Way to downplay other people's experiences and attack women who were confused. Most "trans men" pay a price that most "trans women" don't. A lot of these women cut off their boobs and can never be able to nurse any children they will want in the future. Their suffering is real. Their pain matters, and they have a voice too. I also noticed they only attack women detransitioners. it seems like they have a hidden hatred and envy of natural born women. A lot of "trans women" are actually jealous of women because they perceive that women have an easier life and their envious of the attention women get. People like this have to downplay the suffering of others under this delusion because it makes them have to face a painful reality; this person is lost. Deep in the unrelenting hive of enablers, sycophants, sexual deviants. Only when they wake up will they know the truth, and from then on, they will have to make a decision; either they will continue to lie to themselves or they will have to accept the truth.

You move on and take it one day at a time. Take your licks and take responsibility for your actions. Apologize to the people you might have reeled into your larp of madness and seek forgiveness from the people in your life. Seek forgiveness from the friends and family that didn't play along, the ones that you dismissed or deemed "transphobic" for not engaging in your madness. Humble yourself and man up to what you need to face.

Then, when you're done with that; learn to forgive yourself. You were sick in the head, and you were probably convinced due to the influences of gender ideology; but you made it out. Think about all the ones that didn't and never will, especially given the endless stream of sycophants, enablers, and sexual degenerates cheering them on. To the outside world, it was wish fulfillment, dressing up, maybe even roleplaying a fetish; but in truth, it was madness. Understand that when people saw you in that state, anyone with good sense saw only reasons to keep themselves, their friends and family far away from whatever took hold of your mind; but you're out now. Take responsibility for yourself and take your place as the man you were always meant to be and move forward; that's all you can do. Believe it or not, this world needs you in it. Despite whatever you've done in the past, do well to resist the urge of turning yourself into a pinata over this; there's a whole life to be lived outside of the madness. Take whatever time you have to improve your situation. Work out, read books, hang out with other men, find a mentor, maybe even seek religion if you're interested in that.

No. There is only male and female. There are intersex people as well, but that is extremely rare; that's more of a genetic defect than a mysterious third sex. Feelings about what you should be are unreliable and subject to change based on circumstances such as social environment, socioeconomic status, religious influence, cultural influences, biological changes in the body, personal introspection, personal insecurities, and physical development. No matter what, these factors don't make you a different sex and entertaining the possibility of that is what got most of us here in the first place. It is possible to cut your sensitive bits off and larp as whatever you want and find happiness while deeply embroidered in your delusions, but that doesn't make it real. You are what you are, and the idea of a "real trans" somewhat invalidates the people here who are suffering and have suffered under that notion. Most of us believed it wholeheartedly and sacrificed our physical and mental health, relationships with family and friends, our sanity, and dignity because we believed it to be true. Either it's all true and valid across the board, or none of it is; full stop.

I honestly relate to this post. Both my parents worked all day, so when I was 10 years old; I had unrestricted access to the internet. One day, I found out about internet porn; I was fascinated by it. I didn't know what sex even was, but it was hyped up as the most greatest thing to do. when I became a teenager, sex was considered a rite of passage into manhood. If you didn't lose your virginity by age 18, then you were a loser. Little did I know that was a lie, and most of the men lied about their first time. When it happened, how it happened, or even I'd it happened at all. I quit porn 2 years ago.

It sounds like you're struggling with impulse control, At this point, you're probably not even chasing the climax; I think you're chasing how good your first climax felt. How much pleasure you derived from the first few times you've janked your crank; you're chasing dragons bud. You're chasing something long gone, and you'll never get it again. There's always a cost to everything we do. There's always a price to pay. Every action has an opposite and equal reaction. The words we say and the things we do or don't do. You may not be religious any, but their is true evil in this world; their are forces outside of our notice and perceptions that bind and destroy. Whatever you want to call that is up to you, however Denial of these forces, whatever you call them, is a denial of reality. That same denial of reality has led up all here.

Virgin males tend to be overly attracted to the female form. it starts as a curiosity, then exploration through sex, then clarity. However, if the virgin male never has sex and only has illustrations or videos to satisfy those curiosities, then over time, that will alter your perspective on what sex is and corrupt your thinking. Self femininization kinks of virgin men typically spring from a rejection of your own masculinity. Its actions formed through the idea that your current masculine frame is inadequate or insecure. What also pushes virgin men down this road is the lack of experience with women. Virgin men tend to have a grandiose view of women. They tend to overly sexualize women because most of their interaction with women is sexual or visual sexual. So when you start thinking of yourself as a woman, you automatically think of yourself as a sexy woman, and you get turned on.

