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The user's posts display:
- Personal, emotionally charged narratives about their own transition and detransition experience, including specific regrets and reflections on medical harm.
- Consistent internal logic in their arguments against transition, rooted in their lived experience and a critique of gender ideology.
- Nuanced and empathetic engagement with others, acknowledging the complexity of the issue and the pain of those who have had surgery.
- Idiosyncratic language patterns (e.g., "T-id," "abt," "bamn") that are consistent across posts, suggesting a real person rather than generated text.
The passion and anger present are consistent with a genuine detransitioner or desister who feels they were harmed.
About me
I was a feminine boy who never fit in, and I transitioned at 19 to escape my anxiety and depression. I took testosterone, which gave me terrible brain fog, and I deeply regret not addressing my mental health first. Seeing the difficult realities of surgery online was a major moment that made me start questioning everything. I stopped hormones and realized I was running from my problems, not solving them. I now believe you don't need to change your body to be your true, whole self.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was a teenager. I was a feminine boy who never really fit in with other boys. I felt excluded from male groups from childhood all the way into adulthood, and I think that loneliness and the pressure to fit in played a huge part in what happened next. I started to believe that my discomfort with puberty and my body was because I was supposed to be a woman. I now see that a lot of it was just low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression that I was trying to escape from.
When I was 19, I decided to transition. I started taking testosterone. I truly believed it was the only way to fix the way I felt. The hormones gave me a lot of brain fog; it made my thinking cloudy and it felt like I was in a haze. I was so deep in the ideology that I didn't properly research the risks. I think doctors and online communities were afraid of being called transphobic, so they never really talked about how difficult, messed up, and dangerous physical transition can be, or the real possibility of detransitioning later on.
Looking back, I think a lot of my drive to transition was influenced by internalized homophobia. If I had felt it was okay to be a feminine man, I don't think I would have ever started. I believe the whole idea that you need medical treatment to be your true self is a result of a sexist society. Without that pressure, I could have learned to be comfortable just as I am.
I never got surgery, and I am so grateful for that now. When I was identifying as trans, I went into online spaces and asked people who had gotten bottom surgery if they were happy with their results. It was heartbreaking. Most of them, if not all, seemed to be lying to themselves just to cope. It’s disturbing to see people spend all their savings to get something that only resembles a natural organ, especially when the ideology says you don’t need it to be a man or a woman. Seeing that was a big moment of reflection for me.
I started to detransition a few years after starting testosterone. I realized I was running away from my problems and that changing my gender didn't solve anything. Letting go of that identity was strange. It feels like I lost that time of my life; it’s like I was so mentally unwell and brain-fogged that I’m remembering someone else’s life. I feel more awake now, but also less certain about everything.
I don’t believe your true self has anything to do with your gender. It’s about how you express yourself. You’re a female human and you can be a woman in your own way. You’re a male human and you can be a man in your own way. Your feminine and masculine traits should be integrated into the body you have. A big thing that helped me was, as weird as it sounds, talking to my "trans version" in my imagination, asking that part of me to help me find ways to express myself without changing my biology.
I do have regrets. I regret not taking care of my mental health first. I regret not questioning why I felt dysphoria instead of just accepting the first solution I was offered. If I could go back to being 19 with the knowledge I have now, I would never have taken hormones. The medical community needs to stop treating detransition as a taboo subject and include the risks and possibilities in every treatment protocol.
My thoughts on gender now are that it’s not something inherent that requires medical intervention. It’s a social concept. People who don’t follow gender rules have always existed; the problem is the belief that these people need medicine and surgeries to “be themselves.”
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 19 | Started taking testosterone. |
| Early 20s | Began to question my transition after seeing outcomes of surgery and realizing I was running from my problems. |
| 22 | Stopped testosterone and began detransitioning. |
Top Comments by /u/Candid_Vermicelli616:
Im really not trying to change anyone, but we always end up to the following act:
Me: "if trans is inherent, being detrans would make no sense." Person: "yeah, so you were not really trans" Me: " i was as trans as you are" Person: "how dare you 😧🔪"
If we don't talk abt the subject i can just ignore some of the nonsense... That's how i still have my T friends.
I must say tho, some of them are truly respectfull and nice! I mean, these are just people, the annoying ones is usually the ones too hooked up with the ideology.
