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The user's comments are nuanced, emotionally consistent, and show a deep, personal engagement with the complex and often painful topics of detransition, gender ideology, and medicalization. The writing style is natural, with varied sentence structure, personal anecdotes, and responses that are directly tailored to other users' posts. The passion and occasional anger displayed are consistent with the experiences of genuine desisters and detransitioners who feel they or others have been harmed. The account expresses a clear, consistent ideology focused on the risks of medical transition and the social pressures behind it, which is a common and authentic viewpoint within the community.
About me
I started dressing as a boy and using a different name when I was ten because I was harassed and felt unsafe becoming a woman. My feelings were rooted in trauma and a deep discomfort with puberty, not a true male identity. I eventually grew out of that phase and came to fully accept myself and my body as a woman. I now live happily as a gender-nonconforming person without any medical procedures. I worry that others with similar struggles are being encouraged towards irreversible medical paths that I believe are harmful.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was very young, around 10 years old. I was physically harassed by older boys, and that experience, combined with my family's financial struggles, made me hate the idea of becoming a woman. I felt like I couldn't have the girly things I saw other girls have, so I coped by rejecting them entirely. I started dressing in baggy boys' clothes, cut my hair short, and even asked people to call me by a boy's name. I cried a lot because I didn't want to be a girl. At the time, being trans wasn't really a thing where I lived, so I never considered hormones or surgery. I just lived through that phase.
Looking back, I see now that a lot of my feelings were tied to trauma and a deep discomfort with puberty and the changes that came with it. I didn't have the words for it then, but I think I was experiencing a form of body dysmorphia and low self-esteem. I hated the thought of developing breasts and becoming a woman because it felt unsafe and limiting. I wanted to escape that reality.
Over time, I just grew out of that phase. By my late teens, I had come to fully accept myself, my feelings, and my body. I realized that I am a woman, first and foremost, but also just a human being who can have any hobbies or style I want. I love myself now, and that early period of struggle feels like a distant memory.
I've spent a lot of time in online communities, and I've seen how influential they can be. I see a lot of young people today who are going through similar feelings I had, but they are being encouraged to take hormones and get surgeries. It worries me deeply because I know that those medical procedures can cause serious health complications and leave people infertile or with reduced sexual function. I've learned from others' stories, like the detransitioner Shapeshifter on YouTube, that starting hormones can sometimes make dysphoria worse and lead to irreversible decisions.
I don't believe you can be born in the wrong body. I think we should all learn to embrace the bodies we have. You can live how you want to live—dress how you want, have the hobbies you want—without changing your body medically. I've come to believe that a lot of what drives people to transition is rooted in other issues like internalized homophobia, trauma, depression, or anxiety. For some, it might be about escapism or being influenced by online communities and friends.
I have strong opinions about medical transition, especially surgeries like bottom surgery. I've heard from many people that these procedures can result in a loss of sensation, chronic pain, and other serious complications. I think it's a form of systematic self-harm, and it breaks my heart that people are led to believe it will solve their problems.
I don't regret not transitioning medically because I found peace without it. I benefited from just letting time pass and working through my issues in a non-affirming way, meaning I didn't get medical interventions, and I'm better for it. I think society puts too much pressure on people to conform to rigid gender norms, and the idea that you need to change your body to fit in is harmful.
My thoughts on gender are that it's mostly a social construct. There's no such thing as a "male brain" or "female brain." We are all individuals who can express ourselves in countless ways without needing to medically alter our bodies. I believe in being a gender-nonconforming person—I can be a woman who dresses in a masculine way and has "male" hobbies, and that's perfectly fine.
Here is a timeline of my experiences:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 10 | Began experiencing harassment from older boys, started to hate the idea of becoming a woman. |
| 10 | Started dressing in boys' clothes, cut my hair short, and used a boy's name. |
| Late teens | Grew out of the phase, learned to accept my body and myself as a woman. |
| Now | I am at peace with myself, living as a gender-nonconforming woman without any medical interventions. |
Top Comments by /u/Chayrunissa:
Someone posted a video of a toutuber that started out being a trans-youtuber and is now detranser and doesn't believe in the trans-ideology at all.
