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About me
I was a young lesbian who didn't fit in, and I was groomed online by males who convinced me I had to transition to be loved. I started testosterone at 16, but I later realized my dysphoria was just internalized homophobia and a normal reaction to being a gender non-conforming female. The transgender community felt like a cult that isolated me and harassed me when I first questioned my transition. I have since detransitioned and accepted that I am, and always was, a woman. I am planning to move away after I graduate to start my life over completely fresh.
My detransition story
My whole journey started when I was just 13. I was a girl who didn't fit in, a lesbian who was gender non-conforming, and I was sexually harassed and threatened online for years by trans-identified males. They convinced me that I couldn't just be a masculine lesbian. They told me that to be happy, or even to be loved, I had to transition. By the time I was 16, I was completely indoctrinated and I started taking testosterone.
Looking back, I see now that a lot of what I called "dysphoria" was actually a completely normal reaction to growing up as a gender non-conforming homosexual female in a sexist and homophobic society. I think the cure for my "gender dysphoria" was never "transition." It was about accepting that I could just be a GNC lesbian. I had a lot of internalised homophobia that I didn't recognise at the time.
The transgender community I was in felt very cult-like. Once you're in it, it takes over your entire life. You're not allowed to question anything. When I first started having doubts about my transition in 2023, I was even open to talking to other detransitioners who were still "pro-trans." Just for that, I was threatened and harassed online by a major Twitter account with thousands of followers. The community keeps you isolated. Everything you post is scrutinised, and if you step out of line, you get dogpiled by the very people who were supposed to be your advocates.
Leaving the ideology behind was the hardest part. Even now, some people keep calling me "he" after I've told them I've accepted being female again. They tell me I'm just repressing, but I'm not. I've accepted that sex cannot be changed. What helped me most in my detransition was realising that what other people think doesn't matter. I am female, a woman, and I always have been. Having lasting effects from the hormones doesn't change that.
I was heavily influenced online, and I want to warn parents about that. I was groomed in online spaces, especially in the "furry" community. There's a really disturbing overlap between transgenderism, the furry community, kink, and pedophilia. It's a cesspit that preys on vulnerable kids by convincing them it's just about cartoon animal art. I saw it happen to me and to so many others. It's not a safe place.
I deeply regret transitioning. I wish my parents had stopped me from starting hormones at 16. I'm just waiting to graduate and move away from everyone who knew me during that time, so I can start over completely fresh where it feels safer.
My thoughts on gender now are simple: I don't believe in gender ideology anymore. I believe we are our sex, and that's it. We should be free to express ourselves however we want without being told we have to change our bodies.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | I was first indoctrinated and groomed online by trans-identified males. I started believing I had to transition to be happy. |
| 16 | I started taking testosterone (HRT). |
| Around 23 (2023) | I first started having serious doubts about my transition and was harassed for talking to other detransitioners. |
| Present Day | I have detransitioned. I accept that I am a female and a lesbian. I am planning to move away after I graduate to start a new life. |
Top Comments by /u/Chimeraaaaaas:
I’ve had a lot of them straight-up keep calling me ‘he’ or a ‘guy’ even AFTER I’ve been upfront that I have accepted my femaleness and no longer believe in ‘gender’ ideology. I’ve been told that I’m just ‘repressing it’ when nah, I’m just actually accepting that sex cannot be changed and that a lot of my ‘dysphoria’ was just. A completely normal reaction to growing up as a gnc homosexual female is a sexist, patriarchal, and homophobic society
Well, I was sexually harassed and threatened by TIMs for YEARS - and convinced that I could not JUST be a GNC lesbian, but instead that I HAD to transition to be ‘happy’, or even just. To be loved. I was 13 when the indoctrination first started, and by 16? I was fully into it and had started HRT. It wasn’t fair.
No, because the cure for ‘gender dysphoria’ clearly was NOT ‘transition’, from what I’ve experienced… it’s accepting gender non-conformity and/or homosexuality. A lot of my ‘dysphoria’ could’ve been managed had I realized that I could just be a GNC lesbian.
I feel like I was kept extremely isolated in the ‘community’ bc it was REALLY looked down upon to talk to anybody outside of it or with a different perspective - and everything posted or commented would be looked through and if ANYTHING was out of line, you were at risk of being completely dogpiled by your own supposed ‘advocates’. Idk
I’m so sorry - I’d suggest checking and seeing if she’s on social media(?) because that’s how it started for me, specifically with two transwimmin grooming me sexually online.
But please for the love of god do not let her get on puberty blockers, hormones, or get surgery. I wish my parents had stopped me from starting hormones at 16.
I wouldn’t take the phone away entirely but I would block her from social media. Maybe let her find some forums for her interests or hobbies? There’s generally less of the whole transgenderism rhetoric on those!
Also, please please please keep her out of the ‘furry’ community. That place is a cesspit of pedophiles who prey on children by convincing them that it just means ‘cartoon animal art’. I draw animals bc I think animals are neat, but I left the furry community long ago bc I got groomed so many times, and saw it happen to numerous others.
There’s an… interesting overlap between transgenderism, the furry community, kink, and pedophilia. And that’s no place for a vulnerable kid to be in
YEAH! Like in 2023-ish when I first started having doubts abt my ‘transition’, I was very firm in supporting “pro-trans” detransitioners. Even just being OPEN to hanging around them got me threatened, ‘called out’ by a major Twitter acct with 20k+ followers, and harassed.
Thank you, this means a lot to me - and yes, I agree abt the whole ‘wanting what they cannot ever have’ sentiment!
I think the hardest part is 100% just. Leaving the whole ideology behind. Once you’re ’in it’ it practically takes over your entire life, and any questioning of that rhetoric causes severe shaming and isolation… it really WAS rather cult-like.
Ah I think that could be great but I kinda just want to start over, completely fresh - I have like a yr left of school before I graduate, and afterwards I’ll be moving somewhere else, away from it all. At this point I’m just waiting to start again, where it’ll feel safer, and nobody I knew from this period in my life can bother me about… all of it, I guess?
Hi! A lot of what helped me most in my detransition was that I realized that what OTHERS think… it does not matter. You are female, a woman, and you have always been - having lasting effects from HRT doesn’t change that, bc you are female. If others read you as ‘male’ or refer to you as such, well… that’s on them, but just remember that you know what you are.
Adding onto that, many detransitioned women also are able to ‘pass’ again in terms of voice - maybe try to do vocal training, but very slowly, not all at once? It might help you feel less dysphoric abt it!