Porn is free overall because you pay with your attention, your time, your relationships with women, your relationships with your family, your connection with others, and worst of all, you pay with your soul. Their are men in their 20s and 30s currently having erectile disfunction problems due to their addiction to porn. as a man, that's a fate worse than death.

I urge you to take a break from porn when you feel horny, instead of getting on the apps; get on your knees. Pray for God to heal you from this affliction; maybe even read the bible for a few chapters. If you aren't religious any, then I'd suggest working out whenever you're horny. do some push-ups, sit-ups, lift weights, or heavy things in the house, crunches, tire yourself out, and take a shower; it will tamper your desires. You need to learn how to deny yourself in this world. Deny instant gratification and let positivity into your life. Eat right, work hard, study hard, struggle, sweat, suffer today, or suffer tomorrow. Put down the phone sometimes, take the time to learn about others, and form deep bonds with them. if you continue down this path, there is only darkness, loneliness, and despair. You will be lost in nonstop hedonistic pleasures, only tempered by your waning morality. You will push further and further, trying to chase the first nut only to find nothing. Anything worth having has a cost and is worth working towards. Porn is free and easy to access because it truly has nothing for you. It adds no value to your life. If anything, it takes value away. Remember that and you'll be able to kick this thing.

I think it's due to the idea of focusing on crafting not only your own view of yourself but also controlling other people's perceptions of you. Not only do I see myself as this, but everyone else will see me as this, and they will acknowledge me as such, and they will respect me, and they will find me attractive, and they will sexualize me but not specifically because I'm trans but because I'm such an amazing person, and I want the world to constantly validate me forever. It's always me, me, me, I, I, I. I don't think being "trans" makes you narcissist. I think the "trans" label attracts already narcissistic people because it's protected by the institutions, the culture, and most of the media and social media. The label can provide you opportunities they haven't earned and garners them attention they think they deserve. Being "trans" requires no effort on your part to demonstrate because "every trans identify is valid." So everyone is special and unique. Everyone is automatically entitled to respect no matter who you are or what you do. Everyone automatically deserves congratulations and validations, and graduations. This is essentially true about Male to Female transgenders. They perceive women's lives to be inharently easier, there's a deep seated pussy envy; they want whatever power they believe women have access to because most of them as themselves are small and insignificant. A lot of them want what women have. They want it all, and they want to take the place of women; little do they know the only ones that actually want them are people who have a fetish for them. Most people don't actually believe they are women. They just go along with it around them so they can either get what they want or keep their jobs. The narcissist types grab at anything and everything that gives them as much power as possible with as little responsibility and work required to maintain that power. That's why most of them are terminally online because online, you can be anyone or anything you want to be; and there will always be an endless supply of enablers, sycophants, and sexual degenerates who are more than willing to gleefully encourage it. Of course, then there's the narcissists that play along with the delusions to feel an inflated sense of virtue, the "outspoken ally" that seeks out causes and "marginalized" people to increase their social standing as long as other people are watching. To them, you aren't a person who is autonomous; you're an accolade, a token, a means of feeling superior. So when two narcissistic forces meet each other, it becomes a self feeding cycle, an endless stream of parasitic, parasocial narcissists feeding off each other to carry on their delusions.

Indigenous tribes just like people of today, are vulnerable to delusions as well. They often use natural psychedelics such as psilocybin in their rituals. They believed what they were experiencing were visions from their deities or their ancestors. The early Japanese tribes also played with the idea of gender bending. The Incas and Aztecs also believed it to be possible. No doubt all these people believed in the idea of a man with a woman's spirit or a half man/half woman hybrid; however, these things are not actually possible in the physical world. We can only change cosmetically, and the biochemistry can only be altered through constant chemical intervention. These changes do not occur and maintain themselves naturally. when we play in the world of subjective, we tend miss more interesting truth in front of us. Typically, in these historic references, they represent the body as if it's a shell or a prison that traps the soul, something that can be abandoned through spiritual enlightenment or astral projection. (Sounds very familiar) I have learned that the body isn't a prison. It's a temple. A vessel that requires constant maintenance and care. I'm in no way trying to belittle the beliefs of others, I'm just saying that just because a group of people believe something doesn't necessarily make it actually real.