He made a video about different types/reasons behind people being trans. He said that one type are narcissistic (men) with autogynephilia, and that really made sense to me. These men use male privelage and perceived / forced victimhood to basically force their will through. Why can't we say that operations are dangerous (these men rarely has it done). Why are detransers targeted/silenced and kicked off twitter and youtube? Why are they labeled transphobes? It makes no sense - that's how narcissists operate.
Dave Chappelle talked about his friend, a transwoman, who was bullied by the trans/lgbtq/troll community on twitter and she commited suicide. Another woman who was in the p,,n-industry didn't want to "make a film" with a man that also did gay p,,n. She was bullied on twitter, abolutely not only by trans people, but I argue that the majority were men, and she commited suicide because of it. This is only 2 persons, but I think there are many more, ans think about those who were deplatformed, think about all detransers who have been villified for speaking about their experiences.
The desire to control and punish those that don't celebrate trans-women is very narcissistic, in my opinion. That we can't even discuss actual down-sides to operations is a very telling sign that things are not logical. It's about controlling a narrative.
Interestingly we don't often hear from trans-men (born as girls), it's the trans-women (born as boys) that absolutely dominate the debate. Does anyone else see the pattern?
I think detransitioners are the most qualified to speak about these topics.
If you are comfortable maybe share your experience, but I know that's a very private matter that not everyone wants to "put out there".
But good for tou for speaking up! Maybe tou could contact the mods and explain.
Witchesvspatriarchy banned users for having posted in fourthwavewomen.
Fourthwavewomen are a radical feminist subreddit, and I suppose they oppose trans-women in female prisons and in female changing rooms. But there is no trans hate per se.
Anyway it was then posted a lot that witchesvspatriarchy is basically run by transwomen and men. Note that I did not call the transwomen men. I really don't care what people call themselves or how they live their lives, I just oppose the srs and also hrt because that hurts people and disables them.
I may also not think that transwomen should be in female prisons or changing rooms because it is too easy for predator men to pretend to be trans and gain access to victims. This has already happend.
I am so sorry.
But I looked at one of your posts where you wrote that in your opinion you will never look like a woman and they don't do ffs where you live.
But a big part of ffs is just the same surgeries women who are into that stuff have; smaller nose, a bunch of fillers. It's really no big deal.
For some people who had ffs the result is... not so good because there is almost no difference.. I don't want to write a namn here but if you want to I could dm it to you so that you can see for yourself that the ffs is not what makes it or breaks it for trans-women.
What people actually use on the internet are FILTERS! Yes, that's how deceptive this whole thing is! No one is showing their true self or what they go through, they are all drinking the kool-aid.
Don't get hanged up on "living as a man" or "living as a woman". Live as you.
And please get some support, or a lot of it, and you have probably spent a lot of time on transitioning and transactivism and transforums, and if you stop doing that it will create a vid in your life, so please make sure that you have things to do and people to visit and talk to.
And you may feel like this was a mistake, but we all make mistakes throughout our lives. So please remember that you have experiences and that your feelings are valid.
I don't know how far you came in your transition, I have never taken hrt or done surgery so maybe I won't understand your situation.
But "detransitioning" means that you are in your normal state. It can't be a mistake to be you. If a person has planned to have a cosmetic surgery, could it be a "mistake" to back out and not have it? How could it be an "obsession" to just exist as one is?
But If you feel like transition has been an obsession I encourage you to find healthy and constructive hobbies to replace the time you dedicated to transitioning and related stuff. Otherwise you will feel an emptiness just from boredom.
But even with organ transplantation patients have to take medications to supress their immunesysytem because at any time their body could start to reject the new organ. And those medications of course make the body less able to fight infections.
Your father is a wise parent. And if someone has an overalll healthy body they should be very happy.
Sorry, but I have a problem with the way you seem to try to distance yourself from people who detransitioned by writing that you don't have autism and wasn't assaulted as a child. For me that reeks of contemt and superiority, and it is also dismissive as h-ll.
