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The user's comments are highly personal, emotionally varied (anger, empathy, depression, support), and reference specific, lived experiences with detransition, medical trauma, and mental health struggles. The language is nuanced and inconsistent in a way that reflects a genuine person, not a script. The passion and anger present are consistent with the experiences of many detransitioners and desisters.
About me
I was a teenage girl who never fit in and thought I was born in the wrong body. I later realized my discomfort was from mental health struggles and internalized misogyny, not from being male. I took testosterone for years, but stopped when I saw how it harmed my health and understood I was trying to escape sexism. Now, I'm learning to accept myself as a female by working on my self-esteem and depression. My journey taught me that biological reality matters and that I needed real mental health care, not just affirmation.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started when I was a teenager. I was a girl who never really fit in with the other girls. I had short hair, wore boxers and a mix of men's and women's clothes, and didn't own a bra. I thought I was just a tomboy, but looking back, I realize I had a lot of internalized misogyny. I had a great dad who showed me strong female role models, so I have no idea where the "I'm not like other girls" feeling came from, but it was strong. I genuinely believed I was born in the wrong body.
This was all made worse by my mental health. I've struggled with major depressive disorder, anxiety, and an eating disorder for most of my life. I now see that my discomfort with my body, especially during puberty when I hated my breasts, was tangled up with all of that. It wasn't a simple case of gender dysphoria; it was body dysmorphia and low self-esteem mixed with the normal awkwardness of growing up. I was deeply unhappy and looking for an escape, and transitioning seemed like the answer.
I started identifying as non-binary first, and then as a trans man. I was heavily influenced by what I saw online. I took testosterone for a few years. The effects were intense. It’s true what they say about it changing how you feel emotions. I found it much harder to cry, and my anxiety felt different. I also experienced a big increase in my sex drive, which was unsettling. I didn't get top surgery, but I was seriously considering it.
The turning point for me was when my physical health started to suffer. I heard about things like vaginal atrophy from testosterone, and it scared me. I saw how negligent doctors could be, prescribing hormones without fully considering a person's other medical conditions or mental health history. I’ve been prescribed medications that cancelled out my psych meds before, leaving me in shambles, so I know how dangerous that can be. I realized the medical path I was on was not as safe or reversible as everyone claimed.
I started to question everything. I saw the way women, including myself, are constantly hounded about our reproductive systems by doctors, and it felt invasive and disturbing. I began to understand that my problem wasn't with being female, but with how the world treats females. I was trying to escape sexism by becoming a man. That’s when I realized I needed to stop.
Detransitioning was about radical self-acceptance. It wasn't a failure; it was me finally being brave enough to face reality. I had to work on my underlying issues—my depression, my eating disorder, my low self-esteem. I’ve found that avoiding mirrors helps me not fixate on my appearance. I’m trying to learn to enjoy my own company and realize that I'm actually pretty good company. My value isn't in how I look.
I don't regret my transition entirely because it led me to where I am now, but I regret that I wasn't given better care. I needed therapy that explored my trauma and mental health, not therapy that just affirmed my gender identity without question. I believe that kind of non-affirming therapy would have helped me sooner.
My thoughts on gender now are that biological reality matters. You can present however you want—I still have a masculine style—but we can't dismiss the facts of our bodies. I've seen trans people like Buck Angel and Blaire White acknowledge their biological sex with humor and honesty, and I respect that. Clothes are just clothes. Who you are is what's important. We can't control how other people perceive us, and we have to find a way to be okay with that.