You know, I'd say that's part of it; however, there's another factor that comes into play. I think transgenderism as a concept is rooted in mostly escapism and wish fulfillment. Typically, when people view themselves as a different sex; they believe that the aspect of being the opposite sex will make their circumstances different and by proxy better. They believe they will have better outcomes in life and find their "true selves" whatever that means. There's lots of sexual overtones to the trans community, and part of the escapism is to escape to meet their sexual desires. I've seen many "trans women" who have actively confessed to wanting to transition so they can either let their staight guy friends fuck them or have "lesbian sex." Now whether that's due to biological desires or sexual trauma; who can really say? Speaking of trauma, in terms of escapism; many biological women have wanted to transition because they are trying to escape being a woman due to sexual violence. Some of them believe that the only reason they got victimized is because they are women. They don't want to feel as helpless and vulnerable as they were when those atrocities happened. As a result, some of them reject feminity wholesale, and they go down the "trans man" rabbit hole. These are far from the only factors at play, but from what I've seen; very often, being "trans" is a form of escapism. It's a rejection of what is in favor of a comforting delusion. Given that truth, I can see why people can and often do make parallels to religion when it comes to being "trans."

If you're in this subreddit; then I think subconsciously, you already accepted the possibility. A very radical section of the lgbt community has done away with the idea of a tomboy. When i was growing up, many young ladies grew up not playing with dolls and had more fun with boys. A lot of women used to work on cars with their dad's or roughhouse with their brothers and guy friends. But back in 2016, they were saying things like, "If you like playing sports with guys, then you must be trans like me." Their Always projecting. Anyway, the best thing for you is to do is seek therapy or help for the sexual violence you experienced at a young age. I've noticed a really strong predictor of rejection of a persons sex is sexual violence at a young age. If you find closure in that part, things will become clearer.

This must be your first day on reddit. Welcome to my vent, that you're weirdly trying to tone police. Well, since this is your first day on reddit, i should tell you that vents tend to sound unhinged, and perhaps I am; especially if I'm able to believe what I once did. I'd imagine that would require some kind of issues, mental, physical, or emotional; so I agree with you there. I wasn't trying to compare suffering from transitioning, and I don't appreciate the implications there, as if my reaction isn't warranted considering the fact that I was groomed into it at an early age like a lot of us were. I will say it is fortunate that I didn't cut anything off or go on hormones. maybe if that did happen; I would have been able to check all your boxes for you to personally deem me worthy of venting about my personal situation in the way I did. I guess I just didn't make my trans sufferage quota. Also, it would behoove you to not try to downplay my experience despite not knowing the other details of what took place. See when people vent about something they tend not to talk about every gross detail. It's probably fine, It's not like acting on extremely limited information has ever caused any harm, especially for most of the people on this subreddit; including me. "At most" well at most you can allow for others to have their say about their own personal experiences without calling people names. At most, you could not try to compare experiences with others with the intent to downplay the trauma of others. At most, you could not make yourself out to be a jackass online. I did advocate for civil discussion, but you might have missed that part at the end. I understand. the vent is long, and reading to understand is hard. I wasn't trying to trauma dump too much. However, my vent had a point in the end that I thought other people in this subreddit could relate to which is why i shared it, but it's good to know I was overreacting; and maybe I am. Anger just isn't the right response. Action is so I'm moving on; however, I had to get that off my chest because I figured this was a space created to talk about these issues openly and without harsh judgment; my mistake.

