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About me
I started feeling uncomfortable with my body as a teenager when I developed breasts and thought transitioning would fix everything. I now see that my feelings were tangled up with untreated OCD and depression, and I used the idea of being a different gender as an escape. After starting therapy, I realized my problem was with society's rigid gender roles, not with being female. I'm grateful I never had surgery, and I'm learning to accept my body as a masculine woman. My journey taught me that I needed self-acceptance, not medical changes.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was a teenager. I was deeply uncomfortable with my body, especially when I went through puberty and developed breasts. I hated them. I thought my life would be better without them, that it would fix everything. I now see that was a false belief, probably fueled by a lot of other issues I was dealing with.
Looking back, I realize a lot of my feelings were tangled up with other problems. I have OCD, which I never got treated for as a kid. I’m in weekly therapy for it now, and it’s helping me untangle my thoughts. I also think I used the idea of being a different gender as a form of escapism from depression and low self-esteem. It felt like an escape hatch from all the things I didn't like about myself or my life.
I saw a lot of this play out online. I remember watching other people transition and thinking that the ones who just wanted to look like a specific, unrealistic ideal—like an anime character—weren't thinking about the real, permanent changes. I noticed the people who were more likely to stick with it long-term were the ones who actually wanted the full effects of testosterone, like getting hairy or even going bald. For me, it was more about wanting to get rid of parts of myself I disliked.
My thinking on what gender even is has completely changed. I now believe gender is a complete social construct. It’s not something you’re born with. It’s the made-up rules that say boys like blue and should be aggressive, and girls like pink and should be submissive. These rules change depending on your culture, your religion, or what time period you live in. It’s all nonsense and it’s harmful. The goal shouldn't be to create more boxes for people to fit into, but to get rid of the boxes entirely. A woman can have a buzzcut, wear men's clothes, and not shave, and she's still a woman. That’s what I am—a masculine woman.
I never ended up getting any surgeries, but I thought about top surgery a lot. I’m grateful now that I didn’t. I’ve been trying to reframe how I see my body. It sounds silly, but I used to rehab baby birds, and I’d keep them warm in my cleavage. In those moments, I was actually happy to have breasts because they were useful for something I loved doing. I’m trying to hold onto that positive feeling.
I do have serious concerns about the medical side of transition, especially for young people. I think the idea of blocking puberty is insane because it’s not just about sexual development; it’s about a person’s entire development into an adult. And the surgeries… I believe doctors are using vulnerable people as guinea pigs for a paycheck. There are so many stories of people losing basic functions or being left with terrible results. It disgusts me.
As for regrets, I don’t regret exploring these feelings because it led me to where I am now, which is a much more secure and peaceful place. But I do regret the years I spent thinking there was something fundamentally wrong with me that needed to be fixed medically, when what I really needed was to work on my mental health and learn to accept myself as a woman who doesn't fit the stereotypical mold.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started puberty; began feeling intense discomfort with my developing breasts. |
| 15-16 | Started identifying as non-binary online as a form of escapism from depression. |
| 17 | Seriously considered top surgery but did not pursue it. |
| 19 | Began to question the ideology of transition; started therapy for OCD. |
| 20 | Realized my discomfort was with gender roles, not my sex; stopped identifying as trans. |
| 21 | Fully embraced being a gender non-conforming woman. |
Top Comments by /u/BuggieFrankie:
The sex with the potential to create ovum, one of two gametes the human species can produce. Keyword is potential. Whether they could in the past bc of menopause or had cancer that took their ovaries or were born with an intersex disorder, there was a potential to create ovum. The end.
Despite whatever your personal feelings are towards the trans community, it has to disgust us what doctors are willing to do for a paycheck. They're using vulnerable people as guinea pigs. Yeah, there are success stories, but there are so many many failures as well. People are losing urinary, fecal and sexual function. People are developing fistulas. People have results that are absolutely unsatisfactory in both aesthetic and function. I understand the want to have bottom surgery, but for doctors to do it is insane when you can't 100% promise that this person won't become disabled by the surgeries.
100%. People always say we're weird for bringing this up, but it's not? How is caring about a future adults sexual pleasure weird? Or caring about their ability to have biological children once they're an adult? Caring about putting people through a surgery that has many risks and negative outcomes? If we can't stop childhood puberty blockers, HRT and surgery, the least we can do is minimize damage done.
1000000% my experience. I remember thinking, the ftms who wanted to be basically anime twinks, were not gonna last long when T made them fat, hairy and bald. You knew the T guys were gonna be long term when they were looking forward to balding and hairy toes lol.
But seriously, very succinct break down and one I saw EVERYWHERE
I will never have the intelligence or eloquence to phrase this correctly, but while trans ideology isn't steeped in religion, it is a carbon copy of western xtianity. Don't ask questions, accept what the leader has said. It doesn't make sense because you don't believe hard enough. If you really were good, this wouldn't be difficult for you. 1+1=5 and if you don't believe that, maybe you were never really a true believer.
Gender is made up. Every culture, religion, time period and area has their own idea of what gender is, which is why it changes. In the west, gender is girls like pink and boys like blue. In ancient china, gender was female foot binding. In medieval muslim culture, gender was something else entirely. It's made up and not inherent to the sexes. It's pushed upon us but no girl in the USA is born loving pink over blue.
It's not biological and actually harmful. Women have to be submissive and waifish. Men have to be unfeeling and aggresive. It benefits no one. Adding more gender boxes doesn't help anyone. The way to go is to eliminate gender entirely. Let people do what they want without any expectations because of what they have in their pants. No labels, no rules on what can or cannot be done. Let women fish and have buzzcuts, not because they're actually male, but bc women can do that. Let boys wear dresses and lipstick, not because they're now adhereing to the female gender role but because anyone can do that. It's all nonsense and the left wants to make more rigid boxes as opposed to riding ourselves of em.
I am a masculine woman (besides doing my nails sometimes haha). I wear boy clothes. Don't shave. Have a masculine hair cut. And guess what? Still a woman :) ladies! You can look and act ANY WAY you want and still be a woman. There's nothing in our dna that says we must like pink and dresses.
Funnily enough, I used to rehab baby birds and when busy doing things, would keep them in my cleavage so I could keep an eye on them + warm them up. I haven't rehabbed in years though so I need to remember that these boobs have rehabbed countless baby birds. I know it sounds silly and dumb but during those times, I was happy to have breasts. So, I need to get back into rehabbing
I personally believe that as long as you accept GNC people and that trans people will exist (not whether you believe in the ideology but that there are some people who will want to live their life as the opposite sex and that you don't want them to be the victims of bigotry) then you aren't transphobic.
People never mention what that doctor did to the twins. Full blown medical malpractice, medical abuse and sexual abuse. We can never know how David's mental health would've turned out without that doctor messing his brain up. Regardless, what happened to him was awful and not a success story