Survivors are the bravest and strongest people there is.
There are many reasons people become trans. For ftm it can be about subconsciously not wanting to be an object, or that one feel limited in a female gender norm. Some people are depressed and think transitioning will help them, others want to be someone else, someone new.
You say that you like to dress like a boy and have short hair. Have you researched the affect t has on the body?
Body hair and muscles is one thing. Losing hair and having constant pain from the vagina is another thing, some transmen have had their vagina tear and bleed because the walls of the vagina get so thin and fragile on t. Is that something you could live with?
Everyone are free to do what they want, but the way you describe detransitioners tells me that you spend a lot of time in trans-forums and have a negative view on detransitioners.
I think it is a warning flag that you feel punched if someone calls you a girl or "she". People could call me man, woman, even idiot. I wouldn't care, because I know who I am.
It looks like one of those taxi-interview docs, it was like realityshows popular 20 years ago. A taxi is equipped with cameras, and people (were probably hand-picked by the producers) got in and just started talking. I guess the concept was that some people just trauma-dump on the chauffeur. But there could also be like couples discussing or whatever.
Found it: https://m.imdb.com/title/tt0114639/
Taxi cab confessions
I am very happy that you have your grandmother's support and unconditional love. That is a wonderful thing.
One thing that makes me concerned is that you overvalue girls' abilities and differences compared to boys'. You write that school seems to be easy for girls and that you struggle, but transitioning is not going to suddenly change school for you or your grades or motivation or executive function.
Taking hrt will not help any of these issues you are describing, maybe not even dysphoria, hrt could even make dysphoria worse (some detrans-men on youtube have described this, but I suppose every person has their experience).
I am going to give an advice that also is a fundamental advice for mental health - especially for people with adhd: working out does reduce stress and anxiety, and makes it easier to focus. It doesn't have to be anything expensive or difficult.
I would explore more what happened 3 years ago that made you start feeling like you were a girl.
You write about such important topics.
What you wrote about not being good enough was in my childhood "there is no money for that" and I think that as a coping mechanism that turned into hatred for girly things. "No I want to dress like this, I hate the girls' section, it's just stupid, I don't want makeup or hair-curlers". In my case it was also about being physically harassed by older boys at a very young age, 10 or so. So it turned me into not wanting to beecome a woman. I hated the thought of it, I cried so many times because I didn't want to be a woman or a girl. I have written in another post that on top of dressing like a skater-dude(baggy style, boys' clothes), I also cut my hair and told people to call me by a boy's name.
Anyway, trans was not a thing back then, at least not where I lived. So I just grew out of it and there was never any talk about hrt or surgery. And I love myself today. I also have some male "hobbies". I have a very strong womanhood inside me. I am a woman, when and if it matters. But at first and foremost I am a human being.
I think that in a perfect world kids get to try several hobbies, sports, tech, arts. And in a perfect world there is enough money to try out different styles and self-expression. And they should be allowed to do so.
Why am I so stuck on detrans-issues? Well I don't know what the word gender-dysphoria means and I can not relate when people write that they feel gender dysphoria, but I remember crying for a few years because I didn't want to be a girl or become a woman. Maybe that is what dysphoria is? I honestly don't know. But as I have written there were issues I was not able to deal with on my own. My parents, whom I love, had their own issues and their own trauma from their childhood.
But what matters is that none of that is in any way a part of my life now. I came to fully accept me, my feelings, my body. And that happened before I was adult, or around the time of late teen-years.
Right now some people are going through harmful hormone-treatments and irreversable operations so when they come out from the dysphoria they have a whole other set of problems to deal with.
And as an adult- I am just going to put it out there plainly written - a healthy s-xlife is something that every person has the right to choose. If someone has surgery on the genitals and that injures nerves, then that is just not okay. I learned here on this detrans-forum that the cervix has a role in female sexual function, I had no idea honestly, and women who have had (unnecessary) hysterectomies have in some cases lost their cervix for nothing and that has a negative effect.
Sorry for the rant, but this post just opened so many memories.