You can have your opinion on this. You don't deserve to be canceled or outcasted because of it. You have your opinion, and that's fine; but please be open to the opposition as well since this topic flair is labeled discussion. Unfortunately, it's not as simple as allowing the surgeries and hormones in a vacuum because either side will push their agenda on it one way or another. For example: celebrities with high status amongst young people will often promote it, saying it's empowering and amazing to do; as a result, they get a bunch of praise from the media. In some cases in the west, they get endorsement deals, attention, in some cases, harolded as a hero. You'll also get some hate along the way as well. This conversation is inharently contentious because we are talking about something as serious as the medical castration and butchering of mostly young adults and teens while the pharmaceutical companies actively profit off of people's insecurities; then the doctors systematically ditching patients when their surgeries are completed. We are talking about the use of puberty blockers and HRT treatments that have been proven to have a chance to sterilize people for life and in conjunction with the surgeries; making people lifetime medical patients as long as they can pay and the resources never run dry. When you really think about it, staying on the path of transition for life is just eugenics due to the chemical castration and actual neutering of the mentally ill and to add insult to injury we pay them hundreds of thousands of dollars to do it to us. The problem is that these procedures are performed under the idea of "changing your sex" or "putting you in the body you were supposed to be in." That premise opens the door for people who are already insecure and impressionable to seek it out. also, as you know, there is an outstanding degree of medical malpractice when it comes to "trans healthcare" due to its vague nature and how relatively new it is. There are only males and females, with the rare outliers of intersex people. and the problem with allowing this to go on is that laws have to be made accommodating it as well. It's not enough to have the surgeries. Most people who fully or even partially transition actually want to be addressed legally as their new identity. It's not enough to be seen that way for most. Naturally, that means their rights and privileges need to change as well. There's danger on both ends of that, and we've seen it first hand.

I don't want to misrepresent the argument presented but It sounds to me like you want to live in this fantasy middleground world where all this should still be available to the masses as is, and the laws won't have to change or accommodate it. For example: a man who's had HTR treatments still competing with other men in sports and getting destroyed as a result. Or a man who had bottom surgery committing a crime and still being locked away with other men; as if being the only male with a "neo pussy" in that setting wouldn't automatically make you a target.

We've already seen that making the laws accommodate someone's gender identity wholesale has actively made a lot of the general public unsafe just to elevate a feeling in an individuals head; despite the fact that they are mentally ill with powerful delusions. I wish we did live in a world where people could larp as whatever they wanted, and nobody else has to even deal with it; however if the laws and privilege around your identity aren't accommodated then the changes made to your body are moot because then they can't fully live as what they want to be. a lot of us don't detrans halfway through. Now that the laws and privileges have changed, we have now involved the general public in this as well. according to recent events, the public wants nothing to do with it; the vast majority of people don't believe a feeling in your head should justify all this preferential treatment, people don't want to go along with what's in our heads and feel like they shouldn't lose their whole livelihoods for not wanting to play along. It's not just about the individual anymore. The only benefit being in the closet had for trans people was that you had the general right to privacy and anonymity. That genie isn't going back in the bottle, our people broke the henges off the closet door and stood loud and proud; in many cases, a vocal minority of lgbt displayed their private fetishes and degenerate bedroom behavior in the streets for the world to see without shame or community wide admonishment. Our "leaders" organized with a political party and voted in our favor while ostracizing the majority, and any push back from the masses was automatically deemed "transphobic." A life ruining label we used very liberally to deter detractors. Our "advocates" lobbied for these surgeries and hormone treatments to be available to children, promoted pro-lgbt books in high schools and if parents refused or questioned it, the government could take away their kids and take them in state custody. We showed our hand politically and our asses for them to kiss, and those chickens have come home to roast. No matter where you stand politically, right, wrong, or indifferent; most people want nothing to do with any of that and have voted in mass accordingly. We are long past a "middleground." Real life isn't a Jubilee video.

Like it or not, being "trans" has a larger implications on the general population and the world. Men and women are not the same or interchangeable in most cases. Top surgery does have a medical purpose to it outside of cosmetic transition; it helps treat breast cancer amongst women. Top surgery is needed in society for medical purposes. I understand your anecdotal experience might have worked out for you, and I'm glad you're happy. However, allowing this opens the door for everything else that comes with it. We can't allow the surgeries and the hormone treatments without the changes in documentation. For those changes in documentation to be valid; the laws have to change, which in turn involves and affects others. It's not an individual by individual thing. Most people who transition will want their changes to be considered valid in the eyes of the law, or you'll run into bigger problems down the road. As far as I'm concerned, I don't think "transgender healthcare" as it is helps most people subject to it; most of us just needed therapy and a strong support system, not hormone treatments and expensive and experimental surgeries. There are people every day who suffer from these immoral medical practices. In my opinion, this shouldn't have gotten this far or been attempted in the first place; men are men, and women are women. You're born into what you are; and the sooner we learn to deal with that, the better life will become. Appealing to our delusions and what "should be" over accepting reality and what's actually true is how we got here in the first place.