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About me
I was born female and started identifying as a man in my early twenties, influenced by depression and discomfort with being a gay woman. I took testosterone for years and had top surgery, changes I now see as permanent solutions to temporary feelings. Detransitioning has been harder than transitioning, especially the legal battle to change my documents back to female. Through it all, I've always been queer and my sense of self hasn't changed much. While I have regrets about the permanent consequences, the journey ultimately led me to a better understanding of myself.
My detransition story
My journey with transition and detransition has been long and complicated. I was born female and I started identifying as a man in my early twenties. A lot of my discomfort began in puberty; I hated developing breasts and the changes my body was going through. Looking back, I think a lot of this was tied to a deep-seated low self-esteem and depression that I didn't understand at the time. I also struggled with internalized homophobia; I think part of me was uncomfortable with the idea of being a gay woman, and transitioning felt like an escape from that.
I took testosterone for several years. It changed my body a lot. My face shape changed, my features got bigger and wider, like my forehead, nose, and jaw, which I now see as more masculine. I also grew facial hair. When I decided to detransition and stop taking T, one of my biggest worries was whether these changes would reverse. I've been asking others about their experiences with things softening back to a more feminine state because it gives me hope. Detransitioning has felt much harder than transitioning was, mostly because there are so few voices and examples out there to guide you.
I had top surgery and I do have some regrets about it. It was a permanent solution to a feeling that, for me, turned out to be temporary. I am now infertile from the hormones, which is another permanent consequence I have to live with.
Legally, transitioning was a huge hassle, and detransitioning is proving to be even more of one. All of my legal documents—my driver's license, birth certificate, everything—say I am male. I'm an American citizen and a veteran, and the current political climate has me genuinely scared. I worry about traveling with a passport that says "male" when I am detransitioning back to female. I'm concerned about my rights and how I might be treated. I've had to contact lawyers and even state politicians to try and navigate reversing my legal gender change. It's a confusing, expensive, and emotionally draining process that no one warns you about when you first change your documents.
Through all of this, my sense of self hasn't changed that much. I've always been queer. My feelings about gender expression were queer before I transitioned, and they still are now that I'm detransitioning. I don't feel like I'm leaving a community behind; I'm just changing how I exist within it.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's incredibly complex. For me, my transition was influenced by a lot of factors that I didn't fully process at the time—trauma, depression, and not being comfortable in my own skin. I benefited from therapy that wasn't just about affirming a new gender identity, but that helped me work through these deeper issues.
I do have regrets. I regret the permanent changes to my body and the legal nightmare I'm now dealing with. But I don't regret the journey entirely because it led me to a better understanding of who I am.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 23 | Started socially identifying as a man and using a new name. |
| 24 | Began taking testosterone. |
| 26 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 28 | Stopped testosterone. Began the process of detransitioning. |
| 29 | Began the lengthy and ongoing process of legally changing my name and gender back to female. |
Top Comments by /u/Business-Month-2309:
I would like to post an update:
This morning I submitted a message on the state website about it and she personally called me and told me that they were typos and she didn’t mean to hurt me the way she did. And she understands the severity of the typo she made in her haste to reply to the letter.
She then gave me a few more politicians and addresses to send letters to that won’t be as slammed with inquiries.
I FEEL like she’s being genuine and truthful based on how emphatically she apologized and claimed ownership.
This does make me glad to know that Ohio does monitor correspondence on their website.
I took the time to explain to her about my previous poor experience and that this is an extremely niche issue that not a lot of politicians or people understand because they jump to conclusions without paying attention.
If she’s being honest I feel silly for getting so worked up over things but I’m glad it’s not as bad as when I went to my county court.
Yaoi isn’t made for gay men. It’s made for women. Which makes none of that surprising. It’s already a fetish fantasy FOR women. Like lesbian porn made for men.
Neither of those are spaces for gay people. They’re spaces for straight people with fantasies.
A lawyer can technically reverse the judgement by petitioning the court (basically the judge agrees to rescind and old case number) but it’s gonna be very expensive and hopefully I can find a lawyer who won’t run from me because of the buzz around “trans people”.
And then hope the agencies honor her reversing the judgement.
And yeah it’s a weird thing they don’t tell you when you make the change. It’s not even on the county site where I looked
Personally if I’m able to legally transition back and do transition, I’ll still feel just as queer as I was when I was trans.
I was already queer before I transitioned because of how I felt about gender expression. Why would I change that??
You can still engage in that community if you choose to.
Thank you I really appreciate the perspective. How much facial hair did you have if you don’t mind me asking? And how long would you say it took before you noticed things softening after you got off T?
The big thing people say to me is that my face looks (sharper) than before but I feel like everything just got bigger or wider. Like my forehead, nose, jaw, etc.
Which isn’t horrible but is definitely more masculine leaning.
Yeah I’ll write the senator and also let my doctor at the VA know. She’s on the board that interacts with the representatives in the White House for the gender stuff Trump put out.
I’m just….defeated. Because right now all my documents are the same. They say male. But I wanna travel which makes me feel like I should get my passport and not detransistion but I’m also seeing what’s going on with ICE and minority rights and I worry about them doing extreme to trans people.
If he forces all the documents to revert at the same time I don’t have to worry about it. But I’m concerned he won’t make them do that and expect trans people to just live with the complications.
I’m an American citizen and a veteran and I just feel like my rights are on the line because I decided to transition in the past.
This sucks and I’m scared.
That’s really good to hear thank you. Also I would appreciate if you did just because seeing other women who have detransitioned makes me feel like there’s hope for me. The entire thing is really daunting and it’s oddly much harder than transitioning for me. I think because there’s less detrans voices out there publicly posting their results.