Hey dude,
Yeah, I feel the same as you do, and damn, that's a really hard story to read... I hope this old friend of yours is doing okay in his afterlife. I feel so sad for him and others... It's even sadder that even talking about this like we are is viewed as hate by so many of them. This will be remembered as a huge medical default in the future.
Forget gender stuff, go treat yourself and your mind. Hormones can make your depression and anxiety stronger so maybe you should stop them for a while, that doesn't mean you should stop identifying as this or that, just give your body and mind a break.
Hope you get better and find peace in life. Strangers on the internet won't do much for u, find a good doctor and therapist, they may give you something for your mind.
Best or luck!
I went there and saw it… It’s just so, so sad. I had made a post there back when I still identified as trans, asking people if they were satisfied with their results. Honestly, most of them—I'd even say all—seemed to be lying just to cope with it.
I feel deeply sad for them. I can only imagine how awful I would feel if I had given up a perfectly normal, functioning sexual organ just to try to fit in—to mimic something that, deep down, I’m not.
It’s truly disturbing to think that they say you don’t need a vagina or a penis to be a woman or a man, yet they spend all their savings trying to obtain something that only resembles one.
I would never tell a trans-identified person who has already had bottom surgery to detransition. Honestly, they’ve gone so far—it would bring them even more grief and regret than what I experienced from just taking hormones, and this would be too much for anyone to take. It's better to be happy in delusion than sad in reality, for some...
I could not agree with you more!
People are ignorant, a lot of trans people are mentally unwell, I'm sure of it. I'm not saying they're not adults responsible for themselves, but for a doctor who did an oath to their responsibility to heal to do something in order to harm. That's crazyy.
But again, I mean, is it really the doctors? Some of them may believe they're doing good... And the trans organizations would not think twice before suing a doctor because, for some reason, people considered him transphobic. So maybe it's truly the ideology.
And sometimes I believe the ideology just came up because of gender violence. Because if we look back, people who didn’t follow gender rules have always existed — the problem may be the belief that these people need medicine and surgeries in order to “be themselves.”
glad thing you haven't done it!
I believe that phalloplasties are for us men what the vaginoplasty are for woman, cause we really know what a real one looks like so it's hard to see what that is as one... If it didn't had so many complications i think i would not be so shocked with the ammount of money people pay in order to have one.
Can you dm me those studies? I would love to read abt it. Or the name of it, so i can research it in my mother language.
Even if they have the opposite sex brain structure, would make 0 sense to have this much T id people and if medical intervetion was really so crucial, the 3⁰ sex would be a recent thing, not an ancient one.
my god, yes! This is something that upsets me the most about the ideology: It's not about freedom, it's really abt convincing people they need to take a medical treatment to cure something that's just a result of a very sexist society.
Without gender violence, if i could feel comfortable and okay as a feminine man, i don't think i would have ever transitioned and would have been spared of so much.
Hi! So, I'm new to the AGP thing, I actually saw it for the first time here.
I've seen a lot of T-ID women being freaks when it comes to kinks and etc., because testosterone really hypes them up. But for some reason, they don't get the spotlight on this subject. So I believe there is some bias when it comes to how we perceive men and women, because most people expect all men to be sexual freaks, T-ID or not. As a man, you must know how shocked people are if you have asexual or demisexual tendencies.
And about being delusional, I truly believe it’s the meds. You must have also experienced the brain fog that HRT causes in us men. While T-ID women feel more energetic and get an active (maybe even impulsive) mind, we get the opposite. This plus the echo chamber's, and bamn! A wound can be called a vagina and you'll be praised for it.
Or is just what you said ;) it seems like you have giving more attention and thinking to the idea than i did
It's hard to find Joy in being a man if you're excluded from man groups or boys groups (cause this happens in the childhood and extends to adulthood). My advice would be to find male friends and be "'"woman like"" as a man.
Joy is not in being a t woman, is in allowing yourself the self expression you need. Your feminine and masculine traits and sides should be integrated in your body in order for u to live your full experience as a full human being.
U know something cuckoo that helped me? Talking to my "trans version" or "woman version" using my imagination. I know it sounds weird, but give it a try! As for her help in expression yourself and finding joy in life regardless of your gender