I've completely left the lesbian community because of it. I want nothing to do with them anymore. The second they started pushing the idea of girl dick and that you have to suck it up and fuck them, I peaced out. I'm an SA survivor, but it's obvious my feelings don't matter.

They completely lack self awareness and shove acceptance down our throats. A lot of the women that weren't comfortable have left those spaces. It does feel like whenever a new lesbian space opens up to hopefully give us some breathing room, it gets bombarded and smashed into submission. Then trans women take over. Still thinking like misogynistic and lesbophobic men, women should submit to them and be good girls about it.

It's like a toy aisle, one for boys, one for girls. If a girl likes something in the boys aisle, they must be trans. If a boy likes something in the girls aisle, they must be trans. Or at the very least, not conforming to current gender views.

It certainly feels like the world around us right now. If you don't 100% conform to a single gender, you must be something else. The fact they're accusing someone of being trans is pretty darn gross. We've been bombed right back to the 50s with this kind of ideology.

Sometimes it feels like I read things that come from crazy people on here. That's just straight up delusional as hell to even think about. How could you even start to do the mental gymnastics to convince yourself that believing you have any say about the subject? This is just bonkers.

Okay, let me just astral project my experience onto them.

You wake up throwing your guts up every month, and eating is touch and go. Even keeping liquids down is hard.

You lose so much blood you have anemia, so you have to take iron just so you don't die. Guess how hard this is when you can't keep anything in your stomach?

Your cramps are so bad you can pass out from the pain alone, and your doctors won't give you anything to help. The cysts on your ovaries like to pop and it feels like being stabbed repeatedly, and the knife is being twisted.

You're prescribed ever birth control pill available at one point or another. They don't help, if anything they make it worse. You also go from being a fit, 110 pounds to 200+ because of the meds in a matter of months.

This hell doesn't last for 4 - 5 days, it lasts for two weeks. You're PMSing almost all the time, so you're basically insane.

You have to fight for a year to get something done about it, going to see multiple gynecologists, getting dismissed because it's more important you be a human incubator.

Although you do have to threaten to kill yourself to get the point across that you're suffering, and you mean it. Your case is eventually discovered to be so bad that at 24, you get a radical hysterectomy. Everything is removed because it's a cancer risk. This is done during a time when it was basically unheard of doing on someone so young.

Is this really what they want? Do they actually think that they have anything even close to an opinion on the matter? The sheer audacity of these people. I just... I can't... This actually really pisses me off. I don't have anything nice to say anymore. I'm just so floored at the idea.

A really black and white way of thinking. If you're with them, you're a good person. If you're not 100% on board, you're a bad person. There's no grey area in this world.

We're seen as the enemy because we started seeing shades of grey to the whole thing, the nuances, the criticism, the good and the bad.

This is very much a culture that needs to be more willing to hear criticism and not put their fingers in their ears and declare any decention as people wanting them dead. Until that happens, we're going to be seen as the bad guys.

I feel this so hard. I partially thought I was trans because I did more masculine things. Once I got my underlying medical issues sorted out, I didn't want to be a man anymore. I wanted to just be my tomboy self. Tomboy erasure is definitely a thing, and anyone skirting gender norms have a line of nutcases all too ready to push their personal views onto them. We've basically walked backwards to the 50's. During my childhood there was a push to break down gender norms, now we've gone back to a very rigid definition of masculine and feminine. Go outside of it, and boom, you're trans.

Anecdotally, I got into blacksmithing/welding/metal fabrication, I had people trying to convince me I'm trans. It was all bullshit, they saw one side of me. When they saw me doing things like working on my car, metalwork, welding, and fishing, and dressing masculine while doing so, I would get the egg cracker crowd on my ass.

On the flip side, I'm feminine as hell. My favorite color is pink and it's everywhere in my home. I have a doll collection, wear pretty clothes, paint my nails, and basically am froofy as fuck. So I'm a chameleon of sorts lol.

The kind of people who try and get you to believe you're anything but yourself, are shit lords. They're the type of person that needs to be blocked online, and burn that bridge IRL.

Oh boy, this comment section is wild. You look great OP, and I'm glad you overcame your dysphoria and are in a better place.

People turn to higher powers for whatever reason they wish. If it helps them be a better person, or gives them peace, it's fine. I personally turned to druidism, with a mix of shamanism, and it helped me greatly. The fallen angel Crocell has been a huge help in healing as well.

Point being, a lot of us turn to a place that can teach us to live happier lives. Sometimes joining a community and feeling included can make people feel more grounded and better.

However the OP found a way to heal is fine by me. Let's just be happy someone is living without the dark cloud of dysphoria hanging over their heads.

If someone you love, trust their judgement, and only wants what's best for you, listen to them.

My mother was incredibly skeptical about me transitioning. For the years I was socially trans, she constantly pushed back. When my face broke out really bad to the point I didn't leave the house anymore, she took me to an endocrinologist. She must have suspected I had something more going on. That one appointment led to me being diagnosed with severe PCOS, I was getting too much testosterone and my body wasn't making enough estrogen. That same year I had a radical hysterectomy and instantly my dysphoria was gone. I have my caring, amazing mother and her skeptical view to thank for it.

That is such bullshit. I had it, but needed to have them (ovaries) surgically removed.

Having PCOS didn't magically make me more of a man. It made me a woman with a medical condition. Anybody who thinks otherwise needs to have a reality check. Intersex people are born intersex. Women with PCOS are born women, and develop the condition later on.

I had a breast reduction, but it was because I was in constant pain because of their size. If you feel it would help you, absolutely go for it.

I'm not gonna mince words here, the recovery absolutely blows horse snot. You have to wear a special type of bra for a month, and sleep on your back. It feels like your chest is going to fall off for the first week. The incisions are pretty gnarly to look at, I almost passed out the first time I saw them lol.

But... It's all just a memory now. It sucked going through it, but it's an experience that eventually passes.

The worst thing that happened was orange Jell-O. I got some in the recovery room, still high on anesthesia. It was the single most delicious thing I've ever had, ambrosia of the gods level. I've been chasing that orange dragon ever since lol.

I'm an artist as well, yes it's very annoying. I honestly think these people are blowing all this way out of proportion, and it's the reason so many people end up pushing back. They're getting sick of seeing it everywhere too, the apathy is real. I'm getting just... So tired of seeing the trans flag in everything. It feels more like it's a fad to be trans, or identify as a different gender. I hope it goes away like a fad sometime soon, because frankly I'm just tired of it.