stereotype created by one community. It's just unrealisitc.
I had the same concerns as you initially and I still have a ways to go to feel good about my voice again (I want to be able to not cringe when I hear how deep it is through recordings) but I've noticed that just doing passive vocal training and singing higher pitched to songs in the car, I am slowly able to reach higher notes more comfortably and I rarely get people calling me sir now. It's not an instant change but don't worry too much about it- you'll be able to get there even if it's a slow process. If you also focus on the way you carry your voice, that also really affects how a person is read as male or female. I used to struggle to keep my voice from rising and falling so much when I talk but now that I let myself talk that way again, it seems to not even matter as much that my voice is still deep. I believe in you
I was never on any sort of birth control, and my personal experience was that my period came back almost instantly after I stopped T. (It also went away the month after I started taking T) But I know that for most people, it can take at least a few months before having a regular period again and that spotting at first is normal. I'd say give it a couple more months and if it hasn't come back yet, try talking to a doctor about it to make sure everything is okay?
Oh this is a nice post! I'm still struggling with coming to terms with the decisions I made, I think the biggest thing is wisdom. Even though I wouldn't have made the same choice if I could go back in time, I appreciate the perspective I've gained and the knowledge I've learned through my experiences. There are also friends I wouldn't have gotten to know if not for transitioning. (I know this isn't about my body specifically, but more like how I perceive myself post-transition)
While I don't have personal experience in this particular issue (FtMtF), I do know that it's usually best to let your body recover its hormone levels naturally over time unless it's unable to. I think scheduling an appointment with a doctor is a good idea because they'll be able to monitor the changes better, and if you get someone who is experienced with having trans patients, they'll likely have more answers for your concerns too.