This whole issue has become so political, and it shouldn't be. I consider myself a liberal, but I see how the current ideology can be like a cult, silencing anyone who disagrees. I saw people online trying to erase detransitioners, claiming our experiences aren't real or that everything is reversible. It's cruel and deluded.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14-17 | Felt intense discomfort during puberty. Hated my breasts and developed an eating disorder. Identified as a tomboy. |
| 18 | Started identifying as non-binary, influenced heavily by online communities. |
| 21 | Began identifying as a trans man and started testosterone. |
| 23-24 | Began to question my transition due to negative mental and physical health effects. Realized I had internalized misogyny. |
| 25 | Stopped testosterone. Began the process of detransitioning and focusing on my underlying mental health. |
Top Comments by /u/BourdeauMaison:
I consider myself a liberal aside from the trans thing because why tf has that even become a political focus? I found the Jubilee video insufferable. They singled out Blaire and treated her terribly. She’s a trans woman. Her voice matters. Her thoughts and feelings count. I also don’t understand why they had NB people there to talk about bathrooms because WHY
Others have given plenty of solid advice and reassurance. The only thing I have to say - and this serves everyone in the world - is that: we cannot control how other people perceive us. Don’t get too hung up on how strangers may read you. Both you and the people who know you are firmly aware of who and what you are. You’re probably a total babe, anyway, so don’t beat yourself up just because you don’t see it yet <3
Please don’t commit toaster bath, darling. Your people thought they were doing was was kind. (And politically correct. When none of this should have become a political issue to begin with. Liberals are “leaving the left” over this singular issue because trans/gender identity ideology have become a threat to liberal values. So lifelong liberals and democrat will run into the arms of a party that only pretends to care about women in order to shit on trans people)
we don’t believe something so terrible can be real until is actually happens
FACTS 📠 our brains do this to protect ourselves. It’s not because people don’t care. When we perform the version of ourselves that people are accustomed to, they will see us being jovial and believe our suffering has passed. They straight up just don’t know until they know.
We cannot control how other people perceive us. Perhaps try to focus on things outside of yourself and your appearance. I have found avoiding mirrors to be a big help with my eating disorder so I can do all of the typical life stuff without bothering with what I look like. Looks aren’t that important. Who you are IS.
I saw (on tiktok, my bad for using that app) a lot of people attempting to silence, suppress, and erase the entire existence of detransitioners using wild claims of “most trans people aren’t affirmed, they’re sent to conversion therapy programs!” “That’s not happening!” And other insistence that “there’s nothing wrong with detransitioning! It’s all reversible!” The deluded cruelty is bizarre.
I don’t have any advice other than accepting reality and working on yourself are the best choice - whatever that looks like for you. I’ve seen Buck Angel laugh and say, “I’m a woman!” while looking like a Gen Z dad. And I’ve seen Blaire White say, “I’m a man” with a cackle while she looks like a beautiful woman. Present however you are most comfortable, but please don’t dismiss biological reality. We want you to be happy and healthy.
I wish I could hug you or hold and squeeze your hand. Please never forget that you are valuable as a person, partner, friend, family member. Allow yourself to feel the way you’re feeling. Try to let those feelings wash over you like the ocean waves when you’re standing shoulder deep in the surf. Multiple fulfilling experiences and paths exist for you, and you will find the one(s) that suit you best.
Also, maybe reach out to Uncle Buck Angel if you’re up to sharing your experiences with a compassionate trans man? He will listen privately, he won’t abuse you for content like some other people might
God, the way they hound women about our fucking menstrual cycles is disturbing. I went to the ER for Covid and the nurse asked me what was the first day of my last menstrual cycle. I went to a different doctor appointment for something else, and they needed to do tests. Asked me about my cycle, when was my last period, am I sexually active, is there any chance you might be pregnant? I answered with the date and gave an honest, “no” to the other questions. They pregnancy tested my urine without my knowledge or consent. The doctor came in and said, “you’re not pregnant” and I said I KNOW. “What are you doing about birth control?” I haven’t had sex in over a year, does that count?!
Is there any way you can reach out to Buck Angel? Vaginal atrophy almost killed him. He might have an idea on how to navigate this situation because the first thing you need to do is take care of your body. Survive. Take down the negligent doctor once you’